How to control your period

[fire_breeze]

I once worked in a brothel as a receptionist. The girls used sea sponges when they were on their period - they're soft and absorbent and the guy can't tell if they're wearing one. They can be taken out, rinsed and re-used (I heard diluted tea-tree oil was used as a disinfectant/odour reducing agent).

Here is a website with more information:

http://www.jadeandpearl.com/catalog/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=9&products_id=18

When I was on hormonal birth control I just kept taking the active pills and skipped the placebos if I knew I would be going to have sex at that time. I didn't do it for more than a couple of months though, because by the end of the second pack of pills my boobs would be extra tender

Thanks for the link, Bandit. I've heard a lot about sponges and couldn't find any in Canuckistan to give it a whirl or to get more information. So with this, I can do some more in-depth research.

 

[orgasmsgalore]

I am 43 now and want to have sex to get something out of it. When I was in my 20's it was about pleasing the man and if I had an orgasm, that was a bonus. In my 30's sex was boring to me. I am now in my 40's and want to have sex more and I have come to expect more. When I am on my period I get little out of it. I don't get any oral. Manual stimulation is shortened greatly.

When my partner is home it seems like my period shows up. I do not stress about his coming home. I hate telling him my period is here because he looks disappointed and I feel to blame. I am always giving him this bad news. He still wants sex, it's just sucks for me due to what I said above. I just want my period gone.

 

[warrior queen]

I just want my period gone.

have you looked into uterine ablation?
bingo - no more period, or if there is any, it is almost nothing.
i'm on the waitlist for this.

 

[CurvyGirll]

I know it's none of my business but I'd say forget about trying to control your periods - just dump your man. Sounds unreasonable to me that you have to defend your period coming at the 'wrong' time. He sounds like a controlling idiot.

 

[favoritesgoddess]

Have you discussed your period-controlling options with your gynecologist? There are pills out there that allow you four periods a year. And as someone else has mentioned, you can skip the placebo pills in a regular pack of BCP's and just skip your period altogether if you want.

Whether BCP's are right for you at this stage of your life and what the side effects might be are discussions you need to have with your doc.

As for your partner's unwillingness to consider your pleasure when you're having your period, that's a discussion you need to have with him.

 

[PrettyLilPistol]

Mirena IUD...no periods, no wires. I have no idea how that translates in the colonies...

Ive had the IUD for 4 years... I went with the IUD with no Hormones, so i still have periods. I love the IUD. But taking away your periods is NOT HEALTHY!.. women need to bleed now and then. Id try Birth Control pills if thats an option. But best bet would be to get over it for a week... and live without sex. it wont kill you.

[astonished blurt] The things women will consider putting themselves through (risk of stroke and thrombosis, mood swings, fucked hormonal balances, pain, inconvenience.....) just to pander to men's squeamishness will never cease to amaze me[/astonished blurt]

+1. My guy loves fucking me whyll bleeding... but i hate the mess. So i wait.

 

[tumbledown]

Why are you telling him? Aside from days when there's cramping/heavy flow, a shower and a fresh tampon or sponge, push the string up, problem solved. When things get all slippery, it's not very noticeable. I've never had anybody complain. I think you are smart to avoid hormonal or surgical solutions, because it isn't that complicated. No sense using a bazooka where a bb gun would do!

 

[orgasmsgalore]

Why are you telling him? Aside from days when there's cramping/heavy flow, a shower and a fresh tampon or sponge, push the string up, problem solved. When things get all slippery, it's not very noticeable. I've never had anybody complain. I think you are smart to avoid hormonal or surgical solutions, because it isn't that complicated. No sense using a bazooka where a bb gun would do!

I cannot hide my period. He puts a finger up me and he would find the tampon or sponge. I have tried Instead and he feels that fingering and during intercourse. Forget oral while I am on my period. Sex sucks. I wish there was some cape to put over my cervix to stop it for 1 or 2 hours. How harmful could that be??!!

 

[SweetErika]

I cannot hide my period. He puts a finger up me and he would find the tampon or sponge. I have tried Instead and he feels that fingering and during intercourse. Forget oral while I am on my period. Sex sucks. I wish there was some cape to put over my cervix to stop it for 1 or 2 hours. How harmful could that be??!!

The problem isn't your period, it's your man and your relationship. There are plenty of work-arounds for giving you pleasure and him avoiding contact with your blood. Mature people in loving relationships use those all the time. If you can't find reasonable, easy solutions and/or compromise with him, you need to find someone you can communicate and work stuff out with.

 

[Cattypuss]

What Erica said.

You're a woman. You have periods. You should NOT have to apologise for the fact or try to hide it.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I cannot hide my period. He puts a finger up me and he would find the tampon or sponge. I have tried Instead and he feels that fingering and during intercourse. Forget oral while I am on my period. Sex sucks. I wish there was some cape to put over my cervix to stop it for 1 or 2 hours. How harmful could that be??!!

It sounds as if he´s bothered by the fact that you are on your period at all and not by any practical problems that might arise from it?
I´d say, listen to Erica and Cattypuss.

 

[Reba67]

They don't work that way. Nor would I suggest wearing one during sex. Quick trip to the hospital for one or both of you.

The only way I know to control it without becoming entirely anorexic is birth control pills.

LoSeasonique gives you one week of a light period every three months.

You can do manual stimulation with a divacup in, but intercourse wouldn't be possible because it sits low in the vagina. My fiance and I quite regularly indulge in manual play when I've got my divacup in.

 

[Noor]

I cannot hide my period. He puts a finger up me and he would find the tampon or sponge. I have tried Instead and he feels that fingering and during intercourse. Forget oral while I am on my period. Sex sucks. I wish there was some cape to put over my cervix to stop it for 1 or 2 hours. How harmful could that be??!!

I did that once, used a cervical cap, didn't realize I was getting my peroid. Couldn't get the darn thing off, lover at the time had to, and then he got covered in blood.

 

[Lady Reiha]

Try having sex in water

What the hell...?

 

[orgasmsgalore]

I found a cap that I could try for 1-2 hours of blood free sex. It is called FemCap.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZKpQS85Icg&feature=player_embedded

 

[SweetErika]

I found a cap that I could try for 1-2 hours of blood free sex. It is called FemCap.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZKpQS85Icg&feature=player_embedded

He's still going to feel it because your cervix is very low during your period. Even when it's high, most fingers and cocks can feel the surface of the cervix.

If you're going to go the blocking route, you'd be better off with a soft sponge that won't hurt either of you.

 

[orgasmsgalore]

I have thought about that. Had the same trouble with the Instead. This will fitted and the Instead wasn't. They may feel it but it may stop the blood. Trying to hide my period isn't gonna happen, so I try and halt it for a little while.

 

[YourPlaydoll]

There will be less blood if you shower (not douche, it's unhealthy) your lower abdomen and vaginal area with ice cold water. Ice cold water lessens the bleeding, but doesn't completely stop it. Plus, it only works for a short period. But I've heard some prostitutes do that, too.

 

[AudioFilly]

I don't have a way to temporarily stop your period but I have a great way to accurately track them. I stumbled onto this free software a couple of years ago. I've been shocked by how accurate it is. It has made planning vacations & other things so much easier.

If you can't stop it, maybe he could arrange his schedule around it.

http://www.soundtells.com/CycleCalc/index.html