Spotting Male Cocksuckers

[Whispor]

I met an older guy in a store once who had a domineering personality. We chatted for a little bit and if he would have made an advance I swear I would have followed him to his car and suck him. I didn't know how to broach that subject with him and I didn't want end up getting punched so I did nothing

I've been in somewhat of a similar situation in the past. The guy was a high-level executive and we were spending a lot of time on a project together, and had several job-related discussions later at the hotel we were all staying at. He probably wouldn't have ever let me suck him off out of fear of a sexual harassment claim, but if he had given any hints at wanting me to I would have succumbed to my fantasies of sucking cock for the first time.

 

[Oralinator]

I would like to learn more. I look here on Lit and SD and the old Craigslist for hookups and I have had some success. But it is awkward for me. I am an old guy that likes old guy cock. I was at Menard's today and was thinking if anything was happening or how to connect.

If you’re looking for a golfing partner to clean your stick and balls hit me back. In the West Bend, Wi area. A lot of good courses up here

 

[Britva415]

I didn't know how to broach that subject with him and I didn't want end up getting punched so I did nothing

It's like the other posts about "breaking male code:" You don't broach the subject without preamble, but you do get the ball rolling with behaviors which might seem unfamiliar and risky. But they don't have to be. Start subtle, go slow, maintain plausible deniability, but do something.

What do hetero men do most of all, more than anything? They ignore each other. Even when provoked, even when something weird is going on, they maintain code and they don't let it affect them.

If you don't adhere to that, and you look at someone funny, it isn't enough to get punched. It will probably just get you ignored, as usual. But it is enough to get another less-than-100%-hetero guy's attention.

So first you make an un-mancodely amount of eye contact. You won't get punched over this, you're far far more likely to just get ignored.

If he looks back, then you use your senses to tell you whether he's doing it just because he's not used to being looked at and he's trying to figure out why you're doing it, or if he's doing it because he's picking up what you're putting down.

So, if he pretends he doesn't see you, drop it. If he looks confused and not in a hopeful way, or if he looks back at you to try to figure you out, but then stops, then maybe drop it.

OR, keep watching - but subtly - to see if his gaze comes back to you after he has had time to decide whether to just ignore you or not.

If the two of you keep looking back at each other, SMILE! Don't overlook this. Smile at the guy ffs. And look for him smiling back at you too.

By now, man-code has been transgressed enough that you should feel pretty confident that something is going on with this guy beyond him just being a clueless, uninterested hetero. But not transgressed so much that you'll get hit.

NOW you can escalate. Again - maybe don't jump directly to a verbal proposition. Do you want to suck him? Look at his crotch. Lick your lips while looking in his eyes. Subtle but suggestive. Not enough to get punched over - but, by now, you should be way past that anyway.

Do you want him to suck you? Touch your crotch. Look at his mouth. Turn to face him directly. Display some non-verbal dominance.

In both cases, WATCH how he reacts. You will know whether it's time for you to drop it and gtfo of there, or, keep interacting.

After ALL of that, then you can "broach the subject" verbally.

"Wanna go somewhere?" Again, suggestive, but not enough to get punched over.

If you really mis-read all his signals and he really is just an uninterested hetero (unlikely but possible), he might get mad but he's far far more likely to just get himself away from you.

The risk of getting punched is nowhere near what people fear. Be subtle, but show something and don't drop it unless/until you feel pretty sure there's no chance at all. ANYTHING he does to maintain the interaction and keep sharing mutual attention between you two is a signal that he's reading your vibe and interested to see where it will go.

 

[chapter6plan]

It's like the other posts about "breaking male code:" You don't broach the subject without preamble, but you do get the ball rolling with behaviors which might seem unfamiliar and risky. But they don't have to be. Start subtle, go slow, maintain plausible deniability, but do something.

What do hetero men do most of all, more than anything? They ignore each other. Even when provoked, even when something weird is going on, they maintain code and they don't let it affect them.

If you don't adhere to that, and you look at someone funny, it isn't enough to get punched. It will probably just get you ignored, as usual. But it is enough to get another less-than-100%-hetero guy's attention.

So first you make an un-mancodely amount of eye contact. You won't get punched over this, you're far far more likely to just get ignored.

If he looks back, then you use your senses to tell you whether he's doing it just because he's not used to being looked at and he's trying to figure out why you're doing it, or if he's doing it because he's picking up what you're putting down.

So, if he pretends he doesn't see you, drop it. If he looks confused and not in a hopeful way, or if he looks back at you to try to figure you out, but then stops, then maybe drop it.

OR, keep watching - but subtly - to see if his gaze comes back to you after he has had time to decide whether to just ignore you or not.

If the two of you keep looking back at each other, SMILE! Don't overlook this. Smile at the guy ffs. And look for him smiling back at you too.

By now, man-code has been transgressed enough that you should feel pretty confident that something is going on with this guy beyond him just being a clueless, uninterested hetero. But not so much that you'll get hit.

NOW you can escalate. Again - maybe don't jump directly to a verbal proposition. Do you want to suck him? Look at his crotch. Lick your lips while looking in his eyes. Subtle but suggestive. Not enough to get punched over - but, by now, you should be way past that anyway.

Do you want him to suck you? Touch your crotch. Look at his mouth. Turn to face him directly. Display some non-verbal dominance.

In both cases, WATCH how he reacts. You will know whether it's time for you to drop it and gtfo of there, or, keep interacting.

After ALL of that, then you can "broach the subject" verbally.

"Wanna go somewhere?" Again, suggestive, but not enough to get punched over.

If you really mis-read all his signals and he really is just an uninterested hetero (unlikely but possible), he might get mad but he's far far more likely to just get himself away from you.

The risk of getting punched is nowhere near what people fear. Be subtle, but show something and don't drop it unless/until you feel pretty sure there's no chance at all. ANYTHING he does to maintain the interaction and keep sharing mutual attention between you two is a signal that he's reading your vibe and interested to see where it will go.

Wonderful lecture ... does this class have a lab component?

 

[Britva415]

Wonderful lecture ... does this class have a lab component?

You can get lab credit for any experiments you conduct on your own! Report back here.

 

[Jerrybi]

You can get lab credit for any experiments you conduct on your own! Report back here.

I am ready for our first field trip, i have my notes ready

 

[Britva415]

I am ready for our first field trip, i have my notes ready

I looked for you but couldn't spot you. Are you sure you weren't being shy?

 

[Jerrybi]

I looked for you but couldn't spot you. Are you sure you weren't being shy?

Yes, sorry i got last minute nerves, i am better now, and ready to begin

 

[CharlotteNCguy]

Yes. Similar to others I never know how to bring up to other guys that I would enjoy stroking with them and watching them cum

 

[Britva415]

It only occurred to me with the post above that "spotting cocksuckers" can relate both to strangers (which I've been talking about) but also with guys you already know.

You know what, though, it's all the same. If you've known a guy 20 years and never did anything to find out if he'd suck you or feed you, do the same stuff.

Break the man-code. WATCH him and how he looks at you. Start something, by looking at him. Be subtle and go slow, don't make it weird and STOP if it gets weird so he doesn't have a gay-panic reaction, but do something you haven't dared to do before.

It's ALL in the eyes, that's how you observe and send the signals until you feel confident about starting to use some words. Again, be subtle and go slow, but pay attention. LOOK for signs that he's intrigued, interested, maybe inhibited. And have the brass to be the one to gently move things along. Again, stop if it isn't working.

Maintain a plausible deniability but do still be subtly suggestive and engaging, right up until you have no doubt that he would play with you. But do something. And expect to see interest if you start looking for it and signaling your own.

 

[Britva415]

I was at a crowded and popular museum yesterday. I was by myself. There was a guy there, a much younger Chicano looking guy, who was vigorously playing the eye-contact game with me.

It was extremely obvious to me, but it wouldn't have been if I wasn't expecting to recognize it when I saw it.

I am 100% positive that I could have had my cock in his throat in 5 minutes if he hadn't been with his clueless girlfriend.

Me, I get a lot of looks as it is: Not "interested in sex" looks, just curious ones because I have "a look" (combination of style and physical features) which is unusual and somewhat attention-getting. So people of all types and orientations will give me looks, frequently. BUT most of them don't look interested in me "that way." When someone is, it is very different and obvious compared to when just I see that someone's looking at me for no reason other than noticing my striking appearance.

I'm not even saying I'm great looking, but I can tell when I'm someone's type and I can tell when they're thinking about something more than just getting an eyeful.

Just start paying attention. With regular practice, and with the expectation that you can know it when you see it, then you will get to where you can spot it consistently, reliably and confidently.

Then you just gotta figure out how to make a move, and which move you want to make. Get a phone number for later? Get/give a blowjob right now? Decisions, decisions!

 

[dingdongditchding]

It's exciting when you have your subject on the hook, and you're in transit to the location where the transaction will take place. The sizing up, the anticipation. Or the knowledge that one has been identified as such. That subtle dance before the cock comes out.

yep, waiting for his arrival

 

[dingdongditchding]

I was at a crowded and popular museum yesterday. I was by myself. There was a guy there, a much younger Chicano looking guy, who was vigorously playing the eye-contact game with me.

It was extremely obvious to me, but it wouldn't have been if I wasn't expecting to recognize it when I saw it.

I am 100% positive that I could have had my cock in his throat in 5 minutes if he hadn't been with his clueless girlfriend.

Me, I get a lot of looks as it is: Not "interested in sex" looks, just curious ones because I have "a look" (combination of style and physical features) which is unusual and somewhat attention-getting. So people of all types and orientations will give me looks, frequently. BUT most of them don't look interested in me "that way." When someone is, it is very different and obvious compared to when just I see that someone's looking at me for no reason other than noticing my striking appearance.

I'm not even saying I'm great looking, but I can tell when I'm someone's type and I can tell when they're thinking about something more than just getting an eyeful.

Just start paying attention. With regular practice, and with the expectation that you can know it when you see it, then you will get to where you can spot it consistently, reliably and confidently.

Then you just gotta figure out how to make a move, and which move you want to make. Get a phone number for later? Get/give a blowjob right now? Decisions, decisions!

maybe the both of them.

 

[Jeph77]

yep, waiting for his arrival

So you've been spotted.

 

[dingdongditchding]

So you've been spotted.

we met before, this is not the first time for us