Male sub, how to open up more?

[Johnnyjthm]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

 

[SissySalina]

One piece of advice would get a something that only She and you know is a symbol of you submissiveness to Her. It could be a chain or necklace worn around your neck, when in public think of what it means. To let Her know what you are thinking about touch it when She can see you.

It might help a little.

 

[MiaBabe23]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

I can’t really give any advice, as my experience of submission has all been online, and perhaps different as a woman, I’m not sure
But I wonder if one of the elements could be to focus on your wife’s pleasure, free yourself to focus on how your submission makes her feel, and let yourself gradually go that bit further as you feel ready
Don’t put pressure on yourself, just ease gradually into it with whatever you’re most wanting to do perhaps

 

[Lotus_Kitty]

Perhaps @Yarglenurp might have some thoughts?

I offer support and encouragement. Submissive men are splendid, magnificent, and have nothing to be embarrassed about.

 

[Boat1]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

I look forward to sending you a sincere reply to this, but I ask for patience, as it may take days to formulate...

 

[Grizz_84]

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I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

I'm in a similar situation but can't find anyone willing to help! Let me know how things turn out.

 

[Erosfan]

I can’t really give any advice, as my experience of submission has all been online, and perhaps different as a woman, I’m not sure
But I wonder if one of the elements could be to focus on your wife’s pleasure, free yourself to focus on how your submission makes her feel, and let yourself gradually go that bit further as you feel ready
Don’t put pressure on yourself, just ease gradually into it with whatever you’re most wanting to do perhaps

"focus on your wife's pleasure"! This is me. If she is happy and comfortable with this, so am I.

 

[Ash999]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

Cane yourself like this , displaying your humiliation to your MistressWife....

 

[Grizz_84]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

I am without a doubt you! I gave my wife full control a few months back. She has embraced it and love's ordering me to do things I am not interested in doing. She makes me happy though. I will keep doing this

 

[apantyhoselovr]

what is it that embarrasses you. have you opened up about it to your wife and talked? have you talked with other subs about it?

 

[Grizz_84]

what is it that embarrasses you. have you opened up about it to your wife and talked? have you talked with other subs about it?

I have to have a thong on when she gets home from work, she relaxes for a bit and then makes me crawl to her feet and lay there, guess I know who the bitch is in the family! She reserves one day out of the week that I can touch myself but if I cum to soon it is taken away for a few weeks.

 

[lowcollar]

Filling out a BDSM checklist and have both of you share it is a great way to open the door to better and easier communication. ScribD has the best one that I have ever seen. Sometimes we have to just get over ourselves and jump in.

 

[Erosfan]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

I was sub to my late wife sexually and we both enjoyed this. In my professional life I am very much in control. I gave up all control to her, sexually, and the experience was unbelievable. She was gentle and held my full interest at all times. I was hers to do with as she wished and she knew it. I begged her to share her control of me with her friends, but she didn't want others involved.

 

[drobert44]

I’m sort of new to the lifestyle and struggle with completely being myself. I’ve only truly discovered that I am a full submissive after 5 years recently researching how I act and what I want while safely tucked behind the screen of a computer. My wife and I have recently made a contract and are both excited about it but, I find that I’m really embarrassed still with actual real life situations in the community. It was very easy when it was all online only. Using dirty talk and getting into the mind space for role play (not just in the bedroom) are particularly difficult for me. Gender roles play a part in my struggle. Being a male sub to me is both exciting and terrifying. I want to be myself and express myself freely. My wife encourages it and supports me fully and is also excited about it too. Would anyone have some tips or advice on how to get over the embarrassment and open up more naturally in subspace?

It's fun being a sub to a man; he does all the work. But I am a top for sissies and women.

 

[samantha9090]

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[Iwant2wu]

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