How to tell someone is cheating

[kinkybrat]

Besides the obvisous of catching them in the act, or finding proof (ie: emails or letters).

 

[hewolf]

A sudden change in their sex drive in either direction is a good indicator. Also, a change of behavior in bed.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Don't believe there's a formal process. (the obvious)

If it's to the point you describe, there is probably a lack of trust ... so talking about it sounds like it would be worthless.

Are there long periods of time unaccounted for? Seems pretty low, but guess you could check up on him.

And, hey, be proud I avoided the crass answer (check his dick after you've suspected he's done it).

 

[kinkybrat]

He's always been a horn dog.


I've noticed alot of different things he'll say while we are having sex and i totally hear them and say "huh?" , then he changes it to something else.

Yes, long periods of time not accounted for. I *tried* to have one of my friends (thats he's never seen) who just happens to be a divorce lawyer tall him(them). I've applied to that "Cheaters" show on TV to see if they would do it and they emailed back that they didn't have anyone working in this area and to email back(which i haven't done yet).



and yeah, he tries to accuse me of doing it.(which i know is a sign)


Edited to include: the things he says during sex are pretty much him having sex with another male related......(which in my book would be ok if he was honest and upfront about it.....but don't sneak around and fuck someone from your work then try to hide it!)....like this morning, I'm giving him a BJ and he says "You next".... , umm, I'm on AF right now and just told him like 2 seconds before that he couldn't go down on me.

 

[hewolf]

He's always been a horn dog.


I've noticed alot of different things he'll say while we are having sex and i totally hear them and say "huh?" , then he changes it to something else.

Yes, long periods of time not accounted for. I *tried* to have one of my friends (thats he's never seen) who just happens to be a divorce lawyer tall him(them). I've applied to that "Cheaters" show on TV to see if they would do it and they emailed back that they didn't have anyone working in this area and to email back(which i haven't done yet).



and yeah, he tries to accuse me of doing it.(which i know is a sign)


Edited to include: the things he says during sex are pretty much him having sex with another male related......(which in my book would be ok if he was honest and upfront about it.....but don't sneak around and fuck someone from your work then try to hide it!)....like this morning, I'm giving him a BJ and he says "You next".... , umm, I'm on AF right now and just told him like 2 seconds before that he couldn't go down on me.

One's intuition is usually true on this. That is, unless you are a person who is obsessively jealous and always suspects her partners of cheating.

So if you aren't the one, your suspicions are probably correct.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

One's intuition is usually true on this. That is, unless you are a person who is obsessively jealous and always suspects her partners of cheating.

So if you aren't the one, your suspicions are probably correct.

A true statement. You also said that you'd be alright if he was with another guy - have you told him this? Maybe you could bring up the possibility and see what his reaction is.

 

[FinePhilly]

Whether he's with a guy or a girl, if he's doing it behind your back, to me, that's still cheating. I don't see what gender has to do with it.

He's hiding something. That's never a good sign in a relationship. I think a frank discussion is in order that will enable both of you to lay your cards out on the table and see if there is a future for the relationship.