Being Shared

Pretty_kitty169

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I was recently shared, while my husband watched. We have talked about him being shared but that thought kills me. How can I work on this. I feel selfish since I was able to play and have fun and I wont let him..
Why is this? He gets turned on by the thought of me f***ing someone else. When I think of him with another woman it makes me want to give a beat down.. :devil:

Looking for advice..
 
I was recently shared, while my husband watched. We have talked about him being shared but that thought kills me. How can I work on this. I feel selfish since I was able to play and have fun and I wont let him..
Why is this? He gets turned on by the thought of me f***ing someone else. When I think of him with another woman it makes me want to give a beat down.. :devil:

Looking for advice..

It is a common disconnect for some people, although we tend to say it's men and not women, but it varies by individual. Some people are clearly able to separate love from sex. Although they may go together well, for some of us, we don't always need one without the other. Besides, it is your hubby's fantasy to see you with others. It has probably been bouncing around his head for a long time. It has not been bouncing around your head. Would it be less threatening if you had sex with him, but another woman got to touch him? That may be a starting off point, but there is no crime if it is something that is just one of your hard boundaries.
 
I was recently shared, while my husband watched. We have talked about him being shared but that thought kills me. How can I work on this. I feel selfish since I was able to play and have fun and I wont let him..
Why is this? He gets turned on by the thought of me f***ing someone else. When I think of him with another woman it makes me want to give a beat down.. :devil:

Looking for advice..

Allow yourself to be shared so much that you feel guilty he is not getting an equal chance. Then you will change your mind
 
I was recently shared, while my husband watched. We have talked about him being shared but that thought kills me. How can I work on this. I feel selfish since I was able to play and have fun and I wont let him..
Why is this? He gets turned on by the thought of me f***ing someone else. When I think of him with another woman it makes me want to give a beat down.. :devil:

Looking for advice..

Did your husband indicate that he would also like to play with other women at the time you discussed you being shared, if I may ask?
 
I joke (but it's half serious), that my husband would rather watch another guy fuck me, than fuck me himself.......and he has watched a lot of guys fuck me
 
My wife

I understand your point. It's not your fantasy to see your husband fuck another woman but your husband gets off on your laid by other men. You're not obliged to "allow" your husband to have sex with another woman.

I'm in the same boat. I'd love it if another man fucked my wife again. But I know she 'd be crushed if I had sex with another woman.
 
I was recently shared, while my husband watched. We have talked about him being shared but that thought kills me. How can I work on this. I feel selfish since I was able to play and have fun and I wont let him..
Why is this? He gets turned on by the thought of me f***ing someone else. When I think of him with another woman it makes me want to give a beat down.. :devil:

Looking for advice..

Just be honest. As long as your playing wasn't conditional on him getting to play to, then he'll just have to live with it. Your feelings are very important. Maybe you'll eventually be ready to explore that, but in the meantime, don't feel guilty about the freedom he's giving you. I'm sure he's enjoying it as well!
 
before my divorce....we were swingers and my hubby did watch other guys screw me at parties we went to......and he knew most times they were shooting up me too........
 
it all comes back to complete (and sometimes brutal) honesty with each other... ground rules must be set and adhered to, and you must be able to talk about the emotions that pop up...
 
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