Looking for my strong submissive man

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gentle_at_heart

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Could you be my submissive man? (long but worth reading)

Hello,

I won't tell you who you are, what is missing from your life, neither call you names I wouldn't like to be called myself and order you amidst vulgarities to reply me.

I believe that anyone interested in any kind of serious relationship, including power exchange, should take lots of time to get to know a potential partner, so I'd rather challenge you to read on and learn a little more about me.

I'm a 22 year old voluptuous woman who would love to take control of a willing mind and an eager body. I'm intelligent, an enjoyable conversationalist, value traditions, friendship and family ties. I'm a loyal person and a good advisor, have a daring streak hidden under a sweet and innocent demeanor.
Besides these, I have also many less appealing attributes, which you are likely to encounter along the way. Why spoil the fun of discovery? ;)

What I'm preferably looking for:

I'd like to get in touch with men - and men only - who might be either curious or serious about submissive desires. At the moment I'm under no pressure to plunge into any relationship - and neither should you be. I do think long term and while I've been pursuing an online only friendship, I'd prefer an arrangement that would have real life compatibility if desired by both sides.

My desires and needs exceed the purely sexual aspect, I am also looking for a sincere and lasting friendship, potentially romance with the possibility of a life long commitment.

Though I'm considered a dominant personality, my desire for control is mostly only bedroom oriented and in association with sexual activities. I'm an old fashioned, straight and monogamous person who'd like to keep such activities strictly private and is looking for a partner with a similar attitude. In other aspects of a relationship I'd prefer a healthy, well-balanced and mutually constructive attitude.

However, in control, I want to feel that my man is eager and focused on pleasing me. I expect him to treat me like his Queen and to yield to me and my desires completely. Activities I might enjoy with him may include flogging, spanking, bondage, restrained teasing, punishment and rewards, CBT, waxing, rough play - strictly safe and consensual - , denial, forced masturbation and chastity, lots of oral and anal play - both given and received - bathing and pampering, massages, personal servitude and being the gentle and clingy one at heart: lots of cuddling. :)

Off limits are: scat, incestuous games, besstality and anything that involves blood. I don't find pleasure in degrading and humiliating a submissive. If it should happen, than strictly only as a mean to ensure my power or as a part of severe punishment. Dominating a person includes messing with his mind too quite a bit and I have no intention of making anyone feel bad about themselves. I'm not a hardcore person, but I'm sure you've already noticed that.

I can enjoy the thrill and might even need to switch or be simply vanilla from time to time but I have learned that being in charge works better for me on the long run.

I am very protective and caring when it comes to people that are important in my life and that shows in my preferences as well. I could best enjoy a man who desired a harsh and demanding, sometimes even unfair and cruel mistress in the bedroom but would also need and appreciate a loving and caring lady who enjoys to give him pleasure. Generally, I'd like to focus on mutual satisfaction, emotionally and physically, and I don't take that responsibility lightly.

I'm usually attracted to strong and self assured men, who know what they want in their professional as well as private life. I enjoy to feel the thrill of the challenge they represent but also the desire in them to be drawn under my spell. I don't want and will not make my submissive a wimp. I admire good men of integrity in general as well as male strength and have no desire to break it, rather I'd like to bend it to my will. I want my submissive to be proud, feel cared for and good about himself and our relationship and strive to do his best in all areas of life.

I am very serious about mutual respect and open and honest communication, since without those basics I don't think that any relationship could be lasting on the long run and endure the ups and downs of life.

D/s doesn't exist for me without emotional attachment and trust and that works best when it grows as a natural by-product of a strong friendship in my experience. Therefor, first I'd like us to take our time and get to know each other again.

For moral and practical reasons I'd like to ask for a reply from single, Caucasian, interested men only, preferably between 23-33 years of age, who might like to find out more after having read this letter. Please introduce yourself and include what might have caught your eye or got you interested. Private contact information will be available later on in case of mutual interest.

If you have questions or comments of public interest, please poet them in the thread. If you wish to receive a private answer include them in your reply.

I didn't include location specifications because circumstances change as life does. I imagine location would likely be a matter of negotiation with the right person once a mutual desire for a real life relationship is there. I am planning on relocating myself in about two years but haven't decided yet whether to stay on this side of the pond or not. And while there are many other important factors I will have to take into consideration, I thought this was a perfect moment in my life to search for possible partner - with the potential to make it lasting and real.

I'd like to add a thought about the age concerns that may arise as well: I'm first and foremost looking for a man who can be playful in daily living yet is also mature and serious in attitude and aware of his needs and expectations, what he wants from life and his partner. I realize that such knowledge isn't obligatorily age dependent, but I'd preferably stay within the realms of long term real life compatibility in this regard. Later on I'd like to settle down, hopefully have a family and share all the very simple, normal and boring joys and worries of life while growing old with someone; not just the steamy, sensual haze of burning erotic ecstasy. ;)

I know what I'm looking for might sound complicated and very specific at first, but it is exactly what I want. And if only the right person should happen to read it, then it has been very well worth the effort.

Since the person I'm looking for is a rather specific one, I'll try my best to be patient as well.

I'm looking forward to hear from you.


Gentle_at_heart :rose:
 
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<sigh>...Oh, if only I were single.....younger....available........<Sigh>

Lapp
 
Hey, 23/m/IL e-mail at (Please refrain from posting E-mail addresses in public forums of Lit.), always been curious about such a relationship
 
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Thank you

I'd like to thank you for having had the patience to read through my long post. :rose:
 
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Take two

As life has its twists and turns so does this littel thread of mine, which I've reopened today. I'm looking forward to hear from you. :)
 
a gentle bump for someone who sounds like a wonderful woman. :rose:
I sincerely hope you find the person you are looking for and that he can be everything you want.
 
denali said:
a gentle bump for someone who sounds like a wonderful woman. :rose:
I sincerely hope you find the person you are looking for and that he can be everything you want.


Thank you denali, I hope that time will prove you right. I appreciate your kind words very much. :rose:
 
A technical issue

Hello everyone,

I hope this won't discourage anyone but for about two weeks I won't be able to access the site and check my PM's. :(

However, I promise to get back to everyone who sent me a message around mid June.

Thank you for understanding and having patience with me.

Gentle_at_heart :rose:
 
Shame I got here a bit late

I amslightly under age (20 not 23) but I am very mature for my age, and fairly strong inidvidual... both phyically and mentally - if you want to know more about the latter due to things Ive heled my firends though PM me and I'll let you know

I'll make this brief as I am under you limit (just) and I know you wont be back for awhile but just thought Id make the offer... I don't feel pressured for a relationship but Im always looking for good close friendships, maybe with a little more thrown in, depending on the person and situation.

Looking forward to your rejection due to my age (lol)

Rock
 
just another little bump for gentle at heart, even tho' she's not here at the moment.
 
theRiNGER said:
i like to give you some dick!

Your funny ringer, being a sub is not about what you want but what your Mistress wants from you. To be able to use what you were gifited with would most likely given as a reward for behaving like a good subbie and making your Domme look good in public or private.

Gentle I hope you find a submissive that is worth of your time and energy, I mighta have responed if I was closer and some of what I want matched up with you, but as od BDSM gods looked down on me and blessed me, starting my training with M'lady in earnst.
 
just another bump.
Gentle at heart will be back soon, I believe.
 
Back on the board

I'm back in town and on the board as well, wishing good luck and success to everyone who is searching.

A special :rose: for a kind bumper. Thank you for keeping my thread going.
 
gentle_at_heart said:
I'm back in town and on the board as well, wishing good luck and success to everyone who is searching.

A special :rose: for a kind bumper. Thank you for keeping my thread going.

And how is your search going??
 
leeroy jenkins said:
And how is your search going??

It requires a lot more patience than I would have originally expected. But even if it doesn't seem to be working out the way I was hoping, I suspect that it will be well worth it.
 
For all the bumpers

A big thank YOU. :rose:

/And a special, knowing smile for the man who reads my mind. ;) /

Gentle_at_heart
 
Summer time!

The summer is officially starting for me, so I'll be around much less. I wanted to thank you all who have taken the time to read my thread and especially to those who replied.

Did I find whom I was looking for you might wonder ... Well, though only time will be able to tell, I'm staying hopeful and am happy to have made the aquaintance of some very nice and interesting people along the way.

I wish you all a wonderfull time and hope that you'll enjoy relaxing vacations and the burning passion of summer heat! ;)

Gentle_at_heart
 
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