I'm fucking done with this bdsm stuff.

[ivantheterrible]

i sort of know how you feel bett. i just got out of a 16 year marriage. more or less. we are seperated. and absolutely no plans of being lovers ever again. just friends. i don't feel as if i will find someone else again. i have almost nothing in common with women my age or older. and this is a small minded, small town kind of area. so, my chances of finding someone else are next to nothing, unless i want to lower my standards. and i won't.

 

[twysted73]

He either needs a D/s intervention or.....to simply not focus on what he doesn't have and moreso on what he does.

I cannot express the importance of just how much life gives you if you don't force it.

Almost as if it KNOWS you're being impatient and doesn't reward your petulant child-ness.

"Close thine eyes valiant sir and cast your nets for your tasty tidbit is out there. And she will be inexorably drawn by your individuality"

(yes, i wrote that mess myself)

Either way, good luck in your journey. And those vanillas are boring. One would quite possibly say lonliness is preferable.

 

[Windflower]

Oh. Never mind. Thanlks. Good luck in your search.

>>>>>The only real toys I have are my body and mind and you all know I am a fan of psych domination so my mind is my best toy.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

What is with you girls and my toys?

I don't have any toys anymore. I was waiting to get a subbie and the plan was to do any toy shopping together that way everything we had would be special and just ours with no memories of anyone else attached to them.

The only real toys I have are my body and mind and you all know I am a fan of psych domination so my mind is my best toy.

Oh damn. I thought it wouldn't help for me to say this but having read that post I'll say it anyway. Bett, you are my kinda mean and it therefore stands to reason that there are plenty of other deviant little bitches whose kind of mean you are. If you give it all up now, I for one will mourn you for the sake of all the little subbies whose envelopes you'll never kick wide open.

I don't believe you're remotely vanilla, it's just that kink shrinks the playing field so much. Many of us here searched for a long time before finding the right 'one.' That probably doesn't make you feel any better right now but you deserve a woman who loves your dark side as well as your fluffy teddy bear one. Besides, women can spot an 'any cunt in a storm' vibe from miles away so if you're acting out of loneliness and desperation, you're still unlikely to be successful.

Are you involved in any kind of public scene? Even if you've been to munches and events before without success it might be time to take another look and see if there are any new faces.

HUG

 

[ivantheterrible]

hey bett, there are a lot of playthings out there. but if you are like me, you have a hard time NOT letting your heart get involved.
i've been hit on by women a lot lately, but i won't get involved with them because they are more fucked up than a soup sandwich. and i don't want my heart to get wrapped up in a fucked up woman.

 

[Betticus]

Going to join the Society of Jesus?

YOU TAKE THAT BACK!!!

 

[Betticus]

Oh damn. Bett, you are my kinda mean and it therefore stands to reason that there are plenty of other deviant little bitches whose kind of mean you are.

HUG

Couldn't have said this last year eh?

I want you to imagine me walking up to your door in the middle of the night on Christmas eve and setting a single, lil, scroogey piece of coal right on the ground!!!

That's right... then you'd open the door and see a lump of coal and it would drive you nuts trying to figure that one out! :caning:

 

[Breaker_Morant]

I have also given up I feel I missed out by not knowing what it was I needed untill I was 48, Ive been conned twice since then and now at age 50 I feel I am to old to keep looking

You're kidding right? I am talking to a pyl who is 51 and kinky as hell.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

YOU TAKE THAT BACK!!!

Lol.. might as well. If you're going vanilla might as well go all the way. I hear they have a good retirement plan.

 

[Betticus]

Lol.. might as well. If you're going vanilla might as well go all the way. I hear they have a good retirement plan.

Yeah, all the altar boys you can shake a stick at and a guaranteed nonstop ride to the nirvanic afterlife of your choice.

 

[purrrrrrr]

You're kidding right? I am talking to a pyl who is 51 and kinky as hell.

I just feel at 50 finding a "Daddy"type is not going to happen

 

[Breaker_Morant]

Yeah, all the altar boys you can shake a stick at and a guaranteed nonstop ride to the nirvanic afterlife of your choice.

I was thinking about all the candle wax you can handle and then there are all those late night confessions with all those kinky Catholic girls.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

I just feel at 50 finding a "Daddy"type is not going to happen

Daddy "type".. doesn't mean he has to be older than you, does it?

 

[Betticus]

I was thinking about all the candle wax you can handle and then there are all those late night confessions with all those kinky Catholic girls.

I just got the image of the confession booth being a version of a peep show booth with the priest stroking it off while people talk dirty to him from the other side of the screen.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

I just got the image of the confession booth being a version of a peep show booth with the priest stroking it off while people talk dirty to him from the other side of the screen.

There you go.. then you can tell them that their penance is to "bend over"

 

[Betticus]

There you go.. then you can tell them that their penance is to "bend over"

They should just put glory holes into the confessional booths so that oral "penance" can be done on the spot.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

They should just put glory holes into the confessional booths so that oral "penance" can be done on the spot.

And you were pissed when I first suggested this idea.

 

[Betticus]

And you were pissed when I first suggested this idea.

I'm just always looking for the best in all situations.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

I'm just always looking for the best in all situations.

Optimism. I recognize the concept.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

Couldn't have said this last year eh?

I want you to imagine me walking up to your door in the middle of the night on Christmas eve and setting a single, lil, scroogey piece of coal right on the ground!!!

That's right... then you'd open the door and see a lump of coal and it would drive you nuts trying to figure that one out! :caning:

Oh... now I'm imagining Bett's figgy goodness all decked out in a santa suit. Bet I get figgy pudding for sitting on his knee.

 

[purrrrrrr]

Daddy "type".. doesn't mean he has to be older than you, does it?

Yes for me it does , I act differently around older men. I dont know why tho

 

[Breaker_Morant]

Yes for me it does , I act differently around older men. I dont know why tho

I've most always gone for older women or women that were more than 10yrs younger than me... but I do understand your position. I'm sure there are some older PYLs out there.. I know of two or three on this board.

 

[FFOTS4Life]

Wow your original post is seriously bringing me down...

At least you and Breaker_Morant livened up a bit with all the confessional glory holes...still though that is depressing.

Don't give up...just don't go looking...you never know who you are going to run into when you are just out there living life. I can't tell you the number of kinky people I have met a few of them into BDSM that I had no idea about.

You seem like you have a lot of fun anyway - you are constantly posting pics of all the places you go and the things you do. Just keep doing that - like I said you never know who you are going to meet. Life has a funny way of working itself out.

 

[notalwaysweak]

I hope you find someone to make you happy, Bett. You seem like a pretty awesome guy and it sucks to see you so down.

 

[Breaker_Morant]

i sort of know how you feel bett. i just got out of a 16 year marriage. more or less. we are seperated. and absolutely no plans of being lovers ever again. just friends. i don't feel as if i will find someone else again. i have almost nothing in common with women my age or older. and this is a small minded, small town kind of area. so, my chances of finding someone else are next to nothing, unless i want to lower my standards. and i won't.

So expand your terroritory...