How to approach an escort?

[cc22xp]

I want to get an escort, not even sure if that’s the right way to say. How does it work? How do I convey that I am a virgin? Is it safe? Will they have their own place or should I get a hotel? How to trust them? This is in context of Australia.

 

[NightL]

I want to get an escort, not even sure if that’s the right way to say. How does it work? How do I convey that I am a virgin? Is it safe? Will they have their own place or should I get a hotel? How to trust them? This is in context of Australia.

You do realise prostitution and brothels are legal in Australia. Turn off safe search filter on Google and search away. They have websites and advertise. There are probably reviews for you to check out as well.

 

[VerbalAbuse]

How do I convey that I am a virgin?

"I am virgin."

 

[TheRedChamber]

I'm not Australian and can't advise on legal matters. If any of this is regionally inappropriate I'm sure someone will tell me.

For what its worth...

Find a woman with at least a reasonably well written profile. I would suggest a native speaker on this occassion as communication will be vital. Contact her (through the website/phone/email) saying you are a virgin and you would like not to be. She doesnt need your life story. Book either one hour or two and expect to do it twice. The first time may well be disappointing or quick. Do not spend any money on extras. A one hour service with oral and sex should be great and anything else will just make you come quicker or interrupt the flow. The one exception to this is (french) kissing.

I've no idea about Australian prices, but aims for the medium. Obviously you dont want super cheap but premium is also likely to be a waste at least the first time. Do not negotiate prices and do not send hundreds of messages. If her first reply is not polite, bail, but otherwise seal the deal quickly. She may get annoyed with many follow up emails as that can suggest you are getting your jollies from messaging her.

Set your expectations realistically. There are fantastic workers out there. There are also good workers who just happen to be having a bad day when you arrive. And there are some girls who are unfortunately in the wrong job even if they know how to sell themselves. Expect to experience the mechanics of sex. Also expect that it is going to feel emotionally a bit weird. For whatever reason you might not click. You should expect to get what you paid for, at a basic level, but ultimately if the service is half hearted it is almost impossible to 'complain' it into being better - just find a different girl for next time if its something you intend to do (semi)regularly.

You should be okay following her lead. Many girls have a fixed 'program' that they follow if not directed for something else. This is often french followed by sex. Often they will allow multiple positions, but may start with cowgirl which may or may not be what you want. (It puts the expert in control, but isnt the typical experience) If you want missionary ask for it. If you want to perform cunnilingus, ask for it well before you start as she is likely using lube.

Also follow her lead with conversation. Some girls are chatty some less so. Dont going looking to impress her or win her over with your charm. Do be polite. Shower immediately before hand (or at the venue). Don't wear strong scents.

It is a very good sign if the advert says they will immediately cease contact if you ask for bareback. Dont freak out if the condom breaks. Do pull out and check immediately if there is the slightest possibility this may have happened.

This may be a personal thing, but if you are inexperienced with woman, ask to snooze while holding her between rounds. (Again up front and dont be offended if she says no.)

Do not fall in love.

 

[cc22xp]

I'm not Australian and can't advise on legal matters. If any of this is regionally inappropriate I'm sure someone will tell me.

For what its worth...

Find a woman with at least a reasonably well written profile. I would suggest a native speaker on this occassion as communication will be vital. Contact her (through the website/phone/email) saying you are a virgin and you would like not to be. She doesnt need your life story. Book either one hour or two and expect to do it twice. The first time may well be disappointing or quick. Do not spend any money on extras. A one hour service with oral and sex should be great and anything else will just make you come quicker or interrupt the flow. The one exception to this is (french) kissing.

I've no idea about Australian prices, but aims for the medium. Obviously you dont want super cheap but premium is also likely to be a waste at least the first time. Do not negotiate prices and do not send hundreds of messages. If her first reply is not polite, bail, but otherwise seal the deal quickly. She may get annoyed with many follow up emails as that can suggest you are getting your jollies from messaging her.

Set your expectations realistically. There are fantastic workers out there. There are also good workers who just happen to be having a bad day when you arrive. And there are some girls who are unfortunately in the wrong job even if they know how to sell themselves. Expect to experience the mechanics of sex. Also expect that it is going to feel emotionally a bit weird. For whatever reason you might not click. You should expect to get what you paid for, at a basic level, but ultimately if the service is half hearted it is almost impossible to 'complain' it into being better - just find a different girl for next time if its something you intend to do (semi)regularly.

You should be okay following her lead. Many girls have a fixed 'program' that they follow if not directed for something else. This is often french followed by sex. Often they will allow multiple positions, but may start with cowgirl which may or may not be what you want. (It puts the expert in control, but isnt the typical experience) If you want missionary ask for it. If you want to perform cunnilingus, ask for it well before you start as she is likely using lube.

Also follow her lead with conversation. Some girls are chatty some less so. Dont going looking to impress her or win her over with your charm. Do be polite. Shower immediately before hand (or at the venue). Don't wear strong scents.

It is a very good sign if the advert says they will immediately cease contact if you ask for bareback. Dont freak out if the condom breaks. Do pull out and check immediately if there is the slightest possibility this may have happened.

This may be a personal thing, but if you are inexperienced with woman, ask to snooze while holding her between rounds. (Again up front and dont be offended if she says no.)

Do not fall in love.

I couldn’t have asked for a better help in this regard. Thank you for your patience to explain the above. I got a bit confidence from your message, of course I have so many questions. But hopefully if I dive into the process probably I will figure it out.

 

[TheRedChamber]

I couldn’t have asked for a better help in this regard. Thank you for your patience to explain the above. I got a bit confidence from your message, of course I have so many questions. But hopefully if I dive into the process probably I will figure it out.

No worries. Good luck. Let us know how it went. And if you ultimately decide not to do it, that's fine as well.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I'm sure they'd be happy to help. It's all about the money.

 

[69Explorer]

Save your money... Spend it on a trip to Thailand... take plenty of condoms... Don't fall in love !!!!

 

[Bramblethorn]

I'm not Australian and can't advise on legal matters. If any of this is regionally inappropriate I'm sure someone will tell me.

I live in Australia and I know some people in that industry. TRC's advice is generally good.

The legality of sex work in Australia varies by state. In NT, NSW, Qld and Vic, it's decriminalised, i.e. it runs pretty much like any other business; in other states it's legal but under more restrictive frameworks. Wiki has the rundown: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitution_in_Australia

For what its worth...

Find a woman with at least a reasonably well written profile. I would suggest a native speaker on this occassion as communication will be vital.

Agreed. There are three main options:

- Independent workers, usually working either out of home or out of an apartment.
- Aboveboard brothels. These will have a website and they'll be pretty upfront with what they offer, though pricing and services available may vary depending on who you see - often the arrangement is that you pay the brothel for the room, and then everything else is between you and the person you see. Some indies will also work in brothels.
- Massage parlours. Depending on where you go and who you see, this might end up as anything from just a suggestive-feeling massage to a handjob to unprotected "full service".

I would not recommend a massage parlour, both because you're much more likely to hit a language barrier and because for your first time you probably want to know up front just what you're getting into (and how much to pay). They're also less likely to be scrupulous about protection.

Contact her (through the website/phone/email) saying you are a virgin and you would like not to be. She doesnt need your life story. Book either one hour or two and expect to do it twice. The first time may well be disappointing or quick. Do not spend any money on extras. A one hour service with oral and sex should be great and anything else will just make you come quicker or interrupt the flow. The one exception to this is (french) kissing.

The term to look for here is GFE ("girlfriend experience").

Be aware that some ads are scams. A couple of the common ones are fake photos and advance fee fraud (taking a deposit up front, then vanishing). Not everybody who asks for a deposit up front is a scammer; some SWs do it because it protects them from guys who get off on making a booking but not showing up, which wastes their time and money. Don't pay a deposit unless you are very comfortable that it's real, and be prepared to walk if the situation looks different to what you thought you were getting.

I've no idea about Australian prices, but aims for the medium. Obviously you dont want super cheap but premium is also likely to be a waste at least the first time. Do not negotiate prices and do not send hundreds of messages. If her first reply is not polite, bail, but otherwise seal the deal quickly. She may get annoyed with many follow up emails as that can suggest you are getting your jollies from messaging her.

Very roughly, around $250-400 for one hour GFE. You can find sex for much less, but it's not likely to be a good time.

If you want to perform cunnilingus, ask for it well before you start as she is likely using lube.

Or use dams, which is a good idea anyway. Unprotected cunnilingus is an STI risk, though not as big as unprotected PiV.

It is a very good sign if the advert says they will immediately cease contact if you ask for bareback.

Yes, this. You want somebody who is willing and able to set boundaries up front.

Particularly important because in decrim states like Vic, there is no longer a requirement for SWs to use protection or undergo STI testing. Many responsible providers will do it anyway but there are plenty who offer "natural" services - avoid.

The reason for using protection isn't that sex workers are particularly likely to have STIs; last I saw, rates for SWs were actually lower than the general population, though that was before the law changes on testing/protection. The reason is that using protection is always a good idea when having sex outside of a closed relationship, whether or not one's paying for it.

 

[Shellz32]

I want to get an escort, not even sure if that’s the right way to say. How does it work? How do I convey that I am a virgin? Is it safe? Will they have their own place or should I get a hotel? How to trust them? This is in context of Australia.

I've used Scarlet blue independent escorts (female and male) and have had wonderful experiences, each time I've used them. Roughly 10 times over several years. You initially text message them, back and forth a bit say what you want, then arrange either an incall or outcall. It is safe. I've never felt unsafe at any time whatsoever

And it's not as cheap as $400 an hour. More like $600. I'd assume it's cheaper if you go to a brothel

 

[Noor]

I've used Scarlet blue independent escorts (female and male) and have had wonderful experiences, each time I've used them. Roughly 10 times over several years. You initially text message them, back and forth a bit say what you want, then arrange either an incall or outcall. It is safe. I've never felt unsafe at any time whatsoever

And it's not as cheap as $400 an hour. More like $600. I'd assume it's cheaper if you go to a brothel

Do you tip and if so what percent?

 

[Shellz32]

Do you tip and if so what percent?

No tip needed in Australia. I don't tip it's expensive enough

 

[Bramblethorn]

I've used Scarlet blue independent escorts (female and male) and have had wonderful experiences, each time I've used them. Roughly 10 times over several years. You initially text message them, back and forth a bit say what you want, then arrange either an incall or outcall. It is safe. I've never felt unsafe at any time whatsoever

And it's not as cheap as $400 an hour. More like $600.

There's no upper limit to what you could pay, but there are plenty of legit independents offering full service (incall) for the price range I mentioned. I'm not going to post links here for obvious reasons, but a little bit of browsing on sites like realbabes will find plenty.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Do you tip and if so what percent?

FWIW, there's pretty much no situation in Australia where tipping would be considered obligatory the way it often is in the USA. The general expectation is that the advertised price is what you're expected to pay for things. Tipping does happen, but it's more of a thank-you for exceptionally good service than an "add 15% to every restaurant bill" deal, and as such there isn't a standard rate.

 

[apantyhoselovr]

dont ever tip...just give them the whole thing!

 

[Mandrake66]

I'm not Australian and can't advise on legal matters. If any of this is regionally inappropriate I'm sure someone will tell me.

For what its worth...

Find a woman with at least a reasonably well written profile. I would suggest a native speaker on this occassion as communication will be vital. Contact her (through the website/phone/email) saying you are a virgin and you would like not to be. She doesnt need your life story. Book either one hour or two and expect to do it twice. The first time may well be disappointing or quick. Do not spend any money on extras. A one hour service with oral and sex should be great and anything else will just make you come quicker or interrupt the flow. The one exception to this is (french) kissing.

I've no idea about Australian prices, but aims for the medium. Obviously you dont want super cheap but premium is also likely to be a waste at least the first time. Do not negotiate prices and do not send hundreds of messages. If her first reply is not polite, bail, but otherwise seal the deal quickly. She may get annoyed with many follow up emails as that can suggest you are getting your jollies from messaging her.

Set your expectations realistically. There are fantastic workers out there. There are also good workers who just happen to be having a bad day when you arrive. And there are some girls who are unfortunately in the wrong job even if they know how to sell themselves. Expect to experience the mechanics of sex. Also expect that it is going to feel emotionally a bit weird. For whatever reason you might not click. You should expect to get what you paid for, at a basic level, but ultimately if the service is half hearted it is almost impossible to 'complain' it into being better - just find a different girl for next time if its something you intend to do (semi)regularly.

You should be okay following her lead. Many girls have a fixed 'program' that they follow if not directed for something else. This is often french followed by sex. Often they will allow multiple positions, but may start with cowgirl which may or may not be what you want. (It puts the expert in control, but isnt the typical experience) If you want missionary ask for it. If you want to perform cunnilingus, ask for it well before you start as she is likely using lube.

Also follow her lead with conversation. Some girls are chatty some less so. Dont going looking to impress her or win her over with your charm. Do be polite. Shower immediately before hand (or at the venue). Don't wear strong scents.

It is a very good sign if the advert says they will immediately cease contact if you ask for bareback. Dont freak out if the condom breaks. Do pull out and check immediately if there is the slightest possibility this may have happened.

This may be a personal thing, but if you are inexperienced with woman, ask to snooze while holding her between rounds. (Again up front and dont be offended if she says no.)

Do not fall in love.

Sound advice.

 

[Shellz32]

Go to Scarlett Blue and check out the Russian chick for $2000 an hour

She. Is. Off the charts