42 M, Europe- seeking straight unmarried woman in EU area

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Fair warning, I put time, thought, and words into my ad, so, this will be a bit of a read, but it will be informative. You can learn a lot from this and if you make it all the way to the end and aren't running away screaming, I might just be the man you want in your life. You know, someone who can't be easily replaced by a dildo, someone who gives you romance, companionship, and better sex than any dildo could.

Hello, I'm looking for a straight unmarried woman in Europe, or is willing to travel to Europe to meet, I live near an airport. What I would like- I would love to talk to you, first. I'm a long time lit reader but I've had bad experiences with folks misrepresenting themself online. If we can't talk, you and me, for a little while and get to know each other, then we probably don't have the patience for a whole date, and romance. Or you're seeking money from me. I know this is a sex website but I'm not here for a hook-up. I am willing to talk to any woman about any topic for as long as you would care to.

I am willing to show you my picture and also, your handle and today's date, written down, so you know I'm the person in the picture. I would prefer not to give out my picture unless we've spoken for a while, and I would ask that you eventually reciprocate with a (clothed) picture of your face and a truthful description of your body. Respecting each other's time here, I wouldn't ask you to never know what I look like, for example.

I don't need nudes.
I am not here to roleplay or sext only and would prefer we spoke about anything at all besides sex before discussing sex.
I am willing to discuss my kinks, fantasies, desires, and yours, as a topic of discussion, but I would like for that to not be the only topic. I feel it is a good idea to understand what each person would want out of the relationship.
I will not ask you for money, if you are asking me for money before we've even met, this will not happen.
I am over 40, separated, looking for the possibility of a long term relationship, I do have kids, they are young, they will not be traveling with me, I will be visiting them as often as I can, and when they get older, vice versa. So please be advised in several years I may ask us to host my kids for a week or two. If that's not acceptable, we can't work out, because I will not give up on ever seeing my kiddos for anyone.

If you are married, I get it, this is a fun fantasy, I will not be any person's man on the side. If you wish to seek multiple men, or cheat, or be in a threesome or a gangbang, I am not kink shaming you, I understand. If I were younger, I'd probably be okay with it, but I am looking to be someone's main event in life, not an afterthought.

If you are separated and willing to eventually remarry, that's fine. I am in a similar situation, but I will not be with you while you are romantically and sexually with him. I've tried that, the women are never serious about me, so no more of that. I don't trust that I will be given the chance I deserve.

Also, I am lower income. If you need a man who pays more than half the bills, I can't be that guy. An economic reality. I've also gone broke several times for women who had higher income than me paying their bills, only for the romance and relationship to stop, so I am willing to pay my own way and cover what I can, if you need money, if money is what you gotta have, not a man worth being with, I ask you to please never contact me.

I won't ask you for money, I will have an income, but I likely have to move to meet you, and chances are, the wages where you are are complete shit, and plane tickets are expensive. I'm never going to have money. I'm hoping the brutal honesty here makes the scammers go away and also, the folks who have given up on love and are just hoping to marry a rich man.

Honey, your last boyfriend had more money than me.

Okay, here is what I bring to the table-
I can carry on an intelligent conversation about all manner of topics, not small talk about the weather or "how was your day" pleasantries. I would like to hear about your life, your family history, your wants, your needs, your dreams, your kinks, your fantasies, your sexual desires, and I would like to tell you about mine, as a minimum starting point.

I am an experienced man in the bedroom who-
is not abusive, will not degrade you, will not be passive aggressive, will be hygienic, soft-spoken, a good listener and communicator, respectful, romantic, patient, kind, loving, and also be a generous lover.
I enjoy giving oral sex, massages, helping you masturbate with toys, dildos, vibrators, my mouth, my hands, and also, my penis.

I don't buy into typical toxic masculine bullshit. I think Andrew Tate should fry. I absolutely firmly believe in equality of the sexes and will tell you all about my socially liberal political views. I think human rights and gender equality aren't politics at all. It shouldn't be up for debate. I am basically identical to AOC/Bernie politically. Misogynist incel crap has no place in our society. I do not view my role as a man in our relationship as a position of authority, I tend to defer to my girlfriends / ex-wife on all matters of disagreement and enthusiastically support her position once we've made that decision together.

I don't do passive aggression, shouting, threatening, door slamming, or weaponized incompetence. I cook, I clean, I give you all the oral sex you want, I keep myself groomed and clean, I cater to your needs, do what you ask within reason, I pay for myself, I'm not a leech, and I do not cheat. I do not drink, I do not smoke, I do not do drugs, I do not go to parties, if we were in a relationship my personal ads would be inactive and a post would say I'm no longer seeking, and I would stop posting.

I have absolutely no interest in hook-ups that lead nowhere. I've had plenty of no strings sex in my life, it's nothing like emotional connection.

I am willing to be remarried and I am willing to start a family again, with the RIGHT person. I will obviously never have much money and I will be sending some to my kids from the previous marriage.

What I want is someone who is emotionally connected to me, has a personality I love, she loves my personality, we are looking to grow old together, the sex we have now, while we are still young, meets all your desires and kinks and fetishes, and makes your dreams come true.

When we are laying in hospice care at the age of 85, I want us to still love each other and hold hands and fondly remember the 40+ years of amazing romance and I want your pussy to still get wet at the thought of the way I pleasured you for all those years, and only stopped because I was bedridden and dying.

If my penis stops working, my fingers and my mind and my tongue will not.

Please, look beyond our genders. I am a person with a heart, I don't do toxic masculine bullshit, I just want a fellow human person to treat me with love and respect, and be my rock I build the rest of my life around. I am such a reliable person for the right woman, I can be your rock.

Will I be able to afford cruises and diamond rings and a big house and a luxury retirement- no
If you have decent income, as many of my past loves have, I will never ask you for money nor gifts. I am perfectly comfortable simply being your romantic partner and I have no particular desire for money. Use it on yourself. Make sure if I die, your retirement is set.

I can be the man that you always know where I am. I'm never drunk, never abusive, never someone you have to be afraid of. Something you might have to unlearn is that because I listen, you don't have to yell. I don't just be quiet, either, I'm paying attention. I will never yell at you, I ask for gentleness in return. just talk to me like a person. I know, other men failed to listen. i am not other men. Give me a chance, don't compare me to them. We're different species.

I can be the lover who learns exactly what you want. I can pleasure you, because I want to, and I listen. Those are the two things that makes someone any good in bed: Your pleasure is my concern and I listen to the things you say. Have you had crappy lovers in the past? It's because they were either selfish, or too lazy and stupid to hear you when you said what feels good, or they never bothered to try.

I have more to say, one moment...

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

I don't play games, I won't waste your time.
If you say "no" hoping I will pursue you until you say yes, I am not kink shaming you, but when you say "no", I don't ask you again. Consent matters and respect matters and I don't play games anyway. I will pursue you, just not like a stalker, and if that's your thing, just wait, I'm sure someone will on here. Not me.

I am willing to relocate for the right person. We need to meet in person first at least two times, me meeting you, and you coming to meet me.

Astute readers will notice I have probably experienced a lot of the things I am looking to avoid from now on, if you are a woman who has read this far, you're probably just as sick as I am of people not worth your time because they're deceptive, abusive, not serious, incapable of talking for longer than a few sentences. Don't know what they want and think they can get it by inviting enough men over for a sex party. Or, they just want a sugar daddy.

I am for the person that sets their sights higher than that.

I will never demean you or assume a dominant role you don't want. I'm not a sadist or a masochist. I'm a sex-positive feminist. Any roleplay or kinks we explore in the bedroom have no bearing on how gentle and lovingly I will treat you outside of it.

If you want someone to call daddy, someone experienced who you feel safe and loved and trust enough to submit to, I can be that person for you. I will never take without asking permission. If you never want to have anal sex, it will never happen. If you don't want to swallow cum, it will never happen.

Tell me what your limits are, I am here to be your partner. You are not a sex toy, unless you are so happy with our relationship and so trusting in me that you want to live the fantasy of being someone's beloved fucktoy.

Yes, you can explore that safely with me and still have my complete respect.

I love giving massages and cuddles and snuggles and kisses. I feel our emotional and romantic connection is much more important than sex, but I will put as much effort into making sure the sex is also satisfying for you. I enjoy foreplay, a lot. I enjoy turning you on and prolonging your pleasure but also satisfying you multiple times. If you have a "risk of being caught" or exhibitionist kink you would like a safe partner to explore with, I can be that.

If you give me oral sex and want to kiss me afterward, I am not frightened of my masculinity being challenged, I will kiss you back. I will lick your pussy before, during, and after our sexy time together. I do not care if I taste myself on you. Good, is my reaction to that.

I am a switch, or, a gentle daddy dom, or, I can just do vanilla with no power roleplay. I have no need for authority or control, I just, thrive if you let me be creative.

I enjoy kissing and licking your body everywhere after every shower. Please, allow me to serve you, with no thought of being rewarded for it.

This is not a game where we count and keep score. My goal is to make you smile at the beginning, middle, and end of every day we spend together. Sometimes, those smiles will be because of sexual satisfaction, sometimes from romantic adoration, sometimes from my companionship.

Okay. I know what I have to offer and it's my will, desire, mind, personality, fairly handsome looks.

5 foot 9, 175 cm tall
90 kilograms, or roughly 200 pounds.
Light brown hair, I look quite youthful for a man over 40.

I know that alpha male nonsense is unscientific preposterous bullshit, and I think posturing about masculinity is laughable in general. I don't give a shit about my masculinity. What makes me a man is I take care of my lady's every need that I can, I would protect her and die for her if necessary, I will be there for her until the end, I have a good heart, and, I also don't give a shit about my own ego.

It does not bruise my ego to cook for you or clean for you or buy you tampons or lick your pussy. On your period. I don't care. I'm a grown-ass man.

You want to ride my face after we fuck and tell me to lick you clean, I will. You tell me to vacuum the house after that, i will.

I don't give a fuck about gender roles. My gender role is giving you penis, tongue, and fingers as you desire. That's my gender role. My romantic role is to be your partner and do whatever the fuck you tell me unless you're taking advantage of me or being hurtful for no reason.

I can be romantic, too, my personal ad here is just emphasizing what needs to be said. I wanted to establish who I am and what my lines are. I may sound a lot softer from here on out, but some things are not negotiable for you, or for me, anymore. No more games, just real talk.

I will travel anywhere in the EU, farther than that if you speak English and get to know me and there are jobs for english speaking men where you live. I carry U.S. citizenship I just prefer not to move there again unless you are VERY special to me and would consider emigrating if things get worse there.

If you don't know why it's bad in the U.S.A. right now, we probably won't get along, that's common knowledge to anyone who cares about democracy or human rights.

Please, no right wingers, no Trumpers, no MAGA. No religious extremists, no married women. No sharing no open relationships, you have to be separated, wanting to divorce, willing to.

The cost of us being together would be that divorce, I will not be someone's side dish. I am just making clear what my boundaries are.

If you want multiple men and have an open relationship I do not judge you, I just judge myself the wrong man for you right now. You want sex and no attachment and I want to be the main man in my woman's life, at minimum. That's what I deserve and it is not negotiable.

If you respond here, or start a Private Message conversation with me, you must be female, and separated or single. You must be of legal age. You must be serious about talking to me, because I might talk all day the first few times we talk about stuff besides sex. I might be very boring if you're just looking for hot spicy dirty talk to masturbate to.

I have no money, so absolutely no scammers, if you intend to ask me for money, I'm doing you a favor. You cannot get blood from this stone. I don't have it anyway, so even your best sales pitch will fail, because I can pull out my debit card, ain't got shit on it anyway.

I will never go into debt for you, nope. Never done it before, not starting now when I am middle age.

If you have an STD or drink or smoke you must disclose that. I have none of those.

Lying to me in our initial conversations will be grounds to end our relationship, no games, please.
If you say no, I will think you mean no, so be very clear what you mean. I accept no for an answer. That's the final answer. Don't toy with me, please. For both of our sakes.

I don't care how many guys you fucked in the past, or if you have a couple of kids, or if you've never had kids and want to start a family, I don't care if you used to be a stripper or prostitute. Are you a woman, do you want a relationship with a man?

I'm handsome enough to attract women but I'm not a model and I'm not 6 foot tall, if those are your needs, I just saved you some time. If you care, my height is exactly average, and my penis is exactly average length and girth. If you need a big big dick on a big tall man, it's not me.

I can do things for you that will make you never miss big dick man again, because we can always buy a big dildo or vibe and I will pleasure you with it for much longer than big dick man. Without feeling "insecure". I don't have any of that as a hang-up.

You want someone to get down and start licking your pussy and having something intelligent and loving to say to you afterward, someone who will cuddle you every night and never cheat, contact me.

Be willing to read this ad and look for reasons not to be with me. The point of the ad is to spend the ten minutes determining if there are any red flags.

Yeah you need to know more, that's what dates are for, and chats. Come talk.

Ask me for my discord handle in private. Please be willing to tell me about yourself, OR, have a substantial history here on Lit I can read and go find out for myself.

If neither of those things, what exactly are we going to talk about?

I can't fall in love with a disembodied set of words no matter how well-written. I'd love to but I have mortal limitations. I need to know there's a woman on the other side of those words who I can get to know.

Contact me! Hope you like reading, I'm not going to be less wordy, ever.

I'm actually shy and quiet in person, my online personality puts this wall of spearpoints around me to keep out the folks looking to take advantage of me and waste my time.

I'm a better listener than writer. Call my bluff if you don't believe me.

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

I know some European Countries are not in the EU.

U.K. is fine. I can speak English so that sounds great to me.

 

[Abeona1]

Having read your posts several times, so I can absorb it. Love what you have written, looking for the same thing.

20 years older than you. I'm single, unmarried living with a man more like flat mates than anything else. Full disclosure once in a blue moon I might get a kiss and a cuddle, but he has to be inebriated.
His everything you say you are not and some. Never had a proper grown up relationship with a man, have a daughter, nearly as old as you.

I'm not into expensive gestures and possessions. I can pay my own way and I am financially independent.
I want for nothing not materialistic, have no worries.

If we were of a similar age, would be very interested in getting to know you. But all the time I was reading I kept thinking what about you and your wants and needs.
What if there was something they really didn't want to do but you did enjoy. You would really go without.

You talk about finances and moving for the relationship and work. And them doing the same. I don't own my own home, I live in social housing, couldn't afford private rent. Probably one of the main reasons I live with this person is housing.

So how would that work. Are you hoping the other person has their own home.

Like I said, you blew my mind, just wanted to know a little bit more, even though we aren't suitable.

Would like to hear from you. But understand if I don't

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Let me contact you.

You took the time to read and write me back, I would be delighted to talk to you.

Feel free to talk to me tonight as well, I will be on here now, and for the next 8 hours probably,

Don't go anywhere if you want a quick response!

I need to read and digest all this, so a longer response will follow the first.

Thank you for contacting me.

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Like I said, you blew my mind, just wanted to know a little bit more, even though we aren't suitable.

I would like to know what the obstacles are that make us not suitable, but I am still reading and will PM you

 

[Abeona1]

Look forward to hearing from you. Should have PM you instead of replying to your post.

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Look forward to hearing from you. Should have PM you instead of replying to your post.

Check your inbox. It is many replies, cut up for ease of responding to each question

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Note- still available.

 

[Noedel]

I am not what you are looking for but I just wanted to pop in and tell you how I absolutely loved reading this. There should be more like you around

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

I am not what you are looking for but I just wanted to pop in and tell you how I absolutely loved reading this. There should be more like you around

Thank you, Noedel-
Yeah, I'm looking for a forever mine kind of girl.

But she's not here, so. Happy to flirt with you.

 

[Noedel]

And I really hope you find her. But in the meantime, I'm definitely enjoying flirting with you

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

And I really hope you find her. But in the meantime, I'm definitely enjoying flirting with you

you're most welcome, sweet beautiful woman.

Your husbando is a very lucky man and I felt honored and privileged to hold your attention even for moments.

It's been so long since I flirted with someone IRL

Flirting is the spice of life.

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

I feel that if a husbando is going to be okay with guys flirting with his wife

She should be returned to him safely, having had a pleasant time, with a smile on her face.

Hope I was able to give you a smile or put an exciting thought in your mind.

 

[Noedel]

Oh you definitely did. On both counts

 

[DaddyLovesKitten]

Oh you definitely did. On both counts

Thank you, sweet wonderful person.

I havent had this kind of interaction in 10 years due to the loveless marriage thing.

Its good to know I can still make a woman happy, if she is interested in men.

It made me feel very nice to be included, thank you, thank you.