Spotting Male Cocksuckers

[OpenRoad_71]

In my male guise I am not ugly, OK build, nice hair, averagey. But I have never once been propositioned by a guy. Never, and I am not a youngster.
I stay in hotels quite a bit and eat and drink alone. I'm literally sitting at a bar fantasising about being taken face down ass up on my hotel bed by pretty much anyone with a hard cock and a pulse, surely my aura is bright pink! But still nothing
I've read this thread, I should try make eye contact, which I don't really, but I return nods / smiles and greet people when greeted! I am probably a bit 'closed', but even so, never ever 1 single proposition?
I know, a lot of this is on me - I need to get off my horny ass and put it out there, I am in the process of taking this step, but I have no gaydar at all.
How am I supposed to spot that other guy who is sitting in a corner fantasising about ravishing an eager bottom on her hotel bed? Am I supposed to make the approach? How do I project my availability to horny male tops? How does a conversation with a stranger turn into a proposition for sex?

 

[Phatfeet]

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

So in a bathroom where you walk straight in. Get close to the urinal and fixate on a imaginary spot on the wall before you…

Instead, when you see someone in the bathroom make momentary eye contact. Look about as you pee. Stand back a few inches and show your junk lobbing it into the urinal.

Since most men into this are older, go where older guys go. A young guy can pee once every 1000 miles, most older guys have prostate issues so they will go every twenty miles. Go to rest area bathroom and try this, or go to a bar bathroom.

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

 

[liqueur]

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

I've never had an encounter this way, but the idea is intriguing.

 

[bouncer225]

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

So in a bathroom where you walk straight in. Get close to the urinal and fixate on a imaginary spot on the wall before you…

Instead, when you see someone in the bathroom make momentary eye contact. Look about as you pee. Stand back a few inches and show your junk lobbing it into the urinal.

Since most men into this are older, go where older guys go. A young guy can pee once every 1000 miles, most older guys have prostate issues so they will go every twenty miles. Go to rest area bathroom and try this, or go to a bar bathroom.

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

Interesting, might have to give this a try.

 

[OpenRoad_71]

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

So in a bathroom where you walk straight in. Get close to the urinal and fixate on a imaginary spot on the wall before you…

Instead, when you see someone in the bathroom make momentary eye contact. Look about as you pee. Stand back a few inches and show your junk lobbing it into the urinal.

Since most men into this are older, go where older guys go. A young guy can pee once every 1000 miles, most older guys have prostate issues so they will go every twenty miles. Go to rest area bathroom and try this, or go to a bar bathroom.

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

Makes a lot of sense, will see where I can break the code a bit , thanks

 

[jbird4]

Very good advice -

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

So in a bathroom where you walk straight in. Get close to the urinal and fixate on a imaginary spot on the wall before you…

Instead, when you see someone in the bathroom make momentary eye contact. Look about as you pee. Stand back a few inches and show your junk lobbing it into the urinal.

Since most men into this are older, go where older guys go. A young guy can pee once every 1000 miles, most older guys have prostate issues so they will go every twenty miles. Go to rest area bathroom and try this, or go to a bar bathroom.

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

 

[Britva415]

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

Absolutely this.

The bad news is, for someone who has been living with man-code a long time, it's hard to dare to break it. There is probably fear of getting punished for it.

But the good news is that man-code is so strong that a straight and uninterested man is busy living his own man-code, and is unlikely to even realize he's being subtly invited to interact. And even if he does realize someone's looking at him funny, man-code compels him to pretend not to notice. For him to flip out and get abusive over this, you would really have to get in his face in a way he really can't ignore. Don't do that.

So, just dare to do it. When you do, you'll learn to see when they aren't interested, and when they are, and how easy it is to give and get attention and how often it is welcomed and reciprocated rather than merely ignored.

 

[AndyJacker]

In the context of this thread, a light blue handkerchief worn on the left side indicates a cocksucker. Wearing it on the right indicates a cocksuckee. Unfortunately, around here, those may be worn by Tar Heel fans (I'll resist the obvious editorial comment).

Looks like I will need 2 handkerchiefs.

 

[Britva415]

a light blue handkerchief worn on the left side indicates a cocksucker

whoops, backwards there

For all the hanky colors, left is for the top and right is for the bottom

 

[SomaSlave]

whoops, backwards there

For all the hanky colors, left is for the top and right is for the bottom

Thank you for the correction. Apparently, the site I got it from was incorrect. I’m not sure how that happened: if it’s on the Internet, it must be true, right?

 

[J1biboi]

I have a friend with a big cock, not sure I could tell him that though lol.

If you're drunk and in the right place at the right time, it's not that hard. That's how it happened with me!! I didn't tell him though I asked him if he would let me suck his cock and he did!!!

 

[HLTW]

I met an older guy in a store once who had a domineering personality. We chatted for a little bit and if he would have made an advance I swear I would have followed him to his car and suck him. I didn't know how to broach that subject with him and I didn't want end up getting punched so I did nothing

 

[Jeph77]

I met an older guy in a store once who had a domineering personality. We chatted for a little bit and if he would have made an advance I swear I would have followed him to his car and suck him. I didn't know how to broach that subject with him and I didn't want end up getting punched so I did nothing

You must wonder how it would have gone down!

 

[HLTW]

You must wonder how it would have gone down!

lol more times than you know

 

[Jeph77]

lol more times than you know

Good jo material

 

[CharlieBoker]

You do so by breaking man-code. Not blatantly but slightly.

So in a bathroom where you walk straight in. Get close to the urinal and fixate on a imaginary spot on the wall before you…

Instead, when you see someone in the bathroom make momentary eye contact. Look about as you pee. Stand back a few inches and show your junk lobbing it into the urinal.

Since most men into this are older, go where older guys go. A young guy can pee once every 1000 miles, most older guys have prostate issues so they will go every twenty miles. Go to rest area bathroom and try this, or go to a bar bathroom.

Basically just step outside typical man code a little. By breaking it in little ways you are drawing suggestiveness that you might be available.

I've had many gay experiences in gents public toilets by doing just that kind of thing.

In the UK we call it "Cottaging".

Most cruisy cottages are long gone, but there is still a good chance of an experience in a regular toilet if you apply those basic common sense gaydar principles.

 

[Uncut1969]

Would be so hot to be hit on and questioned by a cock sucker of his interest

 

[Jerrybi]

Does getting propositioned in an adult movie theatre count? A nice olderguy came and satnext to me, took his thick cock out and asked me if i wanted to go to the back, I did.

 

[mtsnowrider]

In my male guise I am not ugly, OK build, nice hair, averagey. But I have never once been propositioned by a guy. Never, and I am not a youngster.
I stay in hotels quite a bit and eat and drink alone. I'm literally sitting at a bar fantasising about being taken face down ass up on my hotel bed by pretty much anyone with a hard cock and a pulse, surely my aura is bright pink! But still nothing
I've read this thread, I should try make eye contact, which I don't really, but I return nods / smiles and greet people when greeted! I am probably a bit 'closed', but even so, never ever 1 single proposition?
I know, a lot of this is on me - I need to get off my horny ass and put it out there, I am in the process of taking this step, but I have no gaydar at all.
How am I supposed to spot that other guy who is sitting in a corner fantasising about ravishing an eager bottom on her hotel bed? Am I supposed to make the approach? How do I project my availability to horny male tops? How does a conversation with a stranger turn into a proposition for sex?

I get the lack of gaydar problem. Sometimes I don't realize that I have been hit on by mrn, and women, until hours or days later. Lol

 

[Britva415]

It helps to maintain an attitude of actively expecting to see come-ons when they happen.

Like, tell yourself that before you go into the store. Or the bar. Or the restroom. Or wherever. Set yourself up to be alert to it.

And have an idea of how you will react/respond, when you do see it.

 

[intrepidgoodtime]

Just a meaningful exchange of glances is all I need...

Do tell

 

[Jeph77]

It's exciting when you have your subject on the hook, and you're in transit to the location where the transaction will take place. The sizing up, the anticipation. Or the knowledge that one has been identified as such. That subtle dance before the cock comes out.

 

[ParkerSteve66]

It helps to maintain an attitude of actively expecting to see come-ons when they happen.

Like, tell yourself that before you go into the store. Or the bar. Or the restroom. Or wherever. Set yourself up to be alert to it.

And have an idea of how you will react/respond, when you do see it.

Great response.

 

[Jeph77]

The man who I passed earlier had caught up to me at the crosswalk.
" You're a cocksucker, aren't you?", he, quite clearly, asked.
" No!, I said,... yes."

 

[mtsnowrider]

It helps to maintain an attitude of actively expecting to see come-ons when they happen.

Like, tell yourself that before you go into the store. Or the bar. Or the restroom. Or wherever. Set yourself up to be alert to it.

And have an idea of how you will react/respond, when you do see it.

Guess I need to be more intentional. My mind usually just doesn't work like that