Azuldrgon
Still Blue
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Today is a difficult day. That's because it was on this day five years ago that I lost one of the best friends I made on here. Her screenname was SpicySouthernBelle or I just call her Spicy for short. Fifteen years ago, we met on here and became good friends. Like me, she suffered from Bell's Palsy. Also like me, she had a son with the same disability as mine does. She was probably the closest friend I made on here back then. Over the years, we remained friends through all her moves (Her husband was military.) and all her and my struggles. When my dad passed, she was one of the first calls I made when I found out.
It was also about five years ago when I first had the chance to hug her for the first time. I went to where her family was living at up here near me at the time and we spent the morning together. We all laughed a bunch and talked about stuff before I drove back to where I was living at the time. I was able to see her again when her family was driving back from vacation and she had a flat tire. I drove to where she was and helped before having another hug and they drove home.
I don't want to type here how she left us. What I will say though is that I miss her more than I can express. Losing her was arguably one of the hardest things I faced. I remember when I was getting ready to go to her memorial service. It was so hard driving down there. I called our mutual Kat a few times before and after.
The lessons I learned from her were many. But the biggest one was that we cannot take out time on this planet for granted. With all the bullshit that happens on here with all the drama and back stabbing and such, we need to remember that each screenname is a person and that person has emotions and feelings. We may not agree with every person on here, but we should still respect them as a person.
I also learned to never neglect to be open for someone who needs to talk. The thought crosses my mind on a constant basis of what I could have done differently with Spicy so she would still be here. I am always told there was nothing I could do, but trust me it still happens. Don't be afraid to reach out if you need to talk to someone.
This thread I am posting is in memory of her. Some on here were her friends also and we lost others on the board who were near and dear to us as well. I ask out of respect that this thread not become a troll site. If you want to talk about a friend on here that we lost, please do so. Thank you for letting me vent about my friend.
It was also about five years ago when I first had the chance to hug her for the first time. I went to where her family was living at up here near me at the time and we spent the morning together. We all laughed a bunch and talked about stuff before I drove back to where I was living at the time. I was able to see her again when her family was driving back from vacation and she had a flat tire. I drove to where she was and helped before having another hug and they drove home.
I don't want to type here how she left us. What I will say though is that I miss her more than I can express. Losing her was arguably one of the hardest things I faced. I remember when I was getting ready to go to her memorial service. It was so hard driving down there. I called our mutual Kat a few times before and after.
The lessons I learned from her were many. But the biggest one was that we cannot take out time on this planet for granted. With all the bullshit that happens on here with all the drama and back stabbing and such, we need to remember that each screenname is a person and that person has emotions and feelings. We may not agree with every person on here, but we should still respect them as a person.
I also learned to never neglect to be open for someone who needs to talk. The thought crosses my mind on a constant basis of what I could have done differently with Spicy so she would still be here. I am always told there was nothing I could do, but trust me it still happens. Don't be afraid to reach out if you need to talk to someone.
This thread I am posting is in memory of her. Some on here were her friends also and we lost others on the board who were near and dear to us as well. I ask out of respect that this thread not become a troll site. If you want to talk about a friend on here that we lost, please do so. Thank you for letting me vent about my friend.
