Divorce and sex

[yvcam]

Hello all,

For those of you that are now divorced, how is your sex life now in comparison to when you were married to your spouse?

 

[KyleR215]

The same. Not happening. I date occasionally and have sex on occasion but those times are few and far between.

There was very little sex when I was married at the end of the relationship but it wasn’t sex that ruined that marriage.

 

[yvcam]

i see your point. And i can only imagine how difficult would be to start again after a breakup. However... what i am seeing with several middle age people around us is that they are all having A LOT more fun than when they were married. Reasons? Different conversation... but I wanted to check the pulse and see how much truth there is to it.
I see one big factor that could affect the outcome of the question: If you live in a large metropolitan area is going to definitely be easier than if you live in the suburbs or the boonies.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

In the last 10 years of my marriage, my ex and I had sex less than a dozen times. In the 2.5 years since I left him my sex life is significantly more active than that

 

[HotRobbie]

I still get blow jobs from my ex

 

[Britva415]

We didn't divorce, but we would have if I hadn't been able to pursue a sex life outside the marriage.

The whole "starting over at this age" thing hasn't been a big deal at all. I'm doing better than I did when I was younger, more naïve, less confident, less clueful about women.

I'd call where I live definitely "suburbs," though it's near urban centers. Boonies would be harder but there really aren't many places which are that far from towns and small cities. And every town/city has people who will make themselves available and are okay company.

It probably depends what you're looking for. Just sex, a nice time, a new friend? No big whoop. Finding another life partner doesn't seem to be what the question is about, but that typically follows from finding new sex partners, if you want it to.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

Finding another life partner doesn't seem to be what the question is about, but that typically follows from finding new sex partners, if you want it to.

Maybe men have a different experience to women but after leaving my husband, dating was brutal. Weeks of chatting before first dates, and before Master I never got a second date. I didn't fuck every first date but every first date made it clear that sex was expected.

Master is married, so him being a life partner is unlikely though we are coming up to our 2nd anniversary. Having said that, it works for me for now. I'm not ready for another attempt at forever, don't know if I ever will be.

 

[yvcam]

We didn't divorce, but we would have if I hadn't been able to pursue a sex life outside the marriage.

The whole "starting over at this age" thing hasn't been a big deal at all. I'm doing better than I did when I was younger, more naïve, less confident, less clueful about women.

I'd call where I live definitely "suburbs," though it's near urban centers. Boonies would be harder but there really aren't many places which are that far from towns and small cities. And every town/city has people who will make themselves available and are okay company.

It probably depends what you're looking for. Just sex, a nice time, a new friend? No big whoop. Finding another life partner doesn't seem to be what the question is about, but that typically follows from finding new sex partners, if you want it to.

all of them good points

 

[AIB999]

Hello all,

For those of you that are now divorced, how is your sex life now in comparison to when you were married to your spouse?

Significantly better! My ex and I were not compatible, for lack of better term. Our sex life essentially consisted of him nightly asking for sex (or nearly begging as it turned out) and me finally throwing him a bone on occasion.

Since the divorce I’ve found ALOT more satisfying encounters, although they’ve been lacking as of late

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Afterwards it was terrible for a year, rubbish for a second year, and then it got better. It's not as kinky and perverse as it was, but it is good fun and I've done some new things.

 

[Asilverfox23]

Afterwards it was terrible for a year, rubbish for a second year, and then it got better. It's not as kinky and perverse as it was, but it is good fun and I've done some new thin

At least there’s progress!

 

[Blue255624]

Afterwards it was terrible for a year, rubbish for a second year, and then it got better. It's not as kinky and perverse as it was, but it is good fun and I've done some new things.

It can be tough for quite a while, but usually not as tough as staying where you were. I was so pleasantly surprised to learn that I could be happy again.

 

[Blue255624]

I was unhappily married for a few years, divorced then remarried, with great sex. Many years later still happily married but the sex has long gone, but not the desire. This community can be great for filling that gap but, IMO, not a substitute for or a reason to stay in an unhappy marriage.

 

[yvcam]

Afterwards it was terrible for a year, rubbish for a second year, and then it got better. It's not as kinky and perverse as it was, but it is good fun and I've done some new things.

coming out of a kinky relationship and getting into a different dynamic is definitely not something easy to adapt to. But i'm glad things are better now....