Isn't it incredible when a polite, friendly guy is surprisingly dominant in bed?

[magic_rat]

Haha that badge idea sure sounds good!

Definitely.

I think in our pursuit for intimacy we often overlook the basic social setup that makes us reluctant to accept our more intense sides. It's different for everyone so it may not be the case everywhere but I've observed it to mostly be so.

I think the opposite, at least in the kink and swing scenes. In our pursuit of intense experiences we often overlook intimacy; it's easy for things in the BDSM/swing worlds to become mechanical and routine. It's when you move beyond that that you get into each-other's head spaces and develop the mutual trust and respect to take things to a different level.

Bedroom Superheroes are also often made because of knowing that they're also wanted for who they are so the performance anxiety vanishes.

WTF is a 'bedroom superhero'?

Some guys (I count myself amongst them) are blessed with innate abilities. That doesn't mean 'good at fucking' or 'good with the tongue'. It means they are empathic; they can read their partner's reactions and adjust stimulation to suit. They know that just because xyz worked on the last 10 women it may not work on the next, and act accordingly.

This usually (not always) comes with age and experience.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

So as far as me being "dominate" It's never on the first time with someone. I guess I want to "Feel my way around" no pun intended. Once I know whats good and feel comfortable, I'll let my inner cravings loose. I've always had pretty good results and happy feedback.
I have though been on the other end. After taking this one woman out. We went out to a show and a nice dinner. She was such a lady. I took her to her home at the end of the evening. Once inside she practically raped me. An unexpected enjoyable surprise. But then again I'm a guy. Of course I would enjoy a woman doing that to me.

 

[Hypnobitch01]

I love a freak in the sheets but he must drink his respect woman juice in the streets. Sex is all respect and if he doesn’t respect me and treat me very very well I’m not interested

 

[Zephreck]

I love a freak in the sheets but he must drink his respect woman juice in the streets. Sex is all respect and if he doesn’t respect me and treat me very very well I’m not interested

I really respect what you have written. Respect is incredibly important and should be remembered by everyone.

 

[amigayorbi]

I think I could do that

 

[420CollegeGirl]

I slept with one of my best friends this weekend for the 2nd time. The first time we did was a month ago after we’d been out drinking, and it was very... tender? And like we were learning each other’s bodies. He is an awesome person, one of the most kind and caring friends I have. He has such a genuine personality and the most warm smile... it felt really good being with him that night, and it hasn’t messed up our friendship at all.We live in different cities, and haven’t had a chance to hang out since then. When we saw each other this weekend, I was really hoping it would happen again but I wasn’t sure if he was feeling it.We went out with a group of friends, and when we were at the bar he started by gently brushing my arm and whispering in my ear - talking about what he would do to me when we get home, how he was going to make me dripping wet, how my body was driving him wild... it was so hot hearing him breathe these sentences in my ear and still having to act normal in front of everyone.It escalated for a few hours, and by the time we started kissing I felt like I was going to explode! His hands were so warm, he knew exactly where to touch me. Just as we were about to start having sex, he grabbed my face and said “I’m going to be a bit rough, is that okay?” FUCK. I melted.This second time was so different from the first. He completely took control and held me down on the bed, sometimes he’d choke me or cover my mouth. It was so fucking hot seeing this cute, polite boy transform into a dominant, powerful machine haha. Fuck I keep thinking about it.Anyway point being, I fucking love when a guy surprises me in bed like that!

HOTTTTTT

 

[Fufumberuk]

I've been accused on multiple occasions for being "too nice". What those women didn't realise is that they were too quick to judge. And didn't know that although on the surface, butter wouldn't melt. Behind the facade is a deviant

 

[AficionadoAngel]

It is very incredible! My experience was that both of us came across as the polite, gentle types. The good girl, the nice boy. Then we got horny together. I remember how shocked he was the first time I went down on him and swallowed all his come. Then still surprised at how wet my pussy was afterwards and even though he'd just come, he got this look in his eyes, spread my legs and pushed most of his hand deep inside me. I came wildly, writhing all over the place until his cock did indeed get hard again and he pinned me down. I was still shaking from my orgasm when he rolled me over. That got him plenty hard again and he fucked me so hard and so long that the whole building must have heard. After that he would tell me what he wanted to do to me long before we were along together and I would let him put his hand up my skirt to let him know I was ready for it.

 

[Deadbed1968]

I think we (men) see the bedroom as a place where we can dial back on the social niceties that we need to exist in the outside world. If we acted aggressively, like our instincts tell us to, in everyday life we would drive a wedge between ourselves and the people around us. In the bedroom you can give the beast a bit more room on the leash as long as your partner understands.

 

[TemptationTango]

The contrast between sweet, gentle boy and ravenous beast is so delicious. I love knowing that I’m the cause of his transformation. When he gets that look in his eye and makes it clear that he’s so turned on by me that he won’t … he can’t … hold back. Pinning me underneath him, holding my hands over my head, thrusting hard, desperate to get as deep inside me as possible … .

Thats how it is with my FWB. We talk about all the different things we want to do, but as soon as we are together, I cant get my cock in her fast enough. I pin her arms and the pounding goes on and on. Its very erotic and primitive at the same time.

 

[Britva415]

I feel like experienced Dominant-in-the-bedroom guys who have had many sub partners in their history are impeccably mannered outside it.

One can’t effectively do the role (at a certain level) without being exceptionally good at interpersonal interaction.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I think there is a preconceived notion that people into BDSM are wild, violent, animals. I consider myself to be a polite, thoughtful gentleman. (I was a bit less polite when I was younger.) My one subbie friend was a very normal-looking, well-mannered woman. But once in private, her desires were incredible. And she unleashed the dom inside me.

Never judge a book by its cover.

 

[linkierox]

I can definitely see myself here. But not in a hot, sexy situation.

I’m a very baby-faced and tiny woman, and people usually say that I’m cute. I also love to wear overalls, t-shirt, you know, dress casually, with barely any makeup.

Long story short, I had a boyfriend breaking up with me because I wasn’t anything like my appearance (yeah because of my reversed personality when we had sex). Threw me out of my balance for a little bit, but I’m all good now