Something to think about today

[Quinn71]

Procrastination is much like Masterbation...It feels good at the time but in the end you're only fucking yourself. ~Anon.~

 

[JagFarlane]

In order to truly appreciate what one has...one must go through the trials of life trying to gain it only then can one appreciate what is truly worth wanting

 

[Denae]

In order to truly appreciate what one has...one must go through the trials of life trying to gain it only then can one appreciate what is truly worth wanting

Along the same lines, I've always wondered what the purpose is in parents giving their kids (even into early adulthood) everything they want simply because they want it.

What I have are things that I've earned for myself and I protect and cherish what I have because nothing was given to me. It has value, not necessarily monetary value, and if it's broken or lost a replacement is not there for me the next day.

 

[dcraz]

Along the same lines, I've always wondered what the purpose is in parents giving their kids (even into early adulthood) everything they want simply because they want it.

What I have are things that I've earned for myself and I protect and cherish what I have because nothing was given to me. It has value, not necessarily monetary value, and if it's broken or lost a replacement is not there for me the next day.

All good comments and/or observations. I think parents do not INTEND to do this injustice to their children. It's just a natural by product of wanting your children to have more than you and at the same time, getting busy or lazy or both while losing sight of the need to ALWAYS be a good parent.

Being a good parent is preparing your children for life and the challenges that await them when they head out on their own. This is not the same as being their best friend or giving them everything they want. Much of life's lessons that must be taught by parents and learned by children include learning to do without, learning to deal with disappointment and learning to work towards and achieve certain goals.

I was fortunate enough to grow up in a loving, middle class home. I never wanted for things I needed. I always had a roof over my head, love at home, more than I could eat every night and clothes to wear. Beyond that, my parents taught me to set goals, to work for things I wanted and to learn to be self sufficient. Among many other life skills I have used since I left home.

The unfortunate things I see is when parents give in to their children's demands, because it is easier than fighting with them or teaching them a valuable lesson or life skill.

 

[pleasteasme]

All good comments and/or observations. I think parents do not INTEND to do this injustice to their children. It's just a natural by product of wanting your children to have more than you and at the same time, getting busy or lazy or both while losing sight of the need to ALWAYS be a good parent.

Being a good parent is preparing your children for life and the challenges that await them when they head out on their own. This is not the same as being their best friend or giving them everything they want. Much of life's lessons that must be taught by parents and learned by children include learning to do without, learning to deal with disappointment and learning to work towards and achieve certain goals.

I was fortunate enough to grow up in a loving, middle class home. I never wanted for things I needed. I always had a roof over my head, love at home, more than I could eat every night and clothes to wear. Beyond that, my parents taught me to set goals, to work for things I wanted and to learn to be self sufficient. Among many other life skills I have used since I left home.

The unfortunate things I see is when parents give in to their children's demands, because it is easier than fighting with them or teaching them a valuable lesson or life skill.

My goodness do I ever see evidence of parents 'spoiling' their children. Anyone can see it.....drive by your local high school parking lot during the school day.....the majority of vehicles are newer/more expensive than what I drive!!!!

I grew up in a lower socio-economic home....things were not abundant. I had to work my @$$ off to get anything I wanted. Sure, I was jealous of my friends that got cars for their 16th B-Day or a Sr. Trip to Hawaii, I never got those things.

Since I didn't get whatever I wanted, I grew up to be very self sufficient. If I want something, I have to work for it! This might be a problem though because at age 31....I am so independant that it turns people off. I am just so used to doing things on my own....to get them done that I don't stop to ask for help, *whether I need it or not*

I will have to say that my self sufficiency and work ethic has also taught me to appreciate things more. I take good care of my possessions because I know if something happens to them....I am the one responsible for fixing or replacing it. I do believe people that grow up having to work for what they have *in general* have a much better appreciation for those things.

Just my $ 0.02

 

[Shagly]

Now with these oversized boats sold as cars on the market I am just waiting to see $4.00 a Gal. on gasoline.

 

[dcraz]

There is no Frigate like a book to take us lands away...

Sadly, my life is too busy for me to read much these days. When I sit still that long, regardless of how interesting the book, I am more prone to fall asleep than I am to finish a chapter.

What is the last good book you read? Tell me a little abou t it and why you enjoyed it so much.

 

[DLL]

There is no Frigate like a book to take us lands away...

Sadly, my life is too busy for me to read much these days. When I sit still that long, regardless of how interesting the book, I am more prone to fall asleep than I am to finish a chapter.

What is the last good book you read? Tell me a little abou t it and why you enjoyed it so much.

i am reading a really good book called Never Call Retreat~Lee and Grant: The Final Victory by Newt Gringrich and William R. Forstchen

everyone that knows me knows i love civil war stuff and this book is really good so far not done yet but i bet i think i know who wins the war already...

 

[Peteslaw2]

There is no Frigate like a book to take us lands away...

Sadly, my life is too busy for me to read much these days. When I sit still that long, regardless of how interesting the book, I am more prone to fall asleep than I am to finish a chapter.

What is the last good book you read? Tell me a little abou t it and why you enjoyed it so much.

Thank you for asking. Speaking of Frigates, I'm currently about half way through a 100 year old biograpy of Horatio Nelson (Admiral Lord Nelson for those not familiar with his first name). Having been a fan of all the Horatio Hornblower and Patrick O'Brian novels I thought I'd go back to the source, which I found in England in April.

Old biographies are not as exacting as more modern ones in that they are often onesided, although this one does have a few critical things to say about the subject, and alludes with some moral disapproval to Nelson's falling in love with Emma while campaigning against the French in Italy (or what would someday become Italy). (I can only imagine what the author might say about us family types on Lit!)

But what does come through, is Nelson's bravery and leadership abilities (oh if any of our leaders today had a fraction of his bravery and skills). The man, before being killed at Trafalgar, lost an arm and an eye in separate battles, and was wounded not quite so seriously in several others. It is remarkable that a man of such small stature and poor health just loved a good old fashioned fight where many men are killed and tons of French and Spanish ships are destroyed at point blank cannon range, and comes away thinking it was just a splendid day and that in the next battle believes he will surely meet is maker.

For all Americans that get off hating the French, this book could be their bible as nothing good is said of any French soldier, sailor, Admiral or General, but especially of little Boni.

While the book is a bit difficult to follow because the biographer assumes the reader is more familier with the history of the time (after all it was written less than 100 years after Nelson's death) Nelson's integrity in dealing with events far from the Home Admiralty and away from the bureaucratic intrigues, is inspiring. He is truly a hero of modern times.

(DC, if you really fall asleep reading, I reccomend you stick with paperbacks so as to avoid nosebleeds.)

 

[dcraz]

How many of us get the most out of life?

Driving around today, I heard the song 'Live Like You Were Dyin'. The lyrics were great and reminded me how precious our time on earth is.

I have often commented here about how I love life. I try to live life to the fullest and enjoy everything and everyone around me. I try to experience everything I can and I look for the positives in almost every situation.

For those not familiar with the song, here are the lyrics...

"Live Like You Were Dyin'"

He said I was in my early 40's,
With a lot of life before me,
And a moment came that stopped me on a dime.
I spent most of the next days, lookin' at the x-rays,
Talkin' 'bout the options and talkin' 'bout sweet time.
Asked him when it sank in, that this might really be the real end.
How's it hit ya, when you get that kind of news.
Man what ya do.
And he says,

[Chorus]

I went sky divin',
I went rocky mountain climbin',
I went 2.7 seconds on a bull name Fumanchu.
And I loved deeper,
And I spoke sweeter,
And I gave forgiveness I've been denying,
And he said someday I hope you get the chance,
To live like you were dyin'.


So my question for everyone today is this....

What was one thing you have done in your life, that might be considered out of character by those that know you today? Something you did just to live life a little more carefree? Have you been sky diving? Rock climbing? Ever tried bull riding?

And what might you do in the coming weeks or months if you get the chance to experience something special? This can be something you do with friends, a loved one or even a very priivate thing you might do alone.

I am thinking about the kind of things that you don't do every day, might not do again, but have led to untold stories and memories being shared with others...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

So my question for everyone today is this....

What was one thing you have done in your life, that might be considered out of character by those that know you today?

I was 17 and made out wit some guy I had just met a few hours earlier. We went off behind the mall, got really hot and heavy, hands and fingers going everywhere. Then great beam of light hit us and the security guard told us to leave. May not sound like much... but believe me, from a girl that rarely dated, hardly let anyone get to second base, this was soooo unlike me.

Something you did just to live life a little more carefree? [/QOUTE] I speed really really fast!!! Try to play leader with whatever car is on the interstate and needs passed first! [QOUTE]Have you been sky diving?

GOOD GOD NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

Rock climbing?

Not yet, would love to do this.

Ever tried bull riding?

Yes, lived on a dairy farm and we had a big huge bull.. well kids need to entertain themselves don't they?? Even girls!!

And what might you do in the coming weeks or months if you get the chance to experience something special?

I get to go to Atlanta, GA, for 4 days all by myself

 

[sharingfantasies]

So my question for everyone today is this....

What was one thing you have done in your life, that might be considered out of character by those that know you today?

I am a detail oriented person. I think about things for a long time before I do them. I like to know all the steps that lead to the big picture. But occasionally I do things on impulse. Once when I was in my twenties, my mother mentioned she was thinking about moving to Arizona. This was way before home computers and the internet. She was wondering what the housing costs would be, so on impulse I said I would drive to Flagstaff and get a paper. I had no idea it was 500 miles away. LOL

Something you did just to live life a little more carefree?

I saved my tax returns for two years and took a bunch of my siblings to Oahu for a week.

Have you been sky diving?

no

Rock climbing?

no, but I have driven through the Rocky Mountains

Ever tried bull riding?

no, but I have been on the back of an elephant.

And what might you do in the coming weeks or months if you get the chance to experience something special? This can be something you do with friends, a loved one or even a very priivate thing you might do alone.

I don't have any plans for anything special, going back to work soon. But someday I am going on the cruise to Alaska.. someday.

I am thinking about the kind of things that you don't do every day, might not do again, but have led to untold stories and memories being shared with others...

My mother ended up moving to Flagstaff, and on a whim I went with her. It was filled with lots of experiences and I have lots of good and "what on earth were we thinking?" stories.

 

[pleasteasme]

What was one thing you have done in your life, that might be considered out of character by those that know you today? Something you did just to live life a little more carefree? Have you been sky diving? Rock climbing? Ever tried bull riding?

I'm not quite a "thrill seaker" so, sky diving, rock climbing, and bull riding are well out of the range of "normal" for me, lol. ONE thing I did in my life that could be considered out of character (but not by those that know me today, this is retrospective) was to be the first one in my family to move away from the little mountain town I am from, go to college and GRADUATE. I am the only one in my family, including my parents and my 2 siblings to have a degree.

If you would have known me when I was younger you would think that my fate would have simply been the same as my sister & brother ~ to stay in that little town and not expand my horizons at all. The reason this is such a big thing is that my personality has always been quite, reserved, and respectful. I was the proverbial "seen and not heard" child. I am the middle child and those of you that are middle children, you know what that is like; you aren't the oldest and you aren't the youngest, you just ARE. Maybe this helped me forge my independance and get the heck outta Dodge and actually DO something with my life. I did

And what might you do in the coming weeks or months if you get the chance to experience something special? This can be something you do with friends, a loved one or even a very priivate thing you might do alone.

I am going to be in one of my good friend's wedding. This is the first time I am actually looking forward to it (more than usual) as usually I really don't like being (or going to) weddings at all. I am putting my own feelings and opinions aside and supporting my friend in the biggest step she is taking in her life, becoming someone's wife.

I am thinking about the kind of things that you don't do every day, might not do again, but have led to untold stories and memories being shared with others...

Sometimes, I want to just take off and GO somewhere......somewhere exciting like Vegas and throw caution to the wind and just have a good time. I am sure I would come back with a story or two

 

[dcraz]

I was 17 and made out wit some guy I had just met a few hours earlier. We went off behind the mall, got really hot and heavy, hands and fingers going everywhere. Then great beam of light hit us and the security guard told us to leave. May not sound like much... but believe me, from a girl that rarely dated, hardly let anyone get to second base, this was soooo unlike me. GOOD GOD NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!! Not yet, would love to do this. Yes, lived on a dairy farm and we had a big huge bull.. well kids need to entertain themselves don't they?? Even girls!!

I get to go to Atlanta, GA, for 4 days all by myself

Lived on a dairly farm? Now I bet you have tons of stories some of these city dwellers would love to hear!

I never rode a bull, but I did tie an old cow up and ride her! She may not have been as rough and tough as a bull, but she was NOT happy. What an afternoon!!!!

 

[dcraz]

I am a detail oriented person. I think about things for a long time before I do them. I like to know all the steps that lead to the big picture. But occasionally I do things on impulse. Once when I was in my twenties, my mother mentioned she was thinking about moving to Arizona. This was way before home computers and the internet. She was wondering what the housing costs would be, so on impulse I said I would drive to Flagstaff and get a paper. I had no idea it was 500 miles away. LOL



I saved my tax returns for two years and took a bunch of my siblings to Oahu for a week.




no



no, but I have driven through the Rocky Mountains



no, but I have been on the back of an elephant.



I don't have any plans for anything special, going back to work soon. But someday I am going on the cruise to Alaska.. someday.



My mother ended up moving to Flagstaff, and on a whim I went with her. It was filled with lots of experiences and I have lots of good and "what on earth were we thinking?" stories.

Saving to take family memebers to Hawaii sounds wonderful. I bet you have some great stories to share about that trip.

And the cruise to Alaska sounds like fun too. I know some people that have done that and they loved it. Some of the boys from our scout troop flew to Alaska last summer to go backpacking and ice climbing. I didn't go, but sure wanted to!

 

[dcraz]

I'm not quite a "thrill seaker" so, sky diving, rock climbing, and bull riding are well out of the range of "normal" for me, lol. ONE thing I did in my life that could be considered out of character (but not by those that know me today, this is retrospective) was to be the first one in my family to move away from the little mountain town I am from, go to college and GRADUATE. I am the only one in my family, including my parents and my 2 siblings to have a degree.

If you would have known me when I was younger you would think that my fate would have simply been the same as my sister & brother ~ to stay in that little town and not expand my horizons at all. The reason this is such a big thing is that my personality has always been quite, reserved, and respectful. I was the proverbial "seen and not heard" child. I am the middle child and those of you that are middle children, you know what that is like; you aren't the oldest and you aren't the youngest, you just ARE. Maybe this helped me forge my independance and get the heck outta Dodge and actually DO something with my life. I did



I am going to be in one of my good friend's wedding. This is the first time I am actually looking forward to it (more than usual) as usually I really don't like being (or going to) weddings at all. I am putting my own feelings and opinions aside and supporting my friend in the biggest step she is taking in her life, becoming someone's wife.



Sometimes, I want to just take off and GO somewhere......somewhere exciting like Vegas and throw caution to the wind and just have a good time. I am sure I would come back with a story or two

You have a lot to be proud of. Graduating from college is a big step, esepcially coming from a family without that background. Good for you!

And it's nice that you have such a wonderful attitude to support your friend at her wedding. You are a great friend to have and I am sure she is happy you are there for her.

Vegas huh??? Ahhh the stories you could tell!!! Come over here and whisper them to me when you get back. I want to hear ALL about it!

 

[Stryderthorongil]

If you would have known me when I was younger you would think that my fate would have simply been the same as my sister & brother ~ to stay in that little town and not expand my horizons at all. The reason this is such a big thing is that my personality has always been quite, reserved, and respectful. I was the proverbial "seen and not heard" child. I am the middle child and those of you that are middle children, you know what that is like; you aren't the oldest and you aren't the youngest, you just ARE. Maybe this helped me forge my independance and get the heck outta Dodge and actually DO something with my life. I did :

Wow, can I relate to this. Middle child, we just ARE, you are correct, but it does drive us to be something different. Quiet, reserved, seen as the perfect child, always trying to settle fights between the older and younger siblings. We are wonderful negotiators. This has helped me tremendously as I have moved through life. Forging independence, first to get a job, buy my own car, move out of the house. Older brother beat me to the first college degree in the family. I made up later with the first rather advanced degree. Competition? Yea, probably. I always enjoy meeting other middle children. Soooooo much to talk about.

 

[Quinn71]

"Turn off the cruise control!!" This thought came ot Me while I was meditating in My inner sanctum otherwise known as the bathroom....I am curious to know if anyone else finds they do their clearest thinking on the can. If I could move My office into there I would be a millionaire LOL

Anyway, It hit Me like a ton of bricks one day how we go through life just going through the motions and never take the time to really do anything significant with our days.

I think it is time we turn off the cruise control and learn again how to appreciate these lives we have.

Comments appreciated and welcome.....

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

"Turn off the cruise control!!" This thought came ot Me while I was meditating in My inner sanctum otherwise known as the bathroom....I am curious to know if anyone else finds they do their clearest thinking on the can. If I could move My office into there I would be a millionaire LOL

Anyway, It hit Me like a ton of bricks one day how we go through life just going through the motions and never take the time to really do anything significant with our days.

I think it is time we turn off the cruise control and learn again how to appreciate these lives we have.

Comments appreciated and welcome.....

Ummmm... can't say I have had any revelations in that particular fashion of my life.....

I do my best thinking when, I have no one around, or when I'm in the car.

I try to appreciate all I have... but yes I'll admit, I'm not always satisfied and would like more. But in most aspects of my life I am happy, so if I had to give anything up to get what I would like to have.... but it would be not having what I have now...... then I would change nothing.


Wow.... Red's deep early this morning.... scary

 

[MrFantasyMan]

Ummmm... can't say I have had any revelations in that particular fashion of my life.....

I do my best thinking when, I have no one around, or when I'm in the car.

I try to appreciate all I have... but yes I'll admit, I'm not always satisfied and would like more. But in most aspects of my life I am happy, so if I had to give anything up to get what I would like to have.... but it would be not having what I have now...... then I would change nothing.


Wow.... Red's deep early this morning.... scary

very scarey... ...but cute...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

very scarey... ...but cute...

Thanks.... I think...

 

[dcraz]

Cruise Control???

I probably have the opposite problem I think. I love life and everything it brings me. I am always looking for new experiences and enjoy every opportunity I have to sample life’s great splendor.

I am so lucky. I have a great family (wife and kids), a job I love that pays me very well, excellent health and very little real stress in my life. I am a compulsive volunteer (basketball and swim team coach, boy scout leader, girl scout helper, and elected official). My problem comes from never sitting still. I get up early, stay up late, never watch TV and spend a lot of time in the outdoors. I am always rushing from one obligation (admittedly obligations of my own doing) and rarely have time to sit back and reflect.

So while I am busy rushing ahead, my life is hardly on cruise control.

If there is one thing I have been trying to do for about a year now (with the help of a wonderful friend), is to take a little time to learn to relax. To enjoy the life I do experience. To reflect and ponder on the wonders around me. And above all else, to spend a little more time with family and friends. To let those that are important to me know how much I appreciate them and to be sure I am returning the favor wherever possible.

Oh and one more thing, with all my free time…. To find a little time to do some special things just for me. I cannot remember the last thing I did for me that was not a promise, request or obligation for someone else.

 

[pleasteasme]

I probably have the opposite problem I think. I love life and everything it brings me. I am always looking for new experiences and enjoy every opportunity I have to sample life’s great splendor.

I am so lucky. I have a great family (wife and kids), a job I love that pays me very well, excellent health and very little real stress in my life. I am a compulsive volunteer (basketball and swim team coach, boy scout leader, girl scout helper, and elected official). My problem comes from never sitting still. I get up early, stay up late, never watch TV and spend a lot of time in the outdoors. I am always rushing from one obligation (admittedly obligations of my own doing) and rarely have time to sit back and reflect.

So while I am busy rushing ahead, my life is hardly on cruise control.

If there is one thing I have been trying to do for about a year now (with the help of a wonderful friend), is to take a little time to learn to relax. To enjoy the life I do experience. To reflect and ponder on the wonders around me. And above all else, to spend a little more time with family and friends. To let those that are important to me know how much I appreciate them and to be sure I am returning the favor wherever possible.

Oh and one more thing, with all my free time…. To find a little time to do some special things just for me. I cannot remember the last thing I did for me that was not a promise, request or obligation for someone else.

Excellent topic dc! Yes...YOU need to take some time out, once a week *if not once a day* to do something entirely for YOURSELF! It is easy to get all wrapped up in obligations (yes, even if they are your own doing!) and in a way 'loose' yourself along the way.

I do this silly thing, usually on Sundays ~ which when I am really busy is the day I have to myself! I make it my personal "spa day" No, I am not talking about those expensive health spas *although, the idea has merit!* I mean that I take time to pamper myself a little.

I tend to be a little tom-boyish.....*giggles* even though inside I am all soft and feminine. Anyway, what I do, is set aside me time.....I try not to have obligations on Sundays so I can enjoy time for myself. What I do (although I don't recommend this to you dc ) is prim and pamper myself. I usually have a mud mask or facial of some type that I give myself, take a nice long hot shower, do all the necessary girlie things in the shower.....exfoliate, scrub, trim and deep condition my auburn tresses! Then I usually soak my feet and give myself a little bit of a pedicure. This is followed up by all over body lotion and usually some type of relaxation whether it is reading, watching a movie, listening to music or just totally veg-out!

This usually helps me to relax a bit and be re-invigorated for the week coming up! Of course, a personal massuese would be wonderful.....I keep dreaming

I encourage to take time out and do something for YOU. Even if it is rewarding yourself with a special treat at the end of (or beginning of) the week. I find it really helps and I look forward to it!!!!

 

[dcraz]

Excellent topic dc! Yes...YOU need to take some time out, once a week *if not once a day* to do something entirely for YOURSELF! It is easy to get all wrapped up in obligations (yes, even if they are your own doing!) and in a way 'loose' yourself along the way.

I do this silly thing, usually on Sundays ~ which when I am really busy is the day I have to myself! I make it my personal "spa day" No, I am not talking about those expensive health spas *although, the idea has merit!* I mean that I take time to pamper myself a little.

I tend to be a little tom-boyish.....*giggles* even though inside I am all soft and feminine. Anyway, what I do, is set aside me time.....I try not to have obligations on Sundays so I can enjoy time for myself. What I do (although I don't recommend this to you dc ) is prim and pamper myself. I usually have a mud mask or facial of some type that I give myself, take a nice long hot shower, do all the necessary girlie things in the shower.....exfoliate, scrub, trim and deep condition my auburn tresses! Then I usually soak my feet and give myself a little bit of a pedicure. This is followed up by all over body lotion and usually some type of relaxation whether it is reading, watching a movie, listening to music or just totally veg-out!

This usually helps me to relax a bit and be re-invigorated for the week coming up! Of course, a personal massuese would be wonderful.....I keep dreaming

I encourage to take time out and do something for YOU. Even if it is rewarding yourself with a special treat at the end of (or beginning of) the week. I find it really helps and I look forward to it!!!!

PTM,

While I am not about primping for myself, I very much like the idea of you primping as you described it. In fact, I am thinking some fine ‘me’ time would be hanging out watching and helping ‘you’ primp! Yes, I think that would be very relaxing. For both of us!

Not sure about the mud mask bit. But I think I could help with the long hot shower (did I tell you I wrote a story about sharing a shower?), trimming (who couldn’t use an extra pair of hands and eyes while performing such delicate primping), even playing with your auburn tresses. And I think a nice long foot massage would be ample payment for allowing me to help with your all over body lotion application. Yes, I am thinking that would all be quite relaxing.

Honestly, I do need a few minutes for myself. In fact, it has been so long and so infrequent, I am not sure what I would do if I had some ‘me’ time. Any ideas???

In fact, this is a good topic to start the week. What do you do for the special me time you set aside? When given the time ( a few minutes, a few hours or an antire day as PTM), what do you like to do just for you to help energize you?

DC

 

[yesYesYEsYES]

PTM,

While I am not about primping for myself, I very much like the idea of you primping as you described it. In fact, I am thinking some fine ‘me’ time would be hanging out watching and helping ‘you’ primp! Yes, I think that would be very relaxing. For both of us!

Not sure about the mud mask bit. But I think I could help with the long hot shower (did I tell you I wrote a story about sharing a shower?), trimming (who couldn’t use an extra pair of hands and eyes while performing such delicate primping), even playing with your auburn tresses. And I think a nice long foot massage would be ample payment for allowing me to help with your all over body lotion application. Yes, I am thinking that would all be quite relaxing.

Honestly, I do need a few minutes for myself. In fact, it has been so long and so infrequent, I am not sure what I would do if I had some ‘me’ time. Any ideas???

In fact, this is a good topic to start the week. What do you do for the special me time you set aside? When given the time ( a few minutes, a few hours or an antire day as PTM), what do you like to do just for you to help energize you?

DC

Really good topic....I'm actually with PTM....I love to indulge myself in a nice long soak in the tub....I usually light candles, bring something to drink....a good book and spend a good hour in there doing all the nicey female types of things, then lotion down...or up....whichever the case may be...do the pedicure thing then usually will have a favorite thing for lunch/dinner and veg out on the couch, reading, watching tv etc. and do nothing....zip....and not feel guilty about it either.

And DC....I have to agree with PTM....you do stress yourself out a bit I think....you know a nice long bath isn't just for females and feels soooooo relaxing (like I should be talking about relaxing )...you should try it sometime.