Do women have different standards

[seemoreme]

maybe skanks (excuse my french) would have but no not really , looks come in the scale but other things seem more important

 

[dionysus75]

Quite intesresting thread! I'm not even sure what I believe. I would have said men are definitely more visual but if I ask myself what women I like it's not always their look that matter the most. Huh, I'll keep reading the posts since I don't have a real opinion so far!!

 

[DirtyPet]

I have never gone by looks at all. Some men/women that I find beautiful/gorgeous are always that way because of who they are. I've had very physically attractive people flirt with me and once I realize how ugly they are inside it makes them ugly outside as well. Whereas I have also been told by many that my boyfriend or girlfriend was ugly..but I know they are the most beautiful person to me.

 

[SouthernShyness]

I think it is in the eye of the beholder. It is the hands and height that attracts me, but than I am 5' 11 and enjoy the security and sense of submission of him towering over me.

 

[SassySheDevil]

What I am about to say is just a generalization, so I realize not everyone fits this mold; however, with that said...



I would say to some extent, yes. Where I think women differ is in their ability to find a man more attractive based on personality characteristics, rather than strictly on physical appearance alone. I think they're more "accepting," if you will.

I am not saying men don't consider personality, as well; clearly, they do. However, even if a man finds a woman's personality very attractive and he gets along with her, I don't think he's as likely to pursue her if he's not physically attracted to her in some way. Men are primarily visual.

You can see this in celebrity relationships (or even regular folks walking down the street). How many conventionally unattractive male rockstars or actors are there with incredibly hot wives? But reverse the scenario... how many extremely attractive men do you see with homely, unattractive wives/girlfriends? Not many.

Just seems to me women are more often attracted to things other than what you look like -- be it intelligence, sense of humor, talent, creativity, a sweet nature, a fat wallet, whatever!

I agree with this. Personality is a big seller for me. Looks can change. Peronality and intelligence keep me stimulated far longer. If a guy can make me think. Or challenge my brain, I'm going to be way more turned on then if he looks cute.

And btw.. I use "cute" alot. As a 37 year old women, saying "hot" just sounds funny to me. I feel like I should be some teenage girl talking about her first crush. Even though "cute" probably sounds more kiddish.
Cute is also what I think of as a more all around good looking guy. Hot makes me think of something you'd want to look at, but not date.

 

[infinity706]

I think it is in the eye of the beholder. It is the hands and height that attracts me, but than I am 5' 11 and enjoy the security and sense of submission of him towering over me.

Are you sure you don't mean 4' 11? At 5'11 you're probably taller than about every guy that wasn't on a highschool basketball team, so it would certainly restrict your guy pool.