Guys, are you the girl?

[Escierto]

Many (all?) of us have grown up with gender stereotypes that have managed to stay with us. I grew up in the 50's and 60's so obviously I was a prime victim of these stereotypes. For younger generations, I am sure that they have been able to get rid of many of them but still, they linger.

My girlfriend's regular routine consists of many nights going out drinking with her gang and coming home drunk in the wee hours before passing out on her bed. I can handle some of this but sometimes, it gets to be too much and I am starved for her attention.

Today, she made up for it by chatting on cam with me for three hours. As a result, I felt so close and in love with her. I told her I never wanted to suck her cock more than in that moment.

Later, I thought to myself, that was just like a happy housewife telling her husband after he has done something nice for her, "Oh honey, I love you, let me suck your cock?"

I laughed to myself and thought, geez, dude, you are the girl.

Has this ever happened to you? Yes? No? Or what?

 

[cdstefi]

Although I don't live, act, speak or write en femme, I do feel kinda like the girl on the rare occasions I get a nice stiff cock or a strapon to ride. Impossible not to feel that way if you're in your sexiest lingerie and impaled on an erect shaft

 

[lifeis2short2b]

LMFAO !!!!!

 

[Escierto]

In another thread, I wrote about one of my trans girlfriend's prior sexual experiences.

We were chatting and she told me about a time she had made a date with a guy on Tinder. He was a foreign businessman in Manila and she arranged to meet him at his hotel room for a sexual encounter.

She said she showed up at his room where she immediately pulled out her cock for him to suck. As soon as she was hard, he bent over the bed exposing his bare ass and she quickly fucked him until she pumped a load of cum up his ass. Satisfied that she had gotten her rocks off, she thanked him, left the room and went home.

The whole thing lasted less than 15 minutes and as she described it, it was "the perfect fuck". She didn't even know the guy's full name and never saw him again.

She was quite satisfied as she told me the story but I felt very sad about it. It was the classic anonymous hump and dump for which men are renowned. It made me wonder about her and how she was capable of such typically male behavior. As I thought about how I could never engage in such meaningless anonymous sex, again I said to myself, "Dude, you are the girl."

 

[Wag_that_tail86]

Maybe so but be the girl if it works for you both. You've written about her a lot, and it hurts when something makes you question your relationship. Hope things work out for you.

 

[Escierto]

I have been thinking about it and my girl and I are like complements of each other.

Physically, I am a big athletic guy. I played sports all through school and I still like to run and exercise. I present as very masculine. My girlfriend looks like a small delicate woman. She moves in a very feminine way with her hips as she walks. She is not sporty at all and complains if we have to walk a lot. She is not interested in physical sports.

When it comes to our inner personas, she is definitely a guy. Socially she likes to do guy things, drink, game, play cards, gamble, smoke. I don't like to do any of those things and I am most interested in talking to women and children. Often I think I really have the heart of a woman.

Sexually, my girl likes to fuck and cum. She loves to be sucked off. She does not reciprocate sexually in any way and you could say that she is a selfish lover.

I love to be the one who gets her hard by showing her my ass cheeks and then playing with her cock until she is good and hard. For me, sex is all about getting her cum inside me, either up my ass or down my throat.

After she finishes, she is happy that she has had her orgasm in a nice warm hole. I am happy that I have been inseminated and I have my lover's cum inside me. Nothing else matters.

 

[SPARTAN047]

In another thread, I wrote about one of my trans girlfriend's prior sexual experiences.

We were chatting and she told me about a time she had made a date with a guy on Tinder. He was a foreign businessman in Manila and she arranged to meet him at his hotel room for a sexual encounter.

She said she showed up at his room where she immediately pulled out her cock for him to suck. As soon as she was hard, he bent over the bed exposing his bare ass and she quickly fucked him until she pumped a load of cum up his ass. Satisfied that she had gotten her rocks off, she thanked him, left the room and went home.

The whole thing lasted less than 15 minutes and as she described it, it was "the perfect fuck". She didn't even know the guy's full name and never saw him again.

She was quite satisfied as she told me the story but I felt very sad about it. It was the classic anonymous hump and dump for which men are renowned. It made me wonder about her and how she was capable of such typically male behavior. As I thought about how I could never engage in such meaningless anonymous sex, again I said to myself, "Dude, you are the girl."

Very good points.

Not just trans women, cos women can do this too. They get macho males to fuck them and want to change them to stay and cuddle, which the guys won't do. They walk out. Then they call in more feminine guys who enjoy kissing and cuddling or just want to please them, but won't give them sex.

Guys can also fuck women they actually like and then abandon them which makes them resentful. Both ways poison human relationships when they're not honest about what they want.

Both men and women are responsible for this. Guys pretend to want affection to get sex and women pretend to want sex to get affection. Both of them try to get what they want before giving anything to the other party and then leave before they can be called out on it, calling each other 'frigid', 'teases', 'jerks / assholes', 'loves sex more than me', 'loves shopping and decor more than sex'...

I'd be hypocritical if I didn't say that I've actually had anonymous sex like your girlfriend and enjoyed it. It was when I was horny and needed sex but wasn't really looking for something more permanent.

I changed this mindset since I was getting so many people I liked but who wouldn't stay with me as they wanted to be sluts. Having sex with someone like that will make them put a notch on their bedpost and move on to the next hoe they can fuck. No one can make the stick to one person, but if you don't have sex with them you'll keep your dignity.

That's a very female mindset.

I also have the male mindset of not doing material things for anyone in return for sex or paying them. It makes you lazy and takes away your dignity so I won't bother. And I realize any woman, cis or trans, can demand gifts, anniversary presents, and birthday ones without giving any in return, or sex, and then stay the same way in a relationship or marriage. They can also be awful in bed. I won't do anything of the sort for someone who saves sex for marriage but wants everything else associated with it.

 

[Escierto]

Very good points.

Not just trans women, cos women can do this too. They get macho males to fuck them and want to change them to stay and cuddle, which the guys won't do. They walk out. Then they call in more feminine guys who enjoy kissing and cuddling or just want to please them, but won't give them sex.

Guys can also fuck women they actually like and then abandon them which makes them resentful. Both ways poison human relationships when they're not honest about what they want.

Both men and women are responsible for this. Guys pretend to want affection to get sex and women pretend to want sex to get affection. Both of them try to get what they want before giving anything to the other party and then leave before they can be called out on it, calling each other 'frigid', 'teases', 'jerks / assholes', 'loves sex more than me', 'loves shopping and decor more than sex'...

I'd be hypocritical if I didn't say that I've actually had anonymous sex like your girlfriend and enjoyed it. It was when I was horny and needed sex but wasn't really looking for something more permanent.

I changed this mindset since I was getting so many people I liked but who wouldn't stay with me as they wanted to be sluts. Having sex with someone like that will make them put a notch on their bedpost and move on to the next hoe they can fuck. No one can make the stick to one person, but if you don't have sex with them you'll keep your dignity.

That's a very female mindset.

I also have the male mindset of not doing material things for anyone in return for sex or paying them. It makes you lazy and takes away your dignity so I won't bother. And I realize any woman, cis or trans, can demand gifts, anniversary presents, and birthday ones without giving any in return, or sex, and then stay the same way in a relationship or marriage. They can also be awful in bed. I won't do anything of the sort for someone who saves sex for marriage but wants everything else associated with it.

Good thought provoking post.