The New Isolated Blurt BDSM Thread

[seela]

Ouch. So....do your joints find them selves fairly easily too?

This is how G is too, relaxed, and yes to others reactions! . I am in a different situation because sometimes I am not fully 'with it' when I drop, but usually I am by the time I hit the ground, so I just look drunk. . We had an incident once in the street where a passer by thought G had hit me sending me to the floor. This was awkward, but his heroic gentleness, ( the passerby) was wonderful. He was uncomfortable but determined to do the tight thing. Sometimes I think its a blessing to have opportunity to see this in people.

Other times people just step over you. ( yes, I got stepped over in the foyer of a very smart hotel in Paris, no one came to help, not even staff. I think I must have looked very drunk )

A lot of the time my joints only dislocate partially so they're easy to get back or they might even go back without me doing anything to them. Sometimes J or someone else has to help me by pulling. I haven't been to the ER because of dislocated things for quite a few years now.

That's a funny story about the guy thinking G had whacked you.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

No!!!! I didn't.

I laughed at myself first, and I enjoy people in my heart laughing with me, .

Well good.
I should hope you know by now I would only say such things in fun, and not to purposefully hurt your feelings. I really have no control over my sense of humour...

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BiBunny]

Discussions about "love," i.e., the "romantic" kind, make me so uncomfortable.

 

[cfuhrer]

Discussions about "love," i.e., the "romantic" kind, make me so uncomfortable.

Love should be practiced as an act, not an emotion.

 

[pete]

Discussions about "love," i.e., the "romantic" kind, make me so uncomfortable.

why's that?

 

[BiBunny]

why's that?

I'm aro.

 

[pete]

I'm aro.

interesting... its not that you're neutral or apathetic to romantic love, but instead it disturbs you.

always been this way?

 

[pensivepoet]

What's aro?

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[pensivepoet]

Pretty sure bibunny refers to aromantic.

Never even heard of it.
I'll look it up
The cafe is really making me feel dumb today.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[pensivepoet]

So, take the space out of
A romantic and you get aromantic and it means the opposite.
Whose bright idea was that?

 

[pete]

So, take the space out of
A romantic and you get aromantic and it means the opposite.
Whose bright idea was that?

this is actually fairly common in english.

its not atypical.

 

[pensivepoet]

this is actually fairly common in english.

its not atypical.

Good point

 

[Etoile]

I noticed that. It's kinda nice. I remember for some time you said you didn't feel as if you belonged. Maybe that's like the ref doesn't feel welcome at the game? Plus, dayum: thankless job.

SO MUCH THIS. I am so glad I don't have that responsibility anymore. All the heartache, none of the satisfaction.

Blurt: I got my sadist sick.

 

[BiBunny]

interesting... its not that you're neutral or apathetic to romantic love, but instead it disturbs you.

always been this way?

Probably. I've only just started realizing it in the past few years, though. Also, the thought of giving up my freedom--of any sort, in any way, to even the slightest degree--makes me break out in hives. So there's that, too.

Truly, all discussions about it don't make me uncomfortable. Most of the time, I just don't care because it doesn't apply. And, like, if a friend falls in love, I'm happy for them. But there are some ways that those discussions go sometimes that I find off-putting (and I've seen it happening here lately, too). I don't even know how to explain it, but it just happens sometimes.

 

[pete]

Probably. I've only just started realizing it in the past few years, though. Also, the thought of giving up my freedom--of any sort, in any way, to even the slightest degree--makes me break out in hives. So there's that, too.

Truly, all discussions about it don't make me uncomfortable. Most of the time, I just don't care because it doesn't apply. And, like, if a friend falls in love, I'm happy for them. But there are some ways that those discussions go sometimes that I find off-putting (and I've seen it happening here lately, too). I don't even know how to explain it, but it just happens sometimes.

do you think that its because you've never (to your knowledge) experienced anything like these other people are describing? or that you believe you're simply unable to have those emotions, try as you might?

its not clear to me why you mention the control issues -are these issues associated somehow?

 

[BiBunny]

do you think that its because you've never (to your knowledge) experienced anything like these other people are describing? or that you believe you're simply unable to have those emotions, try as you might?

its not clear to me why you mention the control issues -are these issues associated somehow?

What upsets me is to hear people either a.) holding romantic love up as some sort of ideal above all others, whether it's outright said or just heavily insinuated, or b.) hearing about unhealthy relationships that people stay in because they luuuuuuuuuuuv each other so much. Otherwise, it mostly just goes in one ear and out the other.

I realize that this post and the one before are probably less than coherent. I seem to have picked up some asshole's cold/flu/choose your favorite upper respiratory illness, and I'm too miserable at the moment to think properly. I'm sorry for that.

I also admit to not being terribly forthcoming about things because I feel like I kinda clog up this thread with my BS too often, anyway, and also because the last time I tried to sort of explain the way I feel in that regard here, in-depth, rather than just off-handedly, I kinda felt like a couple of people said some dismissive and condescending things to the point that it made me not want to discuss it anymore.

And don't get me wrong, nearly everyone was either understanding or kept their mouths shut altogether, so I'm not talking bad about Lit as a whole, just, like, maybe two people. I don't usually let a couple clueless idiots get to me, but when it's something you're still not sure of yourself, you really don't want to hear dismissive comments or people treating you like some kind of fascinating, exotic alien species that must be dissected to see what kinds of character flaws or psychological hang-ups motivate you..

So, yeah, sorry for that, too. I'm kinda useless today.

 

[Primalex]

I didn't pay much attention to the board lately, but...are there any male Doms left that regularly write?

I mean, not that I would miss one per se, but I did appreciate different point of views, especially from those with expertise in areas where I only dabble (like Homburg for bondage).

 

[seela]

I didn't pay much attention to the board lately, but...are there any male Doms left that regularly write?

I mean, not that I would miss one per se, but I did appreciate different point of views, especially from those with expertise in areas where I only dabble (like Homburg for bondage).

I've been wondering about the same lately as I've spent quite a bit of time digging through old threads trying to sort my head out about certain things.

It would be great to hear from Homburg, Rosco, JMohegan and many others again.

 

[CutieMouse]

I didn't pay much attention to the board lately, but...are there any male Doms left that regularly write?

I mean, not that I would miss one per se, but I did appreciate different point of views, especially from those with expertise in areas where I only dabble (like Homburg for bondage).

I've been wondering about the same lately as I've spent quite a bit of time digging through old threads trying to sort my head out about certain things.

It would be great to hear from Homburg, Rosco, JMohegan and many others again.

If I remember correctly, there was a slow exodus several years ago... Homburg, JMohegan, Rosco, DVS, AA, RJ. I know why a few faded away; I miss their insight. It's a very different board, without consistent insight from both sides of the slash.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[BiBunny]

If you don't explain those of us who are guilty of it have less opportunity to appreciate your vantage and learn.


I recognise my guilt. However, I do NOT want for you! nor anyone else! something you don't want. I merely recognise that for me I am happy, and that I have had a swap out in my life. And hey, I am exploring this now, which it recognise may have been latent and always part of what I was seeking, or I might find later that this too is something I feel was part of a search or ...I don't know what.

I want to make it clear bibunny, that while romantic love has turned out to me MY ideal, ( I think anyway, I have devoted some time, and energy to it and it feels right to me for me!) and yes, I could sing about it from the tree tops, I sing the song for ME. I would not wish my ideal on you

I have a thousand apologies for part of being what makes you uncomfortable, and hope you forgive me, because I Adore you, so much. I cannot stop this aspect of me and my identity any more than you could change yours. And I'd be in despair if you changed, even though your life might have changed, your bunniness reads constant.

Your aromanticism take would actually potentially help me figure some stuff out. One of my parents is not 'out' but is asexual ( I have in way too much detail the details of this ) and I suspect has always been a romantic as well. The marriage was not good and I suspect had they been true to themself both my parents stories might have been different, and mine would have been tremendously so.

Oh, silly Elle. I wasn't talking about you all! I remember the couple of people who ticked me off about it, and neither of them were you.

I'm actually about to go to bed right this second, but I would be willing to make a thread about it later if someone were interested. I've just never done so before because I find other people more interesting than myself. But if somebody wants to ask questions somewhere that it wouldn't derail other conversations, I'd be willing to answer....

....Probably.