cumming from petting? read plz.

[1sexygal]

well, the first thing you need to know is that, well, me and my bf havent, um, gone all the way yet. (im not a virgin, just with this guy i am.) and the thing is, i am unbelibaly phisacaly atracded to him. he makes me wet just to look at him. and when we start kissing and then he starts to squeez my ass, and rub my ass crack. at that point, my pussy is soaking, and i fell like im about to cum. i never have, but im afraid i might, and i would be sooooo embarsased if i did. but i have a couple of questions.
1. is this because of my attraction to him or because of the touch?
2.is there any way i can keep from cumming till he is gone, and i can be in peace?
please help.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

well, the first thing you need to know is that, well, me and my bf havent, um, gone all the way yet. (im not a virgin, just with this guy i am.) and the thing is, i am unbelibaly phisacaly atracded to him. he makes me wet just to look at him. and when we start kissing and then he starts to squeez my ass, and rub my ass crack. at that point, my pussy is soaking, and i fell like im about to cum. i never have, but im afraid i might, and i would be sooooo embarsased if i did. but i have a couple of questions.
1. is this because of my attraction to him or because of the touch?
2.is there any way i can keep from cumming till he is gone, and i can be in peace?
please help.

Why would you be embarassed about cumming like that? Or even with him there?

 

[krisl]

he'll think he's a champ!!! let it go and be natural, don't be embarrassed and feel anxious.

 

[englishman29]

Yer don't be shy about it. He will be very impressed and imagine if you get like that from doing that little, imagine how you will be from a good hard fuck. You will make his year!

 

[infinity706]

I just have to ask why you wouldn't want to orgasm. I thought that was part of the reason for having sex in the first place.

 

[1sexygal]

I just have to ask why you wouldn't want to orgasm. I thought that was part of the reason for having sex in the first place.

the whole thing is that we havent had sex yet. i want to wait untill im ready, because im still fairly young (19), and my first experice was with a guy who i had been with for years, and we broke up a week after our first time. and i dont want to make this relasionship oukwurd (srry bout spelling) in the same way as my last one. dont get me wrong, i enjoy it, i just dont want to have any noticeable phyical reactions untill he has left.

 

[satindesire]

the whole thing is that we havent had sex yet. i want to wait untill im ready, because im still fairly young (19), and my first experice was with a guy who i had been with for years, and we broke up a week after our first time. and i dont want to make this relasionship oukwurd (srry bout spelling) in the same way as my last one. dont get me wrong, i enjoy it, i just dont want to have any noticeable phyical reactions untill he has left.

Why?

If you're too embarrassed to be open sexually around your boyfriend, then you aren't emotionally mature enough to be sexual with him period.

This isn't a bash to you, it's just plain fact. Healthy, safe sexuality REQUIRES openness, communication and a lack of embarrassment.

If you're too embarrassed to have an orgasm in front of him, you aren't ready to be sexual with him AT ALL.

Also, your spelling mistakes can be easily fixed by using the Firefox browser. It has a built in spell check.

 

[rhox5_5]

yea no worries he'll love it

 

[1sexygal]

Also, your spelling mistakes can be easily fixed by using the Firefox browser. It has a built in spell check.

im an a ds right now, and it can only use opera browser.
and i know im not ready to be sexaualy involved with him! we havent even been to second base! i want to know what to do about it untill i AM ready!

 

[infinity706]

Why?

If you're too embarrassed to be open sexually around your boyfriend, then you aren't emotionally mature enough to be sexual with him period.

This isn't a bash to you, it's just plain fact. Healthy, safe sexuality REQUIRES openness, communication and a lack of embarrassment.

If you're too embarrassed to have an orgasm in front of him, you aren't ready to be sexual with him AT ALL.

Also, your spelling mistakes can be easily fixed by using the Firefox browser. It has a built in spell check.

Totally agreed except for the spell check thing. Other than huge, multi page things that are a bitch to proofread, spell checkers just piss me off with their stupidity and lack of slang terms.

 

[satindesire]

im an a ds right now, and it can only use opera browser.
and i know im not ready to be sexaualy involved with him! we havent even been to second base! i want to know what to do about it untill i AM ready!

Don't make out with him?

 

[frostyghost09]

Why?

If you're too embarrassed to be open sexually around your boyfriend, then you aren't emotionally mature enough to be sexual with him period.

This isn't a bash to you, it's just plain fact. Healthy, safe sexuality REQUIRES openness, communication and a lack of embarrassment.

If you're too embarrassed to have an orgasm in front of him, you aren't ready to be sexual with him AT ALL.

Also, your spelling mistakes can be easily fixed by using the Firefox browser. It has a built in spell check.

Agreed on all counts....although i understand about the Opera situation.

 

[1sexygal]

Don't make out with him?

are you saying that untill im ready to have sex with him, i cant kiss him? as i said, i am VERY attracted to him.

 

[toshiskitten]

are you saying that untill im ready to have sex with him, i cant kiss him? as i said, i am VERY attracted to him.

No you can still kiss him. Just don't make out with him.

 

[Reba67]

Sounds like you should back off a bit on the making out (including kissing if that's what's getting you excited) if you aren't ready to be that excited in his presence. Just BECAUSE you get excited doesn't mean you need to take it further, but remember that the farther you get, the harder it is to back away.

 

[satindesire]

are you saying that untill im ready to have sex with him, i cant kiss him? as i said, i am VERY attracted to him.

No you can still kiss him. Just don't make out with him.

Sounds like you should back off a bit on the making out (including kissing if that's what's getting you excited) if you aren't ready to be that excited in his presence. Just BECAUSE you get excited doesn't mean you need to take it further, but remember that the farther you get, the harder it is to back away.

BINGO!

You cannot control an unconscious reflex, which is what arousal is. It's like hiccuping, digestion, blinking, breathing...it's a normal process of the body that may be reigned in, but not totally gotten rid of because it's necessary.

A kiss is fine, but full out making out is obviously making some negative things happen, in your opinion. Your ONLY options are to either get over it and be sexually open with him, or stop doing it. *shrug* Sorry, but that's about it.

 

[infinity706]

are you saying that untill im ready to have sex with him, i cant kiss him? as i said, i am VERY attracted to him.

I really think the best thing you can do is talk to him and draw a line somewhere that you might be comfortable with. Afterall, sex doesn't have to involve penis in vagina. There's tons of other fun things you can do. You can even both get off in lots of different ways without much pregancy/STD risk. If you want, you can even make out with each other and agree to mutual masturbation when you're both hot enough. That's also a good way to learn what the other likes.

 

[lemmesee]

well, the first thing you need to know is that, well, me and my bf havent, um, gone all the way yet. (im not a virgin, just with this guy i am.) and the thing is, i am unbelibaly phisacaly atracded to him. he makes me wet just to look at him. and when we start kissing and then he starts to squeez my ass, and rub my ass crack. at that point, my pussy is soaking, and i fell like im about to cum. i never have, but im afraid i might, and i would be sooooo embarsased if i did. but i have a couple of questions.
1. is this because of my attraction to him or because of the touch?
2.is there any way i can keep from cumming till he is gone, and i can be in peace?
please help.

I dated a woman like this once....an older but still sexual woman....she was up in my apartment once and we were fully clothed and standing up, kissing, in the archway between the kitchen and the dining room....she started to breathe heavily, and she pressed her body against me....she actually started sucking on my mouth and humping up against my thigh....and she hadda orgasm right there, standing up....it was quite wonderful, actually....

 

[Kojote]

the whole thing is that we havent had sex yet. i want to wait untill im ready, because im still fairly young (19), and my first experice was with a guy who i had been with for years, and we broke up a week after our first time. and i dont want to make this relasionship oukwurd (srry bout spelling) in the same way as my last one. dont get me wrong, i enjoy it, i just dont want to have any noticeable phyical reactions untill he has left.

Don't get that wrong, but am I the only one who asks himself if you put the cart before the horse?
I don’t know the guy, the situation or even how long you two are dating now, but as long as you think of him as just another asshat who will leave you after getting laid once there will only be more pain and less fun.
Sometimes it’s just right to go with the flow.

Normally I’d say: Just trust your instincts.
But they may have been warped by your former experiences.
Therefore I can give only one advice: Talk it out.
It will be awkward. It will be very awkward. But if you don’t and he is one of those people actually having some kind of working instinct he will probably feel repelled by the contradictory signals you send. And that may lead to him going on distance to protect himself.
Talk it out. Tell him about your fears and thoughts.
If he laughs or reacts offended he’s clearly the wrong one.

Be honest and try to work out some rules with him.
And think about just letting go and enjoying it. That may actually be the nicest choice physically.

 

[Que]

This whole thing is cute as hell.

Reminds me of my first serious girlfriend. She couldn't use the term orgasm, much less cum (which i wouldn't have been familiar with either)

She wasn't 'horny' she was 'feeling frisky'

Anyway, she had her little rules of comportment, and I had mine.

For example she was fine with giving oral sex, uncertain about receiving, I on the other hand (stupidly) thought in the hierarchy of 'sin' oral sex sounded so good it must be on par or 'worse' (better?) than sex, SO I declined the offer.

She was just find with very enthusiastic pubis on cock grinding...totally ok with the idea that it might "go off" in the process. She felt guilty if she came, and since she was relatively easily orgasmic, kind of a problem!

Solution for us was for me to tie up and tease her. Good times.

 

[subwannabe]

This is kind of a tough situation to be in. I really want to say live your life and be happy and don't worry about any psychological stereotypical hangups that you or anybody else has. But, I really admire you wanting to wait. There is nothing wrong with that either. All I can say is good luck and don't be afraid to get all wet and take care of yourself later.

 

[1sexygal]

I really think the best thing you can do is talk to him and draw a line somewhere that you might be comfortable with.

we have a line. collar bone. ass is the only exception.
and thank you entricity and subwannabe for understsnding. so far, most of the responces have been like "so what" and "then stop what your doing". you guys get it.

 

[ruggedlysexy]

I understand where you are at. However, it is a very tricky situation - because your sexual reactions are totally normal and to stop them would be vitually impossible. So, short of not petting the best thing you can do is to enjoy it to the full - and don't worry about cumming - if you do (a) this guy will love it!! (b) and so will you!! In short, let go, enjoy it and don't worry about showing him that you are enjoying it........no reason for it. And when you get further please make him use a condom!! Relax and enjoy what "cums" naturally!!

 

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[1sexygal]

lol, that was a bit more than 2 cents. more like 10! lol.
and even though i know he doesn't have a great history with girls (for example, all of his many ex's hate him), but i know he really does care about me. usually its the girls who get all emotional and romanticize a relationship, but this guy is already planning our wedding! lol.