Stage 3 Kidney Disease and ED

LaOrca

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I was wordering and hoping if any gentlemen or ladies could give me feedback on this topic. My partner and I have been together a little over six months (though we've known eachother quite a while) and we are both very much in love. The problem is, however, that he is 57 with stage 3 kidney disease and we haven't been able to have intercourse yet due to his inability to keep an erection once a condom goes on. I beleve that while the condom is part of the issue, there is possibly the kidney health at play too. He gets very aroused and maintains an erection and climaxes from oral so I know that he can indeed get hard. I had to go off my birth control pills for several reasons so unfortunately, we need that condom on.
He has considered getting a vastecomy done if it is just the condom creating the issue but with the kidney disease and prostate enlargement he had in the past (had a TURP procedure too), I can't help but feel that there is more medically stopping the erection. His health is much more important to me than anything but if there were safe methods to assist the situation, I'd certainly want them explored. I've read that pumps can be good options. Of course, he will also talk to his doctor.
Has anyone else had this issue and if so, what worked? Again, his health is top priority and foreplay is great but we'd both prefer the best lovemaking possible.
 
Use a diaphragm

I was wordering and hoping if any gentlemen or ladies could give me feedback on this topic. My partner and I have been together a little over six months (though we've known eachother quite a while) and we are both very much in love. The problem is, however, that he is 57 with stage 3 kidney disease and we haven't been able to have intercourse yet due to his inability to keep an erection once a condom goes on. I beleve that while the condom is part of the issue, there is possibly the kidney health at play too. He gets very aroused and maintains an erection and climaxes from oral so I know that he can indeed get hard. I had to go off my birth control pills for several reasons so unfortunately, we need that condom on.
He has considered getting a vastecomy done if it is just the condom creating the issue but with the kidney disease and prostate enlargement he had in the past (had a TURP procedure too), I can't help but feel that there is more medically stopping the erection. His health is much more important to me than anything but if there were safe methods to assist the situation, I'd certainly want them explored. I've read that pumps can be good options. Of course, he will also talk to his doctor.
Has anyone else had this issue and if so, what worked? Again, his health is top priority and foreplay is great but we'd both prefer the best lovemaking possible.

Get fitted for a diaphragm
 
He also needs to talk to his Urologist. If he is OK with it I would suggest you both be there when he for his appoint mo you will understand what the doctor tells him. My wife is always with me for almost every doctors meetings so we both understand what is going on.

Two sets of ears are always better than one.
 
LaOrca,
WAIT!!! I didn't catch your age, but a Vasectomy is SO non-reversible!! If you two DO end up wanting kids, you do NOT want your husband getting a Vasectomy!! I could not risk my life due to accidentally getting pregnant due to health issues back then when we faced similar issues in that respect that you two have going on right now, too (having to use condoms - YUCK!) so that is the ONLY reason my husband got his Vasectomy, too.
HERE IS ONE EASY-PEASY ANSWER WITHOUT HIM HAVING TO GET A VASECTOMY!!! "YOU" can get the "DEPO-PROVERA" SHOT!!! Granted you may not be getting close to age 40, and if that is the case, you will have to discuss it with a Specialist, your OB/GYN. Please do NOT go to a regular family doctor or a Primary Care Physician because they do NOT KNOW all the risks, etc., even though they THINK they do!! It's a shot you have to get every 3 months in the muscle of your butt (I used to get this done, but it got to the point where my age started to get in the way and just like the pill, stroke and heart attack can become an issue when using this or using the pill, well, ANY type of hormones for that matter. I never could use the pill as it gave me MAJOR migraines! The Depo-Provera shot was a LIFE SAVER!!! I LOVED it!!! It an add an additional 5 to 10lbs onto your weight, though. That is the ONLY downfall! I LOVED the FREEDOM of eventually NOT HAVING PERIODS ANYMORE, TOO!!! YES! They DO go away while you are on this shot!!! AWESOME!!!! This shot made me feel SO FREE, sexually!!!! I LOVED IT!!!!!!
There is another option, too, and that is an IUD. Yes, they DO have MUCH SAFER ones now, ones that have barely ANY side effects, too! My sister-in-law had one. It did not affect my brother, meaning he never felt it when they were making love, so she said.
At least there are options that are not so permanent for the two of you UNLESS you WANT permanent!! Good luck with that!!!
The Vasectomy was a BREEZE for him to have done as compared to us women where it is a MAJOR surgery!!! Bless his heart if he is willing to do that for you because that is why mine did it for me!! I had/have enough health problems every day (fighting muscle spasms) so he did it specifically so I didn't have to go under! However, your guy is going through a LOT of health issues, and I have to agree with you that there has to be MORE wrong with him health wise for him to NOT be able to get it up at ALL! I agree with you that MORE seems to be going on with him health wise, so make SURE he ONLY sees Specialists!!! NO Family Doctors NOR Primary Care Physicians. He probably needs to see a Urologist. If he has Diabetes, I know that is an erection KILLER! I have a feeling that is MY husband's problem! YES, unfortunately Diabetes REALLY plays havoc in anyone's life who has it as it does cause so many MORE problems than JUST the Diabetes. Just a SCOUNDREL up above gave you EXCELLENT advice in telling you to go INTO the room with your man when he goes to see the doctor, and vice versa when you go. My husband and I both do that, especially with me because I have a pretty severe muscle disease, and I HAVE missed telling my doctor things OR ASKING questions!!! I do that all to often, but that is when he speaks up!! That is when my husband speaks up and either reminds me to say or ask it, or he will just do it!! I've had this illness now for 12 years and I don't know where I would be without him going into ALL of my doctor appointments with me!!
Anyway, my mother was diabetic which is why I 'seem' to know so much about diabetes. Sounds like your guy needs a FULL blood panel drawn up. I'm surprised they never checked because of his kidney problem??? Diabetes can kill your kidneys, too. If they have NOT checked, it's time for you to change his doctors!!! This sounds SO much like Diabetes which is why the Doctor CHANGE NEEDS to be done!! That should have been the FIRST thing they looked for!! But I don't know his entire health history and don't need to know as that is between you two, but I know Diabetes can do that to the kidneys, too. I don't ant He should also get his testosterone levels checked, too. That is a little "iffy" as to whether or not testosterone levels are "true answers" to men's ED issues - do a search about that online. You'll learn a LOT about that! Also look up (and "I" need to do the SAME thing!!!) is to look up "OTHER HEALTH ISSUES THAT CAUSE A MAN TO HAVE ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION", and Diabetes is WAY UP THERE!!! You and I are going to learn a LOT when we do some searching on the computer!!! I guarantee it!!!!! You KNOW your man, AND HE knows himself, so do your research online while he's home and you can ask him questions. WHO CARES IF HE GETS UPSET!!! My husband WILL get mad at me when I go to do this, BUT IT ALSO AFFECTS ME!!! I love him and want the BEST for him, BUT I ALSO DON'T GET ANY LOVING, EITHER!!! IT DOES MATTER TO ME, TOO!!!
I/We are ALSO going through the SAME problem! He is 58 and has high blood pressure, but now he is at the point where he cannot get hard AT ALL! For the last 2 YEARS we've been unable to have ANY sex whatsoever! NONE! We are at the point he won't even TRY!!! We have ZERO intimacy!! NONE!!!!!!!! Drives me insane!!!!!!! TRY going for 2 YEARS WITH NO SEX!!!!!!! I've BEEN GETTING MEAN!!!!!!!!!!!
Right before it went completely away, he was able to get hard (but it took a LOT of work! WOW!!!) He could take Cialis (is ALL insurance would cover) and he would get hard, BUT, he would ONLY be able to enter me, and POW! He would come INSTANTLY! It was as if once we got over the ED THEN he had the opposite problem of Pre-Ejaculation! UGH!!!!!! We are NOWHERE NEAR FIXED. He is going to get a NEW prescription for Cialis or WHATEVER!!!!!!! I am also wondering if he is a little bored with me?? Trying a little porn out, too. (Right now as we speak he is at the hospital getting his blood tested for EVERYTHING!!!!!!) Once that comes back HOPEFULLY we'll know more!!!
IF he is bored with me, then maybe I'll ask him if we can introduce NEW sexual things into our relationship. Seriously. I'LL DO ANYTHING OR WHATEVER IT TAKES TO KEEP HIM!!! I LOVE HIM SERIOUSLY AND I WANT HIM!!! I've always been turned on by some things HE WOULD NEVER ask for, so I AM TAKING THE BULL BY THE HORNS AND AM GOING TO START ASKING AWAY!!!!
I DESERVE to have him think of ME and give ME some pleasure, especially given the amount of time I HAVE tried to help him with his problem!! Not even that, but just TRYING to help him get hard, and KNOWING I will NEVER get ANYTHING, EVER!!! I WAS GETTING LIVID AT HIM!!!!!!!!! I don't mean to sound selfish, not at ALL! But, PLEASE!!!! This does bother me very much. It starts to make me think I am going to live the rest of my life without EVER having sex again! He does not realize how MUCH this bothers me! I HAVE turned to porn online, and for the time being, it IS helping me at least get to masturbate BY MYSELF!!! I have not been brave enough to tell him I AM doing this with the help of the computer, but there are only so many fantasies you can think up of on your own!) I am thinking of a TON of things to try, even a threesome!!! I have always wanted to try that out!!! I AM turned on by a LOT of things, and NOW IS THE TIME to bring them up with him! What if he IS bored with me a little bit? "I" use toys, and I DO want HIM to use a PUMP!!! He has blown me off, but in SOME of my research, YES!!! A PUMP DOES WORK!!!! Look it up while you're doing your research, bring it up to him, and he might NOT LIKE IT!!! BUT . . . YOU NEED SOME KIND OF SEX LIFE TOGETHER!!!!!! IT'S EVERYTHING IN A RELATIONSHIP!!!! We are sexual beings, some of us more than others, so you MUST NOT AVOID SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP AT ALL UNLESS YOU "DO" WANT A DIVORCE!!!!!!!
Good luck! Keep us updated!!! PM me if you want to talk further about this!! I will most likely lose this thread, and I'd LOVE to know how you two do and help in ANY way that I can!!
I wish you the BEST!!!!!!!!!!!! You NEED IT!!!!
 
IDK if I can catch a lawsuit for disclosing this but anytime dye is present in a scan you're probably being subjected to irreversible harm.

Anytime a test like this is done your partner should consume sodium bicarbonate mixed with dyhydrogen monoxide.
Obviously this will not solve the problem but it will slow down further damage done by dyes.

Source: I'm an overpaid nursing specialist writing papers on this topic.

(How are your partners adrenal glands?)
 
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