How do you know who you are?

[Chicklet]

As a young woman, I've so far had quite a difficult time deciding what sexual orientation I am. All I've really decided is that I'm attracted to almost everyone.

When and how did you know who you were, what kind of people you wanted, whether you were gay or bisexual or straight? Did anything phenominal happen, like voices from a burning bush (ha ha ha, bush, ha ha) or a vision in your sleep?

 

[BlueSugar]

::chuckles:: bush.. hehe.

I decided what I didn't like, and everything else fell into place. I just know what I don't want, and don't like, and don't agree with. I haven't really picked an orientation, but Bi works for me. I'm not a big title freak either, they just work to help other people follow conversation and such.

 

[clamshell2]

hi

Hi, heard alot about you, read some of your stuff.So I thought it's time to meet you. I'm Kate and I consider myself a slut. And I'm pleased to meet you. How do I know who I am? I just look down at my name tag, silly. Just thought I'd get you started. See you on down the thread. I'll be serious next time__Kate good luck with thyis thread should be interesting

 

[clamshell2]

Blue

I knew you would beat me here, you little minx. Hi BLue

 

[BlueSugar]

hey clamshell!!! bumping thread even though its up there already

 

[clamshell2]

blue

Everybody needs alittle help in there life at some point in time. Hey Blue is it( life or lives ) thank you- k and for the hostess

 

[bottom boy]

When and how did you know who you were, what kind of people you wanted, whether you were gay or bisexual or straight?

Still not quite sure ... was straight and curious, then bi, now leaning toward gay ...

 

[69forever]

How do you know...

Hi chicklit, that is a question that plagued me for years.

Religious, ethnic, prejudiced, small town midwest upbringing is
not the place to be questioning your sexuallity. That's me.

From the time I hit puberty, I was drawn towards both sexes.
Hetero is glorified for its conquests - bi or homo is not even within
the realm of possibilities. How do you say SIN, or pariah...

Being a bi male is the most fucked up place to be. All that macho
shit. It REALLY messed with my head. Give in to your wants and
needs to be happy and fullfilled sexually, then feel guilty after.
But then isn't that the Catholic and Protestant way?

When I say that it messed with my head, I mean it really messed with my head, up to the point that I contemplated suicide.
Now THAT'S fucked up!!!

What happened is that I accepted myself for who I am...
A loving,caring,intelligent man, who loves a hot, juicy pussy as well as a hard dripping cock. End of conflict.

But in our homophobic culture I cann't be open about that.

Beam me up Scotty, there's no intelligent life here!!

 

[clamshell2]

hi

Now I remember. I read a short demonstration a while back. loved it then love it now.excellent job with emotions. I could feel what she was feeling just by your words. It is good to meet you thanks Kate

 

[69forever]

Kate...I absolutely luv your AV. What I would do for that is almost
beyond description, but not mine.

The sweet, intoxicating aroma is almost virtual through my monitor. (light a candle and some insense).

Thank you, my lady.

 

[clamshell2]

thank you

Thank you that was nice of you to say. What would you do for that?

 

[clamshell2]

Chicklet

We are just around the bend from each other. I'm from OR also_-K

 

[glamorilla]

Figuring out who I was was never easier. As a kid I knew I was different but I didn't quite understand it untill I reached puberty.

 

[alltherage]

For me it was less a challenge of figuring out who I was than it was one of accepting who I was. I knew, but society told me that what I was feeling was wrong and so for a time I resisted the feelings and tried to comform. The feelings persisted and had to be addressed. It is all about allowing yourself to be who you are. I suspect most of us know pretty early on who we are.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Who you are today

isn't necessaraly who you will be tomorrow. I guess what I am saying is don't cast who you are in concrete. It isn't about where you end up but more about how you get there and what you experience along the way.

Or as someone once said, " You are different each day because you have one more day of experience being you"

Holden

 

[69forever]

What I'd do...

Ahhh Kate, you've inspired me to peck at these keys some more.

Lovely as those legs are encased in that layer of nylon, I'd have to peel them down, kissing and nipping all the way until they came off your toes. That's where I'd start working my way back
up towards your gorgeous V.

The only proper place for me to be is at the feet of such a delectable treat. Licking and sucking my way over and around your toes, up your feet to your ankles. Then the calf, knee and
up and around your inner thighs.

Each inch upwards is rewarded by your sighs of contentment and
moans of delight. For me the journey is following the ever increasing scent from my quest. You reach a hand down to play
with yourself, but I become bold and grab both your wrists, gently
holding your hands from my treasure.

From thigh to thigh I go, each inch upward a shorter distance.
Finally my nose is at the junction of these beautiful legs, my quest. I dare to inhale your essence, then blow my overheated
breath on those succulant lips. In awe I watch as those petals
open before me, inviting ravashment from my tongue.

I tentatively extend my tongue and trace your outline. Your knees
almost buckle from the anticipation. I cannot wait any longer and
dive in, my mouth enveloping your sweet dripping pussy.

How's that sweety? Practicing my narrative description can be a
stimulating thing...I know it's got me hot...your AV in my mind.

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

As I stood at the cross roads of my life I saw two signs:

EW and YUM.

I went with YUM.

 

[Chicklet]

As I stood at the cross roads of my life I saw two signs:

EW and YUM.

I went with YUM.

grin = )

luckily for me, both signs seem to say "yum"

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

i never had the difficulty of trying to figure out who i was. I have always been around people involved in an alternative lifestyle and i always felt more comfortable with them than with anyone else (or anywhere else) Until recently i sported the *bi* label, though i knew i found women sexually and emotionally more fulfilling. I finally gave up in April of this year. Now, I consider myself a female who happens to LOVE females and finds guys interesting playmates. Does that mean i am still *bi* to most people? Yes, but to me...i am happy with no limitations on who or how i should love.

lil girl
(SHELLY)

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

My daughter also has taken the "Both say YUM" route, and I must admit, I'm jealous.

I'd much rather have a lot of options than the few I have, but it is just as silly to ask someone not to be straight as it is to ask someone not to be gay, don't you think?

 

[clamshell2]

Pretty dam good just remenber throw in the rough stuff. k

 

[bottom boy]

but it is just as silly to ask someone not to be straight as it is to ask someone not to be gay, don't you think?

I think it is. I guess this is one of the things I've been struggling with ... because I'm starting to explore my feelings for guys, does this mean I have to give up liking girls?

BTW, my (bi) gf and I are going to our first alternative bar together ... I'm not sure what to expect, I'm a little scared. Any suggestions from the audience?

 

[clamshell2]

Polite, Thats a beautiful dream you have I really hope it works out I'll be in for coffee alot.__K

 

[Bandit58]

For me it was less a challenge of figuring out who I was than it was one of accepting who I was. I knew, but society told me that what I was feeling was wrong and so for a time I resisted the feelings and tried to comform. The feelings persisted and had to be addressed. It is all about allowing yourself to be who you are. I suspect most of us know pretty early on who we are.

I finally addressed my feelings last year at the age of 43. It's not easy growing up in a small rural community....I tried to conform for 30 years but some things just cannot be denied.....as hard as I tried. I'm still in the closet as far as my family is concerned but I'm out to a couple of friends and the (few) lovers I've had. Plus all the lovely people here of course

I can't really remember NOT being attracted to females.....I had a crush on a girl in high school when I was 15. I was shy and I didn't know how to handle it so I pushed those feelings away and tried to be "normal".....so normal that I got married at 19 to the first guy who showed interest in me.....big mistake. By the time I realised it was all WRONG I had two children and nowhere to go and no job except being a farmer's wife and a mother. I stayed in that marriage for 23 years until it all just came to a head one day last year and I said I wanted out. The sense of freedom....oh god so amazing to be able to BE myself....even though I hadn't been with a woman physically I allowed myself to feel what I'd pushed down for so long and it was wonderful. Since then I have experienced a woman once in the context of a 3some with an older male friend, and we have plans to do it again one day soon. Now I don't have to hide anymore, and if my family finds out well.....somehow it doesn't seem as bad as it used to......

 

[PoliteSuccubus]

Thanks Clamshell, I'll save you a slice of pie too!