Deal Breakers

[live4thebj]

What were sexual and non-sexual deal breakers that resulted in you not pursuing further relations with another person?

Me I had several in no particular order:

Foot fetish.
Reminded me of my ex-wife.
Squirted so much was like turning on a faucet.
Insisted I would have sex with a guy.
Bi-Polar.
3 fiancés and cheated on all 3.
Had 3 kids with 3 different guys none married and talked about how she wants a fourth kid and wanted me to fuck her that night.
Bad breath.
Zero chemistry.
Bitch.
Clingy after sex.
Talked about her ex-husband about how much of a hunk he is.
Ex-husband is a NFL player.
Not attractive.
Too much of an age difference.
Obnoxious and loud.
STD.
Terrible at BJ’s.

 

[Imakewetspots]

Crazy, unstable element to her psychology.

In my younger years, I came across lots of them and I don’t know why. Smoking hot and phenomenal in bed but they had a psycho gene that scared the hell out of me and sent me running. I have no desire to wake up with my pecker cut off or have them burn my house down because they thought I might be out with someone else. Crazy is the biggest deal breaker of them all to me.

 

[Shi_One81]

Smokers
Bad hygiene
Missing teeth
Small dick (under 5”)
No chest hair
Can’t stay off their phone
Pretend doms
Men who are late
No self confidence
Asshats

I’m sure there’s more but that’s a start

 

[sister jenny]

Wore white tube socks during sex.

 

[strongnsensual]

Generally angry, combative disposition.
Too big
Too skinny can also be a deal breaker
Foot fetish/ex wife would end it for me too, like live4thebj said
Too crazy

 

[cdstefi]

The only woman I ever actually dumped unilaterally was because frankly, she was boring. Boring conversation, shockingly banal musical taste, no apparent interests I was aware of, sexually unadventurous (this was maybe the biggest disappointment as in the build up chatting before a physical date she was dirty as hell on the phone, would have me talk her to orgasms, and our first date was us both dressed classy in a nice restaurant, and I had my hand up her skirt and inside her panties surreptitiously fingering her pussy till she was like "Get a cab, NOW, you're taking me home to fuck me", but comfort zone sex set in very quickly after that).

I mean she was nice enough personally, and I hope she found happiness maybe with somebody equally dull or else easily pleased. But I looked at the prospect of spending serious time with her and ... Nah.

Pretty much all other relationships I've had have ended by mutual consent. One I really didn't want to (best fuck ever) but she was flaky, my kids didn't like her and she didn't want to take it any further.

 

[GeorgiaJDaddy]

Wore white tube socks during sex.

To the firing squad with him

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Her boyfriend was getting out of jail in a week
Mentally unstable
She had a boyfriend she did not tell me about
She joined a religious cult
Distance was too far
She did not want to be exclusive (this one I regret)
She insisted on being exclusive (different woman, many years later)
No personality
She had feelings for me which I did not reciprocate
I was more interested in her sister (mistake)

 

[Up4fun&69]

Wow. So much to choose from and some things I can't share, explicitly. But for me...
- Heavy smoker
- Heavy drinker
- Looking for a green card (had 3 such encounters)
- Villainous family connections (had 2 such encounters)
- Dishonest (about age, relationship status, health status, etc.)
- Unstable personality
- Not caring or careful about health status (I had one person, when refusing safe sex at a first encounter, tell me, "Everyone gets an STD eventually. It's no big deal. You get a shot and you're fine. I have Herpes. So what? Get over yourself." Not to my liking.)
I'm sure there are more but this is these are at the top of the list for me.

 

[HornyOlderStroker]

Only two where I've realized that I didn't want to continue the relationship:

1. Bat-shit crazy and homophobic.
2. Sweet but boring.

Otherwise, if they have a healthy libido, are moderately adventurous in the bedroom and fun to be around, I've always let the relationship run its course.

 

[panty_aussie]

well probably number one is playing hard to get games

most recently had that happen. i just ignored her then she kept appearing in front of me expecting to talk to her

then gets pissed of that i don't talk to her

on the phone a lot of the time

too scared to show interest then when i show interest she loses it.

She just uses guys for attention

acting like immature adult. im not you're dad

You need to do grown up stuff for yourself

trying to make you jealous esp when you talk about the other guys you're talking too, Quickest way to show that immature and like attention form heaps of guys and prob will bang lots of guys

 

[hotwords229_A]

What were sexual and non-sexual deal breakers . . .

Bi-Polar.

So you’re only into straight-polars?
I’ve heard some of those cock curious eskimos really know how to suck a dick.
You might be missing out, just saying.

 

[lily_wall_]

Has std

Bad oral hygiene

Know him through my husband

Man younger than me - no man younger than me has ever got my juices flowing. The only who does, lives in my fantasy

Closed fist hitting - slap me, throw me, manhandle me all you want and I'll only get more needy, but punch me once, even just try and miss, and it's over. Forever. No second chances

 

[Britva415]

Record a conversation about our relationship and post it for your random-ass online “friends” to see.

Give me one of those “relationship test” questions you heard about from one of those random-ass people you follow online.

Take what random-ass other people say about our relationship more seriously than you take what I say about it.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Bitchy - especially to the service industry (waiters, customer service reps, etc.)
Dirty home - doesn't clean
Bad teeth
Doesn't take care of her physical or mental health
Lies
Takes anti-depressants - while I respect this as self-care IME it just hasn't worked for me
Materialistic
Racist / misandrist / misogynist
Starts arguments
On birth control / doesn't like condoms
Negative mindset or victim mindset

 

[LMWM321]

A Low libido would be a deal breaker.

I'd have to be convinced that she is TRULY horny for me and not just attracted to my other qualities (however meager ) I couldn't be with someone who is ambivalent about sex, who sees sex as a chore rather than a healthy and thrilling biological mandate.

Also... someone who lacks empathy; treats & tips service workers poorly.

 

[LMWM321]

What were sexual and non-sexual deal breakers that resulted in you not pursuing further relations with another person?

Me I had several in no particular order:

Foot fetish.

I don't follow... You mean you've met women who fetishize your feet and that's a turn off for you? And what constitutes a foot fetish? Just curious (and it's a serious question, not a prompt for kinky banter).

 

[Britva415]

Smoking or smelling like smoke

 

[GoodnessO]

Wants to fuck me in the ass, tie me up, or give facials.
Can't make a decision, even simple day to day choices... like where to go for lunch.
Jealous, controlling.
Lacking sexual proficiency, or aptitude, & unable to learn.
Doesn't care about my orgasms.
Unfortunately, my husband has made his way somewhat onto this list, but its not his fault, & I still love him dearly. Extramarital sex became a necessity for me.