Which one first?

[Shankara20]

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Which one would you want to happen first?

Event Male

Event Female

 

[beardedmariner]

It's always female for me.

 

[bogusguy]

Lady always comes first middle and last

 

[Shankara20]

This is an age old question for lovers, I think. And age plays a part in my answers

As I ponder this myself I feel I would want Event Female to be first as giving would heighten my release when Event Male happened. Should it happen in the reverse I might have to push through my tendency to rest in to my own release in order to find the energy to give to my partner - given our ages.

But does this answer of mine make my partner effort after her release in order to pleasure me? Does the sequence change so it is never always the same sequencing?

Am I over thinking this?

Thoughts and POVs please....

 

[Shankara20]

It's always female for me.

so you don't receive?

 

[Shankara20]

Lady always comes first middle and last

So someplace in "first middle and last" is your turn?

 

[beardedmariner]

so you don't receive?

I'm not against receiving. Sometimes I will receive for a few minutes before giving. But the activity that is done to completion first is always the woman. I don't like to have sex until i've made the woman cum. So, for me going down on her is the most important.

 

[Shankara20]

I'm not against receiving. Sometimes I will receive for a few minutes before giving. But the activity that is done to completion first is always the woman. I don't like to have sex until i've made the woman cum. So, for me going down on her is the most important.

I understand. Thanks.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Shankara20]

Pffft, you'd be very frustrated with a lover like me then

I love giving ( or being taken), so 'event male' is forefront for me. I like it when its part of our foreplay and would like to do it three times daily.

'Event female' I find tickles. . I find it pleasurable, but find it very hard not to giggle, a lot. Its never tipped me over the edge though, though really close last week . ( in combination with being well secured). I think I am a poor receiver. I dislike getting gifts of all sorts

I expect the answers given here tell a bit about one's Top/bottom identification.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[beardedmariner]

Pffft, you'd be very frustrated with a lover like me then

I love giving ( or being taken), so 'event male' is forefront for me. I like it when its part of our foreplay and would like to do it three times daily.

'Event female' I find tickles. . I find it pleasurable, but find it very hard not to giggle, a lot. Its never tipped me over the edge though, though really close last week . ( in combination with being well secured). I think I am a poor receiver. I dislike getting gifts of all sorts

lol, maybe you would frustrate me. If I don't/can't give oral, I can't find toys to help do what I want.

 

[midwestyankee]

None of the above. Lately I've been obsessed with giving a spanking as the opening act of foreplay.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[gorgeous_grl]

Event male first! Sometimes middle, sometimes last, but always first. I don't mind event female but it's not the top of my pleasure list. I think I gain more from giving than receiving.

 

[midwestyankee]

Shankara didn't say it had to be the opening act. Just which order in which it occurred if it did. Nothing prohibiting spanking leading to one or other or both before moving on or some other order. Or separate occasions. Or just one randomly in the mid morning with coffee. Or in the car or.......

Good point. I'm a selfish dominant top, then, usually. I like my day to begin with attention paid to me. I like my coffee served and then attention paid to me. She gets hers - not the coffee - later.

 

[may_I_please]

If both Event male first generally although clearly not to orgasm

Either waking him up in the early hours or as part of bondage play

However much more common for event female to happen

 

[bogusguy]

So someplace in "first middle and last" is your turn?

Guess I would have to be towards the end. I tend to get my pleasure pleasuring her.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[SpunThings]

Event male first. I'm not a fan of your event female picture, unless of course I have no choice. There's too much pressure on me to finish. Plus it's always tickled too much. Although not as much as it used too...

Plus, if I finish first then I'm spent and totally not interested in participating anymore.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[SpunThings]

Oh. That didn't happen to me. When I used to come easily, I'd come again, and again. Maybe I used them all up

hahaha....and maybe I was being stingy and now have a glut. My body has changed a lot, and I've recently managed multiples when I didn't understand how that could be possible. I didn't think women were lying who said they'd had multiples but...maybe I thought they were a little crazy.

I actually made my post based on how I used to be but these past few months have been very strange indeed.

 

[Shankara20]

Event male first. I'm not a fan of your event female picture, unless of course I have no choice. There's too much pressure on me to finish. Plus it's always tickled too much. Although not as much as it used too...

Plus, if I finish first then I'm spent and totally not interested in participating anymore.

Actually I'm not fond of the pics as a representation of either actual act, they just sparked the question.

In fact I find for me once I have climaxed I'm less likely to have any "heat" while pleasuring my partner but will stay with it a sone as needed. It is pleasant for me, just not driving a soon-to-be release for me.

 

[Shankara20]

Or in the car or.......

 

[Shankara20]

[rant]
I found myself revisiting this question during Tai Chi this morning. I came of age in the 60's and started being sexual with others before the awareness of female orgasm possibilities by the general public. Women did not speak of it, and men did not ask. The mid-70's brought education about the BIG-O and the roll men as good lovers could play in that process, thus came the her-first awareness. This was a good thing.

Personally, I find I've been drawn to more Dominate woman as partners, women willing to express their needs and sadly a bit less willing to work very hard at fulfilling mine. And face it, giving hand or head can take a lot of work - joyous work none-the-less.

Before the divorce wife #2 would say, "wow that was great! thanks! if you want to take care of yourself now go ahead". Long term Ma'am and ProDomme I lived with said toward the end of our relationship "that's the stuff my clients want all the time and I just tired of it". Now with wife #3, we are both too old to stay with it long enough for payoff more that once in awhile.

I found the joy of giving with no expectation of need for return in my relationships with lovers.

I found the joy of receiving with no expectation of need for return with "working girls" and "bathhouse lover". I have yet to meet any woman who will work as long and hard for my release as an anonymous male mouth in a bathhouse. (This is not an inditement of women, just the women I have taken as sex-partners).

The women I have taken as lovers rather expect that just by being in their sexual charged space I'll be up/hard and ready to go, just seeing them naked and willing should be all that I need. Starting about 15 years ago this was no longer the case. Being ready and being UP did not always happen together. I remember one night years ago when getting ready for sex we were both getting undressed and wife #2 said, "what, I don't turn you on? Look, your not ever hard". She never did understand the need to put a little direct contact effort to get things a-rollin'.

This is not fair to all women, but many of my lovers have felt that men just have the capacity to be ready to have sex any ol' time.

[/rant]

Thanks for allowing this little bit of therapy, I fell better and have saved $150.00