The Stench that stopped an army

[swordandsandle]

Ok, question; how do you go about telling a woman that she wears enough perfume to choke a whole calvary unit without getting bitch-slapped? (I mean, THEY are allowed to slap us, but if we slap back, it's abuse?) Stratagies tried already include.

1. The U-Reak-A t-shirt (they failed to get the message)

2. Using too much colonge ( coulden't stand to smell myself)

3. Giving her deoderate with her birthday present ( Flew over her head)

4. Bought her a less-horse-choking brand (never wore it)

... I'm running out of ideas, and so will explote this area's database.

 

[millieteases]

Sometimes you just have to be blunt. If it's too much for you it's probably too much for people in her office, on the bus, next to her in church or wherever.

Take one for the rest of us...

 

[satindesire]

Ok, question; how do you go about telling a woman that she wears enough perfume to choke a whole calvary unit without getting bitch-slapped? (I mean, THEY are allowed to slap us, but if we slap back, it's abuse?)

Uh, no. Assault is assault is assault, no matter who does it to whom.

Anyway.

This is one of those golden rule things. How would YOU like to be approached if someone thought YOU wore way too much cologne? Probably very polite and nicely, but directly, right?

Then you do the same. Being rude or snarky isn't going to solve your problem, it'll just make you look like an ass. Be nice about it, be sure you aren't humiliating the person in front of a bunch of people. Take her aside and tell her gently.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

"I don't know if you realize this, but the scent of your perfume is really quite strong. In fact, to be candid, it gives me a headache. I do like Chanel No. 5, but I think you might find that a little goes quite a long way, even if you can't smell it anymore..."


/From a sensory stand point, she applies the perfume until she can JUST smell it, because them she knows she has it on. However, her mind is filtering the perfume as it gets used to it, so she applies more and more.
//Hooray for psychology and whatnot...

 

[PertPerth]

/From a sensory stand point, she applies the perfume until she can JUST smell it, because them she knows she has it on. However, her mind is filtering the perfume as it gets used to it, so she applies more and more.
//Hooray for psychology and whatnot...

I was going to say that! I can't smell my perfume on me at all - I've been wearing the same scent, daily, for over 5 years.

I tend to agree with the others; without being nasty about it, tell her that sometimes less is more. Perfume is lovely, but it only needs to be a dab.

 

[Naughty_Misty]

If she's part of your unit it should be an NCO or squad leader to address the issue.

She needs to be reminded that she can actually become a detriment to the unit on the combat field because potential targets would be able to smell her perfume long before they spot ya'll.

 

[satindesire]

If she's part of your unit it should be an NCO or squad leader to address the issue.

She needs to be reminded that she can actually become a detriment to the unit on the combat field because potential targets would be able to smell her perfume long before they spot ya'll.

Er, I think he meant "Calvary Unit" as a joke.

 

[Naughty_Misty]

ohhh... oopsie. The Army wife in me reared her ugly head. Will kick her back down now.

 

[satindesire]

ohhh... oopsie. The Army wife in me reared her ugly head. Will kick her back down now.

*holds her sides!* I'm sorry, it's probably mean to laugh at that and I truly don't mean it offensively but OMG you seriously thought he wasn't kidding!!! Oh, man you made me night, I'm not lying.

That is so too cute. Honest to God.

 

[OzoneRed]

Have you spoken with any mutual acquaintances about her perfume? If not, consider doing so, hopefully without being nasty about it. Could have two benefits:

1. You might find out that you're the only one who thinks her perfume is too much. In which case, maybe you 'll just have to live with it.

2. Once it's brought to their attention, maybe other people will start dropping hints.

 

[Norma_Stits]

I have 15 women who work for me in a smallsih office (mix of married & single)

Talk about the 'Clash of the Titans' when they come to work with their different perfumes

Sometimes I just have to leave the room for some fresh air

just sayin

 

[sbelle79]

i agree that the best way would be direct and polite...but ummm heres a thought. Maybe catch her just out of a shower BEFORE she applies and tell her how much her natural aroma appeals to you? And maybe work in somehow that you are sensitive (or notice more)to smells and maybe she will tone it down a bit?? just a thought...

I am a perfume / cologne lover. i LOVE a good smellin man, so i try to make sure i smell good too, but I dont think I over do it.

 

[satindesire]

i agree that the best way would be direct and polite...but ummm heres a thought. Maybe catch her just out of a shower BEFORE she applies and tell her how much her natural aroma appeals to you? And maybe work in somehow that you are sensitive (or notice more)to smells and maybe she will tone it down a bit?? just a thought...

I am a perfume / cologne lover. i LOVE a good smellin man, so i try to make sure i smell good too, but I dont think I over do it.

This isn't his girlfriend. I seriously doubt he'll be catching her fresh out of the shower, hon.

 

[sbelle79]

This isn't his girlfriend. I seriously doubt he'll be catching her fresh out of the shower, hon.

oops, pardon my assumption!!

 

[Scotsman69]

I prefer the delicious natural scents of my partner, though she likes to wear discreet and subtle perfumes sometimes, on special occasions, and that's fine.

I use very lightly-scented aftershave, when I do shave. It's impossible to find a non-scented one.

Back in my really promiscuous days, in the seventies, if I was with a woman who perfumed her cunt, I never had sex with her again. There is nothing more beautiful than a woman's cuntscent.

 

[dollface007]

I think a little white lie is in order here. Something like, "I think I'm allergic to your perfume. I've started having sinus problems when I'm at the office and I think that's why. Would you mind putting it on after work, or maybe using a little less? I feel really horrible asking for this HUGE favor. So sorry for the inconvenience!!"

A little play for sympathy might make a prickly person more compliant.

I wear perfume daily, and I've never had a complaint (my boyfriend actually asked me once if I ever wear perfume...I guess it's subtle!). However, I would be receptive (if a little embarrassed) if someone told me it was too strong for them.

 

[NippleMuncher]

It amazes me how many people bathe in cologne and inflict their stench on the unsuspecting public. They are either oblivious or they're looking to choke a horse, either way, tact would be the best protocol. I like the "white lie" approach, let's them know that they're offensive without you coming across as the arsehole.

 

[squarejohn]

This may come as surprise to you, but not everyone likes the smell of perfume. Why don't you try going around with the natural smell of your body. Unlike man made scents, which are made to hide you natural scent, your natural small is an attractant.

 

[nonimura65]

Unfortunately some people believe in layering the scent to make it last all day, pull her aside and tell her its too strong and to instead reapply a small amount through out the day.

If she is resistant to toning it down, point out to her that her perfume can trigger asthma attacks, and some asthma sufferers consider the overpowering scent tantamount to a physical assault. I do, I have to carry an emergency inhaler around because of some of these oblivious people.

 

[squarejohn]

If you just have to wear perfume, try this.

Hold the atomizer bottle above your head and ahead of you. Give it one squeeze, and then walk through the mist.

 

[jehoram]

I think a little white lie is in order here. Something like, "I think I'm allergic to your perfume. I've started having sinus problems when I'm at the office and I think that's why. Would you mind putting it on after work, or maybe using a little less? I feel really horrible asking for this HUGE favor. So sorry for the inconvenience!!"

For a lot of people, it's no white lie. I'm very sensitive to that sort of thing. All I have to do is sit in a chair recently vacated by somebody with too much scent, and I"m sneezing like I just walked through a pepper factory.

My approach would be to frankly tell her that she's using too much. As has been pointed out elsewhere, people's sensory acuity varies all over the map. She's probably on the low end of the scale, and has no idea that she's overdoing it. But reassure that she's your friend, and that you're only telling her because she has a right to know, and because a true friend will tell her what she needs to hear, not necessarily what she wants to hear.

 

[ivantheterrible]

Ok, question; how do you go about telling a woman that she wears enough perfume to choke a whole calvary unit without getting bitch-slapped? (I mean, THEY are allowed to slap us, but if we slap back, it's abuse?) Stratagies tried already include.

1. The U-Reak-A t-shirt (they failed to get the message)

2. Using too much colonge ( coulden't stand to smell myself)

3. Giving her deoderate with her birthday present ( Flew over her head)

4. Bought her a less-horse-choking brand (never wore it)

... I'm running out of ideas, and so will explote this area's database.

never understood why it is acceptable for a woman to hit but not a man to hit back. if she has the ovaries to hit me, she better have them to get hit back.

suggest , use just a little perfume. a little goes a long way.

 

[bazatheman]

my wife sprays up in the car before she goes into work which pisses me off ,i have told her too much is not a good choice and she tries to back off but old habits die hard.