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Having been divorced 4 times one could say that I have a wealth of experience in how not to do relationships well. In truth, I did one marriage 3 times and then did another marriage. The final marriage foundered for good reasons, despite the many wonderful things in our relationship. We've remained best friends these past four years, and what was good in our relationship has been the foundation for continuing growth and deepening intimacy.
Yes, how sad to see couples struggle. Comments above about keeping the bad news off the front page, i.e., splashing it across everyone in the world's computer screens, is a good place to begin. Talking face to face is the answer, yet I've no doubt avoiding the pain, fear, whatever, in doing that is precisely the reason they're both stuck in front of the screen.
There's another thread on the General Board about addiction to the internet that highlights the difficulties many of us seem to have with showing up for life. We use so many escapes from our feelings. Its not easy to stop and meet life on life's terms.
So we watch and listen as our fellows struggle, knowing that nothing we say will ultimately turn the circumstances around. Only the participants can find the courage to look squarely at what's challenging in their lives and take steps to make their lives better.
Good luck NS and NSW! Just don't assume that friendly words from strangers you'll likely never meet will really make your life different, at least not until you're prepared to do the hard work.
Having been divorced 4 times one could say that I have a wealth of experience in how not to do relationships well. In truth, I did one marriage 3 times and then did another marriage. The final marriage foundered for good reasons, despite the many wonderful things in our relationship. We've remained best friends these past four years, and what was good in our relationship has been the foundation for continuing growth and deepening intimacy.
Yes, how sad to see couples struggle. Comments above about keeping the bad news off the front page, i.e., splashing it across everyone in the world's computer screens, is a good place to begin. Talking face to face is the answer, yet I've no doubt avoiding the pain, fear, whatever, in doing that is precisely the reason they're both stuck in front of the screen.
There's another thread on the General Board about addiction to the internet that highlights the difficulties many of us seem to have with showing up for life. We use so many escapes from our feelings. Its not easy to stop and meet life on life's terms.
So we watch and listen as our fellows struggle, knowing that nothing we say will ultimately turn the circumstances around. Only the participants can find the courage to look squarely at what's challenging in their lives and take steps to make their lives better.
Good luck NS and NSW! Just don't assume that friendly words from strangers you'll likely never meet will really make your life different, at least not until you're prepared to do the hard work.
