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Getting my bottom ready for anal

Gypsy_Lis said:
No way! I love it. I was just saying for the others if they are not trying hard enough to give anal sex another chance. (Sorry about that---oops, my bad!!)

Gypsy_Lis :rose:
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Whew! I'd hate to think people actually believed pussy was boring!
 
1_hotlilmomma said:
My husband really wants to be able to make love to my bottom. I love it when he plays with it orally and with one finger. But when he tries to put himself inside of me it hurts unless I'm playing with myself...which is fine, but as soon as I orgasm it starts hurting again. Please tell me how I can get my bottom used to longer times of penetration. And him being able to move inside of my bottom. This is my first post, so I'm sorry if I'm not doing this correctly.

I would love feedback asap, since our kids are gone for springbreak and we can practice as much as we'd like!
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Well, that was fun. I got introduced to anal sex by my angry boyfriend after his team lost to their rivals. Or should I say I got introduced to angry sex, lol. It was hot. Hurt for some time, though. Now, I try it often and it's fun. Better than vaginal if you ask me.
 
I've found that if I allow my partner to be in control of the movement during anal sex, especially at the very beginning, she enjoys it much more. I would allow her to put it in and control its entry - that way she can stop if it hurts or adjust to make it more comfortable. It's also incredibly sexy to feel her work it inside slowly, eventually grinding down on it - that's when you know she's enjoying it (very HOT)! It also helps change her mindset - she is allowing it inside of her instead it trying to get inside of her, if that makes sense, so she can relax a bit more and it makes for an easier entry.

I prefer slow strokes with anal, and my partners have agreed - not only is it less painful for her, but it is more intimate and much more pleasurable for both.

This is my two cents, anyways. I hope it helps! Best of luck on your adventure. The discovery and exploration of something new like this is always the best!

Of course I'm not cursed with a huge package, either, so anal is much easier and less painful with me; I'm sure that has helped too. ;)
 
Cloaked_One said:
I've found that if I allow my partner to be in control of the movement during anal sex, especially at the very beginning, she enjoys it much more. I would allow her to put it in and control its entry - that way she can stop if it hurts or adjust to make it more comfortable. It's also incredibly sexy to feel her work it inside slowly, eventually grinding down on it - that's when you know she's enjoying it (very HOT)! It also helps change her mindset - she is allowing it inside of her instead it trying to get inside of her, if that makes sense, so she can relax a bit more and it makes for an easier entry.
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This is how we do it initially too, but I'd never thought of these psychological aspects of the woman being in charge of movement. It'll add a new element next time. :cool:
 
SweetErika said:
This is how we do it initially too, but I'd never thought of these psychological aspects of the woman being in charge of movement. It'll add a new element next time. :cool:
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90% of the game is half mental... :D
 
SweetErika said:
This is how we do it initially too, but I'd never thought of these psychological aspects of the woman being in charge of movement. It'll add a new element next time. :cool:
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I don't like being in charge in bed....I am in charge practically everywhere else...in the bedroom....I let go....and enjoy the ride. I usually feel so GREAT afterwards that my friends swear I have an afterglow. It's more fun for me that way. Brings balance to my life, ya know ? I'm co-manager of a book/video store and I run a tight ship, as they say. I also practically run the GLBT Alliance at school. Yes, I kinda know what power and responsibility feel like....but when I come home to my guy, I'm just a girl and that's how I like it.
 
Okay..... You guys are going to laugh on reading some parts, but it is my real life experience.

In my early twenties, I had girlfriend who loved anal sex. In fact, I suspect she preferred the rear entry to the front door entrance. With her, it was just a little baby oil or body lotion (olive oil if we were in the kitchen), and you could drive home banging away merrily.

Fast forward four years .... one passing affair and my marriage to a sweet wonderful lady...

About six months into the marriage, I tried to steer my wife towards anal sex. I started by reaming her asshole, which she loved ..... put my pinkie in her backdoor while I ate her etc... Being smart, she caught on and offered to give it a try :) .With my earlier experience in mind, I used a little lube and tried to shove it in. It really hurt her and I could see tears in her eyes. So I just stopped mentioning anal sex thereafter (apart from that occasional pinkie)

Fast forward eight years and two kids .....

My wife and her sister (couple of years older than her) are very close and talk to each other on phone almost everyday. One morning we received a parcel from her which contained a tapered polished steel tube about six inches long and 1/2 inch to 3/4 inch in diameter. Surprised, I asked my wife about it and this is what came out.....

"A year back, my sis-in law had a minor case of piles and the doctor had suggested surgery. Scared of surgery and being a believer in natural healing and alternative medicine, she had consulted some expert who had suggested the following :

a) Stretch your asshole by using the tube above (the damn thing was for stretching assholes !!!) and the herbal cream he had given her.

b) Do 'Gudachalan'. Now, 'gudachalan' is genuinely an exercise in yoga / tantra. It is supposed to purify and enlighten your 'chakras' apart from helping in hernia, prostrate and uterus problems and helps men in holding their discharge during sex!!!
It is performed by alternately sucking in and pushing out your anus (guda) rapidly.

Wonder of wonders, these things had worked and my sister-in-law had got rid of
those piles after six months."

My wife told me that her asshole had been itching since past four days and she was having trouble pooping. She had told her sister about this on phone who had promptly bought and sent an 'asshole stretcher' for her (the parcel)

My wife religiously followed her sister's advice for a couple of months. For me, it was fun (and arousing)to watch her working the thing in and out of her butt.

One night, she said that her anus was a little itchy and could I please rub a little cream on it. I took this as an opportunity for sex and told her OK, but that I was going to use my penis to rub it in. She agreed and turned to her side lifting her gown. Naturally I had a hard on when I started rubbing it in. Soon I got hornier and started applying a bit of pressure. Suddenly, the head of my cock popped inside her asshole. Both of us looked at each other in surprise and I asked her if it hurt. She just smiled, turned back and told me to go slow :)

Moral of the story:
1. Use the 'asshole stretcher', as many have suggested.
2. Practice 'Gudachalan'. We think it helped.
3. Do it on your side. That way you can control the pressure applied in a better way.

Hope it helps :)
 

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I have to agree with the asshole stretcher.
Bf and I invested in a butt plug and it was worth it the very first time we used it, definately a good thing. :cathappy:
 
cfuhrer said:
I have to agree with the asshole stretcher.
Bf and I invested in a butt plug and it was worth it the very first time we used it, definately a good thing. :cathappy:
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Buttplugs and other toys of small size are a good way to get a guy to try it out, too. Because what's good for the goose.... :D
 
become comfortable with thought of anal play/sex??

My partner and I just got married last Saturday. We've been together 8 years now. We've been living on our own now for a little over a year. Although our sex life has been better than ever since we've lived with each other, my wife now is toying with the idea of anal play/sex. I'm slightly disgusted by the idea. My wife showed me websites discussing why it's not. I would really appreciate some of you advising me on how I could get over my phobia. Thanks!!
 
active or passive?

Well are we talking about your anus or your wife's anus. There are several threads on this board as well as the BDSM board and I think the general board as well. Being willing to try something new (as evidenced by your post) is the first step. You are very lucky to be able to communicate openly with your wife about sex. Not every couple has that benefit. So now you've taken two huge steps. Being able to discuss it and being willing to explore it. The only advise I can offer now is to take it slow. Read the anal threads and find your comfort level. Start with showers together where you get to use plenty of soap and make sure you're both nice and clean. Enemas are always an option but I have found them to be more trouble than they are worth. Relax, start with fingers, plenty of lube and see where the road leads. Have fun.
 
LMAO-
My gander has also expressed interest in playing fair.
 
LadyJeanne

Or go through one of those checklists the BDSM folks use, and mark down the things that are ok and the things that are off-limits.
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Okay I'm new, and never seen one? Where might I find one?

I know about the counselling, its just not an option for me right now, but we're engaged and I really do want things to work out. =/
 
LadyJeanne said:
Here's a couple, but you can Google "BDSM check list" and get a bunch of links.
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Thanks, I was just getting ready to ask about them myself.
 
A few things:

1) Men should ALWAYS use a condom when doing anal. Failing to do so can lead to urinary tract infections. Men don't have experience with this and, if untreated, can lead to a kidney infection and WORSE! Even if you flush with an enema (also a good idea), a condom is a necessity.

2) I love anal. The very first time my wife and I made love, long before we were married, it included anal. I knew it was never her favorite thing, but she wasn't suffering from it. Shortly after we got married, she told me that it felt degrading. We've not done it since. I felt a bit misled by that.

3) I've been penetrated. With proper lubing it is uncomfortable at first, getting stretched out and all, but it isn't what I'd call painful. The angle is very important, though.

xoxo

srw
 
I hope this isn't too off topic, but I'm a strong advocate of girls fucking their guys. It's a very odd sensation at first, but intensely sensual. I purchased a toy for my g/f called the Feeldoe. It's a silicone dildo with a bulb on one end that the girl inserts into her pussy. It's like using a strap-on, but without the straps/harnesses. It works in a way that gives the girl pleasure while she fucks the guy. Just seeing her wearing it was hot enough, but with plenty of lube and patience, (just like when I give her anal) the sex was very hot, and she really got into it. We do it a few times a month like that now. I highly recommend the Feeldoe, but you can use any regular strap-on if you like. Enjoy!
 
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