The pass around girl

[graceanne]

Not to point out the obvious, but what she's done and hasn't done isn't real clear. The interviewer was not interested in her mental health, but in her tattoo's. I think that their's a bunch of broad assumptions being made off of one very small article. She admits to being a sex addict and that she's tried to get help. She did not say that she's stopped trying, just that she'd not had a lot of luck until now. She did not say anything to glorify her problems, nor did she liken it to anything like bisexuality or homosexuality. If she felt it was like bisexuality or homosexuality she wouldn't be looking for psychological help. She considers it to be a problem, therefore it is TO HER.

She also kept trying to circle the interview back around to the issues of being a female sex addict. I considered emailing her to find out if she has a website or anything, cause it seemed to me she's trying to get the message out there that not only men need help for sexual addictions. (And isn't that kinda sexist, the assumption that only men have sexual addictions?)

 

[YourCaptor]

[gracies post]

I agree with Grace

 

[petes478]

I think it's kinda goofy-looking, but if she wants to throw her money away on it, then more power to her.

I agree its idiotic and stupid. The woman is obviously immature and mentally ill. It's hard to even take her at face value-perhaps she isn't even real-just a publicity stunt to gain readers. Is there anyone THAT stupid? I doubt it. And what does it indicate about the interviewer-he clearly thinks he can arouse readers and get them to write in by posting an interview with a woman, and showing naked pictures, and making her email address available. They'll write in, of course. But the whole premise is fucked. You may as well pour whiskey and rotton eggs all over your body and lay down in the gutter next to an alley filled with rats at 2 AM. The two experiences are roughly equal.

 

[BeachGurl2]

Not to point out the obvious, but what she's done and hasn't done isn't real clear. The interviewer was not interested in her mental health, but in her tattoo's. I think that their's a bunch of broad assumptions being made off of one very small article. She admits to being a sex addict and that she's tried to get help. She did not say that she's stopped trying, just that she'd not had a lot of luck until now. She did not say anything to glorify her problems, nor did she liken it to anything like bisexuality or homosexuality. If she felt it was like bisexuality or homosexuality she wouldn't be looking for psychological help. She considers it to be a problem, therefore it is TO HER.

She also kept trying to circle the interview back around to the issues of being a female sex addict. I considered emailing her to find out if she has a website or anything, cause it seemed to me she's trying to get the message out there that not only men need help for sexual addictions. (And isn't that kinda sexist, the assumption that only men have sexual addictions?)

I can see where you're coming from Gracie, but I don't agree. I really didn't get the impression that she truly considers it a 'problem', and part of that comes from the way she was clearly advertising herself - giving her vital statistics right off the bat, and then almost bragging about losing so many jobs. Her tone was not one of wanting help but one of saying, 'hey, look at me'. And her attitude was more self-involved than ill.

Sex addiction, like any other addiction, is about impulse control. It is often rooted in something lacking in the person's life which leads to things like low self-esteem. And just like someone mentioned cutting earlier, it is the way the person gets the feelings out, for lack of some professional term that I'm sure Bunny would know. Her behavior doesn't suggest impulse control problems, it suggests narcissistic behavioral problems - it's not that she can't control herself, she just plain doesn't give a shit.

Like I said, I'm not psychologist, but I've done some psychology study, specifically cognitive development and abnormal behaviors, because I worked with at-risk youth for so long. There truly isn't enough information to make any kind of judgment that could be considered a diagnosis, but her behavior does suggest a few things.

 

[graceanne]

I can see where you're coming from Gracie, but I don't agree. I really didn't get the impression that she truly considers it a 'problem', and part of that comes from the way she was clearly advertising herself - giving her vital statistics right off the bat, and then almost bragging about losing so many jobs. Her tone was not one of wanting help but one of saying, 'hey, look at me'. And her attitude was more self-involved than ill.

Sex addiction, like any other addiction, is about impulse control. It is often rooted in something lacking in the person's life which leads to things like low self-esteem. And just like someone mentioned cutting earlier, it is the way the person gets the feelings out, for lack of some professional term that I'm sure Bunny would know. Her behavior doesn't suggest impulse control problems, it suggests narcissistic behavioral problems - it's not that she can't control herself, she just plain doesn't give a shit.

Like I said, I'm not psychologist, but I've done some psychology study, specifically cognitive development and abnormal behaviors, because I worked with at-risk youth for so long. There truly isn't enough information to make any kind of judgment that could be considered a diagnosis, but her behavior does suggest a few things.

I didn't hear bragging, just facts. Statements of consequences.

 

[BeachGurl2]

I didn't hear bragging, just facts. Statements of consequences.

It probably has to do with how each of us (not you and me specifically, but all of us) read tone into the written word. Which we all have had issues with a time or two posting on the boards, people taking us differently than we intended. I'm not saying I'm right and you're wrong, I'm just saying that what I see isn't the same thing that you see.

 

[graceanne]

It probably has to do with how each of us (not you and me specifically, but all of us) read tone into the written word. Which we all have had issues with a time or two posting on the boards, people taking us differently than we intended. I'm not saying I'm right and you're wrong, I'm just saying that what I see isn't the same thing that you see.

Very likely. That's the biggest issue with the written word.

 

[rosco rathbone]

"I don't mean to have the affairs I do but I can't help it".

Doesn't really sound like good times for her.


There's a side of me that likes that kind of person, but meh.