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fgarvb1 said:
Well you provide a nice contrast to those of us on here who expound excessively, and situations like this sometimes call for cutting to the quick. Well done!
Girlfriend sex/etc problems....
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Well you provide a nice contrast to those of us on here who expound excessively, and situations like this sometimes call for cutting to the quick. Well done!
Hey everybody! (Hi Dr. Nick....ok...maybe not.) This is my first post at literotica, though I "lurk" here quite often. I had the same problem with my girlfriend, browncow. She would always get off of work late, and as soon as she would get off I would come over and I'd basically just sit there with her until she decided she wanted to go to bed. We pretty much quit doing sexual stuff because she was always either tired/stressed about her job. And when we would do stuff...I would usually do something to her....and she would call it quits. I broke up with her not too long ago, and it still hurts; however, I think that I did the right thing in the long run. I still love her...but we just had compatibility issues *cough*sexwise*cough cough*. I'm not even sure if any of the stuff I typed makes sense...but that's my $0.01 (I'm a newb, my opinion doesn't count as much =) ).
Say it with me now... THEERRRAPEEEE.
Therapy.
You can't communicate, and she has issues with sex. Seriously, you should both invest in some therapy, either together, or alone. You have issues individually, and issues as a couple.
You keep saying that you need to work on your non-communicative nature on your own. Do you have ANY idea how difficult that is? It's difficult because people, in general, aren't overly honest with themselves (ourselves, as I delude myself too). We sugar-coat our own problems, to make them seem not as bad as they are.
Hell, I'm a neurotic, obsessive-compulsive, with an anxiety disorder. Therapy taught me that. I know how to deal with it now, but I would NEVER have called myself ANY of those things, by 'helping myself', and 'dealing with things on my own'. I'm not that honest with myself, I guess.
And sometimes, things are just too big to deal with on your own. It's okay to ask for help. It doesn't make you weird or weak, or any less of a person. It makes you stronger, to be able to ask for help where you need it.
*shrug* That's all I've got to say.
Therapy.
You can't communicate, and she has issues with sex. Seriously, you should both invest in some therapy, either together, or alone. You have issues individually, and issues as a couple.
You keep saying that you need to work on your non-communicative nature on your own. Do you have ANY idea how difficult that is? It's difficult because people, in general, aren't overly honest with themselves (ourselves, as I delude myself too). We sugar-coat our own problems, to make them seem not as bad as they are.
Hell, I'm a neurotic, obsessive-compulsive, with an anxiety disorder. Therapy taught me that. I know how to deal with it now, but I would NEVER have called myself ANY of those things, by 'helping myself', and 'dealing with things on my own'. I'm not that honest with myself, I guess.
And sometimes, things are just too big to deal with on your own. It's okay to ask for help. It doesn't make you weird or weak, or any less of a person. It makes you stronger, to be able to ask for help where you need it.
*shrug* That's all I've got to say.
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