I know I will regret this..................

[neonflux]

well - she was posting at 2:00 this morning and now again at 7:00. - I know how I get with little sleep, and you are off to bed, and I have to go to work, I'm worried what havoc HRHdK will loose with both of us gone....

I just want to find out what HRHdK is and then I will be as gentle as a kitten!

 

[neonflux]

p.s., supposed to be workin' but checked into lit instead...

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

p.s., supposed to be workin' but checked into lit instead...

Wellllllllll I can't tell you're here because I'm a sleeping

 

[neonflux]

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(does somebody need a good nights sleep??)

good morning, Sir Ringmaster! *chuckles*

(I am about to get dressed to move my car so as not to get a $35 ticket - street cleaning - remember that lovely aspect to life in San Francisco?)

Neon

 

[neonflux]

Wellllllllll I can't tell you're here because I'm a sleeping

nighty-night and sweet dreams Neon

 

[Shankara20]

I just want to find out what HRHdK is and then I will be as gentle as a kitten!

Originally Posted by @}-}rebecca----
No , you are still Her Royal Highness de Kink as far as I am concerned Ms Neon .
: bows :



is that a prrrrrrrrrrrr I hear now that you have moved your car?

 

[Shankara20]

LOL! Now who is Dr.R & HRHdk? hmmmm..... and where do you fit in Fu? just wonderin'

oooo, HRHdK, did you not know that Sister Rebecca is a Ph.D.?

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g38/nbright1969/him/Ph.jpg​

yes, yes, that was awarded to her before your arrival for the work she did studying the writings of the Marquis

ps - our dear Sister Dr, is also a LL.D., hence the "Esquire", although she does not draw much attention to her skills as a Barrister - thank the goddess

 

[neonflux]

Originally Posted by @}-}rebecca----
No , you are still Her Royal Highness de Kink as far as I am concerned Ms Neon .
: bows :



is that a prrrrrrrrrrrr I hear now that you have moved your car?

So you DO remember that lovely getting up bleary-eyed at 5:30 in the morning and running out in the street in one's pj bottoms and coat in order to not get a ticket ritual? *chuckle*

http://static.howstuffworks.com/gif/how-to-solve-cat-behavior-problems-2.jpg

Not purring quite yet - ask me after I've had my morning coffee and met my deadline, LOL!

Neon

(note emoticon)

 

[Shankara20]

So you DO remember that lovely getting up bleary-eyed at 5:30 in the morning and running out in the street in one's pj bottoms and coat in order to not get a ticket ritual? *chuckle*

http://static.howstuffworks.com/gif/how-to-solve-cat-behavior-problems-2.jpg

Not purring quite yet - ask me after I've had my morning coffee and met my deadline, LOL!

Neon

(note emoticon)

Please go get the coffee right now - for all our sakes




As I remember, once I got a neighborhood sticker I could stay past the time those damn meter maids got there little go carts running - that is if I could find a parking place in my neighborhood after cruising for 30 min looking for a space after a 45 min drive from the office. *sigh* I liked it much better after I quite that job, gave up the company car and found a job in The City and could take Muni.

OH SHIT - I just remembered it was on the street cleaning days you had to move no matter what....

 

[Shankara20]

hmmmmm??

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g38/nbright1969/him/HRHdK.jpg
HRHdK​

nope - that's not it - still needs something.....



damn job, now I will need to stop with this and try again later.....

 

[neonflux]

Please go get the coffee right now - for all our sakes




As I remember, once I got a neighborhood sticker I could stay past the time those damn meter maids got there little go carts running - that is if I could find a parking place in my neighborhood after cruising for 30 min looking for a space after a 45 min drive from the office. *sigh* I liked it much better after I quite that job, gave up the company car and found a job in The City and could take Muni.

OH SHIT - I just remembered it was on the street cleaning days you had to move no matter what....

http://i134.photobucket.com/albums/q91/cleasf/canekitty.jpg
Coffee imbibed. Deadline met. I am kitty with cane, hear me purr! Neon

P.S., Yes, those 30 minute 'neighborhood jaunts' in search of - went up to 45 minutes during the dot com boom, now down to about 20, lol. although i generally plan my parking day around street cleaning, tow-away zones, etc. which significantly cuts down on the search time.

 

[neonflux]

hmmmmm??

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g38/nbright1969/him/HRHdK.jpg
HRHdK​

nope - that's not it - still needs something.....



damn job, now I will need to stop with this and try again later.....

*chuckles*

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

hmmmmm??

http://i52.photobucket.com/albums/g38/nbright1969/him/HRHdK.jpg
HRHdK​

nope - that's not it - still needs something.....


damn job, now I will need to stop with this and try again later.....

Awwwww I soooooooo love the last batch of posts between yourself and HRHdK Ms Neon , it's liking coming home and finding everyone happy in perfectly perverted haze.

I tend to agree though , that image doesn't do HRHdK full justice . I am lending towards paraphernalia indicative of deviant royalty with a touch of bling. How are we with that concept please Fu ?

 

[Shankara20]

How are we with that conception please Fu ?

I've been neutered, so no conception here.....

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I've been neutered, so no conception here.....

: laughs : chite I meant concept !

You're soooooooooooo mean , thank you

 

[Shankara20]

: laughs : chite I meant concept !

You're soooooooooooo mean , thank you

oh

sorry



never mind....



bling - yes - good concept and all that....

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

stuff for Fu & Neon to read when they wake up

Alameda County does it again!


by Mister Marcus

If you're geographically challenged about cities on the Left Coast, know that Alameda County is directly east of San Francisco via the SF Bay Bridge, where the cities of Oakland, Hayward, Castro Valley and other small towns are situated.

It's no secret that the major leather headquarters in the East Bay is the Turf Club in Hayward and the official home of the Alameda County Leather Corps. Owner Larry Gray has made an unending outreach effort for his leather family and succeeded in having a landmark reputation as a bar owner and a major activist in the greater LGBT community in that area.

It was the 16th anniversary of the Mr. and Ms. Alameda County Leather contest and the first-ever winners, Mark McKee and Lil Cooper, were on hand for the festivities that were emceed by former Ms. SF Leather Queen Cougar and former IML Jeff Tucker. In their first outing at this particular contest (formerly emceed by Donna Sachet and Lenny Broberg), the duo managed to get through whatever minor glitches the audience didn't see and kept the repartee going on at a clip that had the audience in stitches at some points.

There were the usual raffle tickets and silent auction items and triple bar entertainment with Mark Paladini rendering memorable romantic tunes, the inimitable Snatch in another stomping upbeat number, and the Twilight Girls, who never fail to mesmerize their adoring fans. These women bring the word "burlesque" to a high level of art, precision and synchronized moves that always win over an otherwise boisterous crowd. You have to see them to appreciate their artful presentation.

There were two men vying for the Mr. title: Ronnie Grigsby and Michael Holeman. There was one contestant for the Ms. title, Laurie Aguinaga. Both Grigsby and Aguinaga are former San Jose leather titleholders, but since San Jose no longer produces a contest, they felt their usefulness would be beneficial to their neighboring county.

There were judges, tally masters, security people, bartenders, sponsors and beneficiaries on had to make the event a huge success. Both Joan Norry and Bob Kleypus gave short and memorable step-aside speeches and dispensed awards and gifts to those who were instrumental in making their year(s) with the title(s) successful.

When all was said and done, Grigsby prevailed in the male category and Aguinaga managed to get more than the required number of points to name them Mr. and Ms. Alameda County Leather 2007.

I think it's safe to say that the fantasies they both performed were top notch and probably enhanced their points. Aguinaga, with strings attached to a puppet master, did the bidding of the master to the tune of "I'm Your Puppet" that, of course, ended with a spanking and other esoteric BDSM results. The audience loved it.

Grigsby did a one-man scene with live, red beef steaks getting pulverized to a clever ditty entitled "I Beat My Meat" – another scene that brought the house down. Clever, never-before-seen fantasies are always the most fun for leather audiences. Carlton Paul would have loved this one, as he has been known to beat a lot of meat in his time.

So chalk up a huge congratulations to the Alameda County Leather Corps for a very successful event, once again. The ACLC plays a big part in making Northern California the great bastion of leather that it is. The conglomeration of San Francisco, Santa Clara and Alameda counties, the Russian River, Sacramento and yes, even Fresno, make the northern part of the state just as concrete, viable, living, breathing and active as any other part of the U.S. Come and visit us sometime. You will not be disappointed.

Fraternization costs deaf man title

What happens when a contestant wins a title and is later found to have fraternized with the head judge? It was at the International Mr. Deaf Leather contest in Atlanta two weekends ago when one hot man, Kevin Steffy, was named the winner on Saturday night.

Photos were taken. A press release and photos were sent out. Then lo and behold, it was made known to the judges that Steffy had "fraternized" with head judge Steve Kennedy of Seattle.

Result: Steffy relinquished the title. The first runner-up, Jerry Garmany, of Washington, D.C., assumed the title. The one boy contestant did not achieve the required number of points so did not win the title. Instead, last year's winner, Brad "Boy B" Dale, will keep the title for another year.

Not mentioned in the press release was whether the offending head judge was admonished in any way, shape or form for this lapse in judgment. Who is to blame? The judge or the contestant? Since the "fraternization" was not spelled out, is it safe to assume lust played a part? Did they play Scrabble or dominoes? Whatever the reason, remember one thing: There will always be someone watching. Someone will always let scandals leak. It is disappointing to learn, however, that a judge – and the head judge at that – would resort to such an action. What's wrong with this picture?

Correction

Jay Harcourt is totally dismayed that I erroneously posted the date of the 11 months-away Mr. San Francisco Leather contest. The contest will be held on the Saturday before Pride weekend. That should be Saturday, June 21. I wonder if The Leather Journal has been notified of this change?

Take care and see you all next week.

Eventures in Leather, July 20 – 29, 2007

Friday, July 20

Exiles of SF at the Women's Bldg. Tonight is Novice Night for newbies who might be interested in the BDSM lifestyle. Doors open at 1930, program at 2000 until 2200. $4 members, $10 guests. The Womens Building.

Saturday, July 21

AEF 25th anniversary dinner/banquet, silent auction, raffles, entertainment at the SF Marriott Hotel. $195 ducats.

Men in Gear gather at the Eagle Tavern from 2200 to closing. You know the rest. If not, you've not been paying attention. Quiz later!

Wednesday, July 25

Leather Buddies at the 933 Harrison venue. You know the rules. Adhere to them and have a good time.

Dirty Alley Party at the Powerhouse beginning at 2100. I don't know what this one is about but it being the Powerhouse, it could be wild!

Saturday, July 28

Northern California Leather Sir/boy contest at the Eagle Tavern. Want to be a contestant? Email to nclslb@hotmail.com

It's a "PEC-tacular" tit party at the Powerhouse from 1900 to closing. $5 donation for Stop AIDS Project.

BLUF and Hot Boots groups gather at the Eagle Tavern tonight on the eve of Dore Alley. Get sized up. Get in the mood. Be there. Not a stand and model event.

The 15 Association monthly play party at The Citadel. The usual shenanigans and fun. Door charge $20. For invite go to: www.the15association.org

Sunday, July 29

Dore Alley Fair. Need I say more? Be there!

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

read all the way to the end ........

Summary Injustice
Was Man Beaten by Cops for Assaulting His Girlfriend?

BY MATT DAVIS

A 40-year-old man beaten by sheriff's deputies and Portland Police Bureau officers at the Multnomah County Detention Center last September may have been the recipient of some rough "justice," having just been arrested for assaulting his girlfriend with a riding crop.

Video of the incident, obtained by the Mercury and posted on blogtown.portlandmercury.com last week, shows Michael Evans being beaten in the booking area of the jail on SW 3rd—apparently without provocation—by Sheriff's Deputy Richard Hathaway. In the video, six sheriff's deputies and Portland Police Bureau officers get involved after Hathaway kicks, then punches Evans four times, bringing him to the ground.

Last Tuesday, July 10, Evans' attorney, Leah Greenwald, sent a letter to the city's office of risk management, describing the "unprovoked brutality revealed" in the video as "deeply disturbing." The letter also made reference to the "self-serving dishonesty of the officers who reported the incident," describing it as "shocking," and asked for a $360,000 early settlement.

In a report on the September 11 incident, Hathaway wrote that he controlled Evans using two "focused blows" with his right closed fist, after Evans "struck me in the nose during booking." Evans' alleged striking of the deputy is not apparent from the video. Greenwald's letter to the city contends that Evans did not receive medical attention for 18 hours after the assault, that he used his own shirt as a towel to soak up blood and apply pressure to his broken bleeding nose, and that he reset his own nose.

Greenwald wrote that Evans may have engaged in some "passive non-compliance" in the jail by refusing to offer his hand up for fingerprints—and may also have cursed the officers—but that such behavior does not justify his beating.

"The uncooperative verbal exchange between the officers and Mr. Evans did not warrant or authorize the brutality they inflicted upon him," Greenwald wrote. "Evidence of a verbal dispute, however, demonstrates motive for the officers' unlawful behavior."

It is also possible Evans was treated roughly because of the nature of his crime—he was eventually convicted for assaulting his then-girlfriend.

Evans was arrested by police at a house in Southeast the evening of September 10, after police were called by neighbors who reported "a female crying, and saying, 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry, don't hit me again,'" according to court records. The woman, Kelley Gallaway, "told the officer that she was hit by the defendant in the hands and legs with a riding crop," the records continue. Gallaway had multiple bruises, including red marks fresh from the incident. She also told the officer that Evans had threatened her with a gun two weeks earlier.

Following Evans' arrest, Gallaway filed a restraining order against Evans alleging that he threatened to kill her if she "caused him any trouble."

Evans' defense attorney, Gareld Gedrose, argued at his trial that Evans and Gallaway had been involved in a consensual BDSM relationship in which Evans played the "dominant" or "dom" and Gallaway played the role of the "subservient" or "sub." "This relationship also involved Gallaway being 'punished' by being struck with a riding crop," Gedrose argued.

Evans was found guilty of assault, menacing, and unlawful use of a weapon.

Evans is still awaiting trial on 11 counts of first-degree sexual abuse and four counts of first-degree sodomy relating to alleged sexual abuse of two minors in 2005—charges filed in October 2006, after he was beaten at the jail while being taken into custody. Evans' criminal history also includes three physical harassment convictions, and convictions for disorderly conduct and contempt of court, going back to 1997.

"I'm not sure if the sheriff's deputies knew of the circumstances of Evans' arrest," says Theresa "Darklady" Reed, a BDSM expert who testified for the defense at Evans' trial. "But if so, that may have impacted their behavior. Peace officers are people too, and most people feel very protective of women."

However, "generally speaking, your rights don't go away just based on your behavior," says Alejandro Queral of the Northwest Constitutional Rights Center. "The government has to prove that you've committed some wrongdoing in order to punish you."

 

[Shankara20]

Sunday, July 29

Dore Alley Fair. Need I say more? Be there!

*sigh*

 

[neonflux]

Ah, the Leather Report! With the exception of the Exiles meeting in Oakland as well as SF, I know nothing of the scene in Alameda County, even though I am moving there in September. This was fun to read. Won't be at Dory Alley as I will be working furiously on you-know-who's website before helping my sis move across country, but am thinking of going to the Exiles event this Friday to get some personal tutoring on caning.

Neon

 

[neonflux]

Summary Injustice
Was Man Beaten by Cops for Assaulting His Girlfriend?

BY MATT DAVIS

A 40-year-old man beaten by sheriff's deputies and Portland Police Bureau officers at the Multnomah County Detention Center last September may have been the recipient of some rough "justice," having just been arrested for assaulting his girlfriend with a riding crop.

...EDITED...

Evans was arrested by police at a house in Southeast the evening of September 10, after police were called by neighbors who reported "a female crying, and saying, 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry, don't hit me again,'" according to court records. The woman, Kelley Gallaway, "told the officer that she was hit by the defendant in the hands and legs with a riding crop," the records continue. Gallaway had multiple bruises, including red marks fresh from the incident. She also told the officer that Evans had threatened her with a gun two weeks earlier.

...EDITED...

However, "generally speaking, your rights don't go away just based on your behavior," says Alejandro Queral of the Northwest Constitutional Rights Center. "The government has to prove that you've committed some wrongdoing in order to punish you."

Hmmm... this is another of your articles about which I find myself feeling ambivalence. I think "classic bdsm relationship gone awry" and then remember the gun and think "bdsm relationship potentially ruled by abuse!" and then I remember how turned on I was by the photos you posted on the B&W thread with the two women and the gun and I go back to "classic bdsm relationship gone awry." Of course, without more information, it is impossible to come to any concrete conclusion of what really happened. It certainly does point to the need for formal written contracts - not that they provide any protection legally, per se. However, they can be used to establish the consensual context in which activities that the law would normally define as assault, have taken place. Neon

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

*sigh*

Next year Snooky

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Ah, the Leather Report! With the exception of the Exiles meeting in Oakland as well as SF, I know nothing of the scene in Alameda County, even though I am moving there in September. This was fun to read. Won't be at Dory Alley as I will be working furiously on you-know-who's website before helping my sis move across country, but am thinking of going to the Exiles event this Friday to get some personal tutoring on caning.

Neon

I don't know much about this but I did sit up very straight on auto pilot when I read the last bit

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Hmmm... this is another of your articles about which I find myself feeling ambivalence. I think "classic bdsm relationship gone awry" and then remember the gun and think "bdsm relationship potentially ruled by abuse!" and then I remember how turned on I was by the photos you posted on the B&W thread with the two women and the gun and I go back to "classic bdsm relationship gone awry." Of course, without more information, it is impossible to come to any concrete conclusion of what really happened. It certainly does point to the need for formal written contracts - not that they provide any protection legally, per se. However, they can be used to establish the consensual context in which activities that the law would normally define as assault, have taken place. Neon

I don't trust the media. I have written about this before. Journalists are in most cases like literary paid guns they will craft a story to convey exactly as they please. I agree there is a see saw effect in trying to discern where exactly to shelf that reading experience . It does appear to meander .

Whenever I have written of contracts on the Board here before they are usually afforded with some amount of scoffing so I rarely bother to go there these days to be honest. I see value in them for a spectrum of reasons and it's really not my purpose on this earth to need to convince people otherwise. Please feel free to read that as acquired apathy on my part , not aggression :smiles:

As separate to the concept of using written contracts , I see as far as legality is concerned consensual seems to become rather irrelevant after the fact when things go amiss. Constantly fostering concepts in safe boundaries of a community atmosphere doesn't always equate with the destination potential of a man with a big stick who represents law.

Thank you HRHdK Ms Neon for your ongoing take on these articles I lurvvve considering them

Coffee and ambivalence sounds a much better deal for me today : chuckles :

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Suzi Godson

No pain, no gain

Edinburgh offers an airing for plays that later cause a national stir. S&M drama Special is a case in point

Sex sells. Sex on stage sells out. And as the public relations adviser for the play Special confidently informed me, “put S&M in the title and you are guaranteed a full house”. It’s probably true, but at the Edinburgh Festival the number of productions that opportunistically employ shock sex tactics to get bums on seats means that pretty much every sacred cow has already been slaughtered. From bestiality to topless women in wheel-chairs, it’s all been done before with varying degrees of success, and, somewhat predictably, when you type S&M into this year’s Edinburgh Festival search engine, Special is not the only show to come up. However, I suspect it is the one worth seeing.

Tackling what is still one of the most demonised forms of sexuality is a masochistic challenge for any writer or director, but John Keates has managed to steer his story clear of predictable clichés by containing the sexual exploration within the confines of a very “normal” domestic relationship. By avoiding the stereotypes of rubber clubs and torture gardens, the audience can identify with what is happening on stage in a way that would not otherwise be possible.

Through the course of the play, two characters, Emily and Steve, hang out in their living room, drink G&T, act out their S&M fantasies, get married and get pregnant. Emily is the “top”, the dominant one. Candle wax, thumb tacks, clothes pegs and deep heat are the tools of her trade and the contrast between her sadistic sexual tastes and her maternal instinct make uncomfortable viewing. In Special, the fantasy roles of bondage, pain, punishment and submission seem to have no place in a relationship that confounds us with its ordinariness. Though we know S&M happens, we like to keep it at arm’s length. The dominatrix, for example, is usually reduced to a kind of caricature Miss Whiplash so that she can be easily separated from “normal” women. By forcing us to face the sight of a functional, articulate, happily married woman taking pleasure from walking on her husband’s testicles wearing stilettos, Keates leaves us feeling conflicted.

S&M may not be a mainstream sexual practice, but there are millions of web pages devoted to the subject and images of female fetish and bondage are employed in advertising all the time. Verifiable statistics are hard to find, but it is estimated that 14 per cent of men and 11 per cent of women have engaged in BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, masochism). It is hard for someone who has never experienced pain as an erotic pleasure to understand the attraction of S&M, but Derek Cohen, the chairman of the Spanner Trust, puts it well: “If I were to run my fingers down your back it would be a pleasant experience. If I were to use my nails you might enjoy that, too. If I were to press harder still you might find it too painful, but another person might enjoy the intensity of the sensation.

“How you perceive pain is largely contextual. If a person is being punished against their will then it is pure pain, but if a person is being punished in a consensual power exchange the pain is eroticised.”

People find S&M relationships confusing because they defy traditional assumptions about power within a partnership. As part of his research Keates visited a dominatrix who explained that, contrary to popular opinion, S&M is not just about the dominant person getting what he or she wants; it is about power sharing.

In a consensual S&M relationship there is no abuse, no violence and no lasting injury. Couples agree code words or gestures in advance to signal when the pain becomes too intense, and this means that the needs and desires of the submissive are actually the priority. The power exchange is intellectual, too. When Steve says “She lets me embrace my failings and after that my daily life is easy” he explains how, for many submissives, S&M play is true freedom, a holiday from control and responsibility.

Fortunately, Keates doesn’t attempt to explain any of these technicalities.

Had he fallen victim to the understandable urge to educate his audience, or tried to create a representation of what he thought an S&M couple might look and sound like, Special would be anything but. Instead Keates arrived at the existing script through an intense period of improvisation, a process that allowed him and his acting partner to work out the physical, emotional and intellectual responses that a couple engaged in S&M might experience. They spent several weeks locked in a hotel room working out what actions and exchanges heightened the charge between them. Keates believes that it is this process of personal exploration that will give Emily and Steve’s relationship credible intensity and, hopefully, he says with a grin, “leave the audience feeling intellectually, and, hell, why not, physically stimulated”.

Special, Assembly Universal Arts Theatre, Venue 7, George Street, Edinburgh, (www.assemblyfestival. com 0131-623 3030), Aug 2-27