Scared for Safety

Ciceri

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Have any subs here engaged with a stranger and actually felt their safety was in doubt?
It happened to me.
A domme and I actually met after a few emails back and forth. I had her info from ten years ago but didn't have the nerve to follow through with a session. She recently let me know she wasn't active in the BDSM community anymore but would consider punishing me if the price was right. I'd have to pay her $400 and money for fuel. I live in Coeur d' Alene and she lives in Bonner's Ferry, ID (an hour north). Her schedule was limited since she watches her grandchildren during the week. But she was driving to Cd'A with her husband and they had a two hour window. I agreed and arranged a motel room. I'm not sure how many times she told me sex was out of the question. That was just fine by me. I needed to be punished and she is a sadistic woman. Not really attractive. Homely, in fact but she has giant boobs. She arrived in an older minivan 20 minutes after I checked in. Her husband helped carry her suitcase to our room and thankfully returned to the van. These people looked like white trash. Mistress moved quickly since we were short on time. She blamed being late on me since I didn't give her directions. Anyway, she had me strip naked. Then she put a gag in my mouth and handcuffed my wrists. She opened the bathroom door and had me rest my cuffed hands over the top so I was touching the door hinge. She took out a single-tail whip and went to work on me. After many, many strikes my back felt on fire. I didn't even here the door open as her husband returned. They chatted back and forth but it didn't slow her down. The husband went through my jacket and took out my wallet. I had $500 and he took all of it. I was getting scared for my safety. Really scared. Then he reminded her of the time and said something about Costco pharmacy and not wanting to drive in the dark. I was relieved when she stopped and unlocked my handcuffs and removed the gag. My backside was on fire as I got dressed. Thankfully they left with just the cash. Not sure I'll ever do that again.
 
I've been doing this for over 60 years, and have seldom met with a dom anyplace but her residence.
 
I always will insist that, before meeting any partner- even for a vanilla date, that we get together somewhere quiet for coffee or drinks and get to feel each other out, before proceeding. This gives both of us a chance to gage whether we have common kinks or interests, whether we are compatible, basically- but also to screen for any possible red flags. If she is a pro, that is, she is doing the domme thing for money, then I would of course compensate her for her time. But I've backed out on meeting potential domme/partners who refused to meet up in person first, because if I want to put myself in a "compromising" position in front of someone, I want to be sure they have my safety in mind, first, and want to know if I can trust them.
 
Nothing says kinky meet with a internet friend like your rules and boundries being broken. I cant hear them saying it now, ' sshh ssh ssh trust me baby relax, its your fault it feels bad'.

I say it with a joking tone but seriously i have had a few dodgy meets myself so i feel for you. Get back out their with someone you can trust. Take a friend next time if you can. Someone to play umpirer when they are needed,

Ps. if i wanted a creampie i wouldnt of left my underwear on. Just saying
First meet... coffee house.
 
Please remember that you are a prize. A treasure. And that no one has the right to terrify you. You have so much to give...please be careful with yourself. You deserve better than this.
 
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