Suggestive Signals: with your SO, what might you say or do to initiate some intimacy?

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OK people play with the idea of pick-up lines with people they hardly know.
But how about your Significant Other, the person with whom you have made love often? How do you kindle a flame of interest in intimacy? and in which contexts?

I'll start off with what I said and did earlier.
We'd been working hard outside sawing and axing for our wood burning stove. We came in for a short break. I put my arms around her shoulders and looked into her eyes and said, "If my woman needs a man anytime soon, there's one who's willing!"

So, soon after we finished for lunch and she's gone for a lie down, but not before telling me that she'd love to be filled up with what I've got after she's had a rest.

There's my first post then. What has worked nicely for you?
 
Before we had kids, it only took a kiss on the cheek, and then we were naked in the bed or on the couch. When the kids came along, we had to schedule our sex, and the signal became, “The kids are in bed, fix me a drink.” Now that they are out of the house, we have unlimited opportunities, but our bodies can’t take the frequency. Our signals now are: “Wanta fool around?” or “How about some mad, passionate sex?” or “Do you wanta make love or just lie here and talk about how good it once was?”
 
With an ex

Looks like rain... Eg. Getting wet/hard.
The beauty of it was it could be said in any situation and in front of others.
Our way of letting the other know you were thinking of sex...

Sure on a sunny day others thought you were mad but it didn't matter
 
We have some candles in the bedroom, which cast a beautiful light for intimacy - flattering, shadowy, but enough light to see and be seen. And these are known as 'the fucking candles'....

So if one of us says 'Shall I light the fucking candles?', it's a clear statement of intent :devil:

(I should point out, though, that for comedic effect, the intonation is sometimes more to stress the 'candles' than the 'fucking'... :rolleyes:)
 
My thanks to the first four posters here! :)

Before we had kids, it only took a kiss on the cheek, and then we were naked in the bed or on the couch. When the kids came along, we had to schedule our sex, and the signal became, “The kids are in bed, fix me a drink.” Now that they are out of the house, we have unlimited opportunities, but our bodies can’t take the frequency. Our signals now are: “Wanta fool around?” or “How about some mad, passionate sex?” or “Do you wanta make love or just lie here and talk about how good it once was?”
great how 'fool around' can sum it up for people really familiar with each other
Looks like rain... Eg. Getting wet/hard.
The beauty of it was it could be said in any situation and in front of others.
Our way of letting the other know you were thinking of sex...

Sure on a sunny day others thought you were mad but it didn't matter
I like it! I like the idea of you saying that in the hearing of others on a blue sky day! :)
I forgot to put my gun in my pocket.
Not, "I remembered to put my gun in my pocket"? :D
We have some candles in the bedroom, which cast a beautiful light for intimacy - flattering, shadowy, but enough light to see and be seen. And these are known as 'the fucking candles'....

So if one of us says 'Shall I light the fucking candles?', it's a clear statement of intent :devil:

(I should point out, though, that for comedic effect, the intonation is sometimes more to stress the 'candles' than the 'fucking'... :rolleyes:)
I'm guessing your man has to really concentrate to get the stress onto the candles ... ;)
 
Bumping with another of ours:

When we were young and coy we had a signal. One would draw a circle with one finger on the palm of the hand of the other. This would be secret, perhaps while holding hands walking along. I remember learning to 'read' it: a really pressed in drive of a circle and she'd be desperate for it, and dripping wet by the time the opportunity arose; just a light touch circle and she'd be saying, 'wanna play with me? I'm game!'

Why don't we do that anymore? Perhaps because we are much more free about sayin' how it is, straight out!
 
Here's another couple of ours.

When we've been away from home, the first fuck back in our own bed almost seems like reclaiming our real lives, however great the trip has been, and however lovely the sex away from home, it's kind of special to begin real life again with a good fuck at home. And I'm not entirely sure what words we actually use to express the desire to do this - have a weekend trip coming up, so I'll try to make a mental note when we get back :rolleyes:

And the other use of the word 'reclaim' is when one of us has been away solo. And it's not a reclaiming 'from' anyone or anything, more a delightful restablishment of the physical expression of the mental and emotional bond, I suppose.

But I can't tell you how arousing it is to hear my man growling that he's going to reclaim me... *shivers*
 
I need this thread. Taking notes.
My "wanna do it?" never brings good results.
A few nights ago while laying on seperate ends of the couch, he asked for me to come cuddle close. I didn't get the hit.
"Damnit, woman, get over here so I can break off a piece!"
Yes, Sir! Right away, Sir! :D
 
Worth noting on the thread that just sometimes there's no signal at all!
A good-night kiss in bed at the end of a really demanding day, two weary people, and it becomes more than that ... and then more than that ...
and afterwards you're saying to each other, "How did that happen?" :)
 
we generally just start masturbating in front of each other. we call it THE SHOW.
but in a public setting, we can say to each other, "do you want to go to the show?"
 
Here's one that usually seems to happen when we've been working together at a customer site and get back to the hotel room at the end of a long day. After a little relaxing time she will glance over at me and say:

"Might you be going for a shave?!"

Knowing exactly what this means (that my beard growth would be uncomfortable for her when I inevitably demand to suck her clit!) I dutifully head off to the bathroom to shave...

...and reliably, by the end of my shave I am sporting an impressive erection! :D
 
I go "Sex?"
And she goes "Yep."

Or vice versa. We're very romantic about it all as you can tell.
 
It's either I wrap my arms around her from behind kissing the side of her neck growling. Or she lightly bites my bottom lip tugging then licking it with a soft purr. It's rarely spoken words.
 
It was rarely anything verbal at all but rather a shared look, intimate touch or a kiss. Verbal interplay, in my opinion, has always been a part of the initial interpersonal exchange of a budding courtship.

... yeah I know, a bit deep for Lit...;)
 
It was rarely anything verbal at all but rather a shared look, intimate touch or a kiss. Verbal interplay, in my opinion, has always been a part of the initial interpersonal exchange of a budding courtship.

... yeah I know, a bit deep for Lit...;)


Agreed. For me, its all in the action and seduction. However, if she's horny my wife is liable to say something like "come here, I want cock"

Usually gives the game away.
 
Agreed. For me, its all in the action and seduction. However, if she's horny my wife is liable to say something like "come here, I want cock"

Usually gives the game away.

I'm chuckling here, trying to imagine a context where "come here, I want cock" doesn't give the game away. :)

Thanks to recent posters and ... bump [no, that's not what I say to her ... ]
 
On occasion she can be very subtle and make me work for it. But the usual two signals are either going for a bath then appearing in nothing but lingerie, or at any given time of day making a purring noise and stating simply "I'm horny" or "I want cock"
 
It was 3pm and I found her in the kitchen. I snuggled in behind her, grazed her neck with my teeth and said, "I keep thinking about having sex with you."

She turned. She smiled. She spoke: "About half past four?"

:)
 
It was 3pm and I found her in the kitchen. I snuggled in behind her, grazed her neck with my teeth and said, "I keep thinking about having sex with you."

She turned. She smiled. She spoke: "About half past four?"

:)

Ooh, Simon! Hope it was mind-blowing.... :)

On a similar vein:

Planning the day earlier, I asked my man if he would like to fuck now or during the evening. But what I found myself saying was "Would one care to engage in sexual congress with one presently? Or would one prefer this evening?"

Think I might have spent too much time in the "English Standards" thread... :eek:
 
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