Does size matter?

[Glenalk]

Ladies, does the size of a mans cock really matter? In most erotic fiction the man always seems to have a huge cock but in real life there be small ones as well as large. What size do you ladies actually like best or is technique more important?

Your views and accounts of sex with different size cocks would be interesting.

 

[Leigh81]

Size does matter but it's hardly the end of the world.
It's like Goldilocks and the Three Bears. This one is to small, this one is to big, this one is just right.
An average man who knows what he's doing, has control, endurance & can go a couple of rounds or more is totally fine. A small one say under 5" with average or below thickness, sorry. Unless the woman your with isn't into sex or has never been with anyone else, then..........
To long & thick can be a problem for oral & if you're into anal, sorry no thanks.
The perfect size imo is about 7 1/2" with slightly thicker than average girth attached to a man that can use it.

L

 

[Glenalk]

thanks for that.

 

[Iceprincess12]

Size does matter but it's hardly the end of the world.
It's like Goldilocks and the Three Bears. This one is to small, this one is to big, this one is just right.
An average man who knows what he's doing, has control, endurance & can go a couple of rounds or more is totally fine. A small one say under 5" with average or below thickness, sorry. Unless the woman your with isn't into sex or has never been with anyone else, then..........
To long & thick can be a problem for oral & if you're into anal, sorry no thanks.
The perfect size imo is about 7 1/2" with slightly thicker than average girth attached to a man that can use it.

L

Agree. A man still needs to provide pleasure and if the parts don't fit, that can be a problem. A lot of women will tell you it's technique and not his size that is the bigger issue though.

Ask the woman or man you are trying to please if you are unsure if your size matters. That could be the beginning of a great conversation.

 

[Sir_Sydney]

I'm not hung like American Pharaoh - but I keep women satisfied by doing my best w/ what I got - cock, hands and tongue

 

[Setanta84]

There is no "right answer" here. For the most part, size issues are a creation of the mind. "The mind is its own place, and in itself / Can make a Heaven of Hell, a Hell of Heaven." And all that. With the caveat that below average can be a legitimate issue in providing satisfying penetrative sex, that's not the only kind of sex you can have.

Also, physiologically, anything significantly larger than average literally does nothing--the nerve endings associated with pleasure during sex don't go far beyond the dimensions of the average penis in most women. Most women who are "size queens" are either into the sensations associated with discomfort, experiencing a placebo effect, fucking with your head, or some combo of the three.

Being large also isn't all it's cracked up to be. It's hard to find a woman who can give you head for an extended period of time and/or take it to a satisfying depth in her mouth, meaning lousy head is usually the order of the day. Most women will be straight up scared of anal with a well-endowed guy. And, for women who are slow to lubricate naturally, passionate moments often end you with being momentarily pushed off her while she scrambles to get a bottle of lube.

 

[suckonsimon]

... The perfect size imo is about 7 1/2" with slightly thicker than average girth attached to a man that can use it ...

I know, Leigh, that you wrote much more than this, and with a little , yet please allow me to pick out this one sentence as it is the one the guys will all home in on.

I believe the average length is just under 6", and that a huge proportion of men are within the range one inch below that to one inch above that. Which would suggest that guys with "The perfect size" are mighty unusual. That, then, would seem to be a great shame!
I say this from a standpoint of satisfaction with my 6"-and-good-girth "attached to a man that can use it" [I do like that statement!] and yet confessing that, for all that satisfaction, I do have deep down in me somewhere an envy for what the really big boys have. I think is standard male sexual psychology.

 

[rainbowdash30]

Yes and no is the correct answer to this question.

 

[Leigh81]

I know, Leigh, that you wrote much more than this, and with a little , yet please allow me to pick out this one sentence as it is the one the guys will all home in on.

I believe the average length is just under 6", and that a huge proportion of men are within the range one inch below that to one inch above that. Which would suggest that guys with "The perfect size" are mighty unusual. That, then, would seem to be a great shame!
I say this from a standpoint of satisfaction with my 6"-and-good-girth "attached to a man that can use it" [I do like that statement!] and yet confessing that, for all that satisfaction, I do have deep down in me somewhere an envy for what the really big boys have. I think is standard male sexual psychology.

Your size is more than adequate.
Another thing is that length is always the headliner with size. Girth is what counts more yet it's always about length with men. Average length is 5.75" ,girth 4.80"
If you can give us gals an orgasm with just your cock then you don't have a problem whatever size you are.

L

 

[suckonsimon]

Your size is more than adequate.
Another thing is that length is always the headliner with size. Girth is what counts more yet it's always about length with men. Average length is 5.75" ,girth 4.80"
If you can give us gals an orgasm with just your cock then you don't have a problem whatever size you are.

L

Totally with you babe. Like me sig says.

 

[ChattyAnnie]

Leigh has it right. A woman's vagina can stretch to accomodate almost any size (after all we do squeeze out babies through there)... same goes for the back door within limits. The opposite is also true. Both the vagina and sphincter contract to their normal tightness after sex and can accomodate a smaller penis quite snugly the next time. It often becomes more of an issue of clitoral stimulation and technique that provides the pleasure... a man's tongue and fingers can do wonders.
On the other hand...

 

[SquirtnBrat]

I like how people automatically site the "average" results. Along with quoting "on average sex lasts 7minutes"! It's all too amusing to me.

 

[rainbowdash30]

I like how people automatically site the "average" results. Along with quoting "on average sex lasts 7minutes"! It's all too amusing to me.

Yes. How dare people bring facts into this!

 

[pvt_addiction]

I'll admit that I've never experienced giving my SO an orgasm through vaginal sex, but have given plenty of orgasms through oral. With the numbers given above, I'd say I'm in the average to above average range. Does that mean I don't know what I'm doing?

 

[Glenalk]

Leigh has it right. A woman's vagina can stretch to accomodate almost any size (after all we do squeeze out babies through there)... same goes for the back door within limits. The opposite is also true. Both the vagina and sphincter contract to their normal tightness after sex and can accomodate a smaller penis quite snugly the next time. It often becomes more of an issue of clitoral stimulation and technique that provides the pleasure... a man's tongue and fingers can do wonders.
On the other hand...

How true that is. A ladies parts are one size fits all I guess

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

depends on the situation, if you are good at sex with ok length then no it doesn't matter

or if a woman likes the actual pain or feeling stretched, then i guess it does matter.


or maybe it doesn't matter when you don't really have sex to begin with.

 

[suckonsimon]

I'll admit that I've never experienced giving my SO an orgasm through vaginal sex, but have given plenty of orgasms through oral. With the numbers given above, I'd say I'm in the average to above average range. Does that mean I don't know what I'm doing?

Prompts me, pvt_a, to offer a definition of a man 'knowing what he's doing':
A guy who perceives the kind and level of pleasure his woman is anticipating;
A guy who discovers how, given this woman's individuality, he may help her attain it, using every part of himself.
- and I know that you know that.

 

[carlsnake]

First was biggest

My wife lost her virginity to the thickest cock she's ever experienced, and they did it several more times. Some of her next lovers had longer cocks, but not as thick, and she didn't enjoy them as much. Of course, she tells me that mine is about average in length and width, but that the important thing is that I know what she needs and give it to her. Still, she says that thick cock was nice.

 

[MissBlondie]

depends on the situation, if you are good at sex with ok length then no it doesn't matter

or if a woman likes the actual pain or feeling stretched, then i guess it does matter.


or maybe it doesn't matter when you don't really have sex to begin with.

Exactly Big is not always better

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

But it usually is and that's what is usually seeked out

 

[suckonsimon]

But it usually is and that's what is usually seeked out

Come on mate. Women are not seeking out big dicks. What a woman adores is a guy with personality who is going to look out for her and make life exciting and, in intimacy, give her the whole of himself with passion and attention.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

i thought we were talking about sex, not the other stuff

 

[suckonsimon]

i thought we were talking about sex, not the other stuff

My perception is that for most women there is not a distinction between sex and the other stuff; in fact, it's the other stuff which ignites the desire for sexual union. More than that, it's the other stuff - and not the size of the guy's dick - which opens the doors for her having really deep pleasure in sex.

Truth is I see it that way as a man too. For me, I can't untangle my performance and pleasure as a lover from my personality tastes and ability to empathize and so on. Whatever I can 'do' pleasuring a woman sexually is about the whole of me much, much more than it is about my boner.

 

[Mercury_Maniac]

must be why i get told i'm a great guy all the time but never get laid

 

[SweetSam42]

Ladies don't generally care for downers. Simon knows what he's talking about.