Understanding humour

[TheRedChamber]

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[samhasstories]

Man, I hate it when I can't claim to be more enlightened the average YouTube commenter. I have to admit to being every bit as thick as all the other men who didn't get it.

 

[alohadave]

I've told my wife many times not to try to be subtle with me if she wants something. I'm probably not going to get her implied hints.

I've looked back on past interactions with women and realized years later that she was probably flirting with me but I didn't get the hint.

To be totally honest, I really don't like playing the clue games. If you want something, tell me. Me not getting a hint is not an indication that I'm not interested.

 

[Bramblethorn]

Plenty of women don't get subtle hints either. Depends on the person.

Also a lot of variation between "ask" and "guess" cultures.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

 

[MrPixel]

I got the joke right away.

I've looked back on past interactions with women and realized years later that she was probably flirting with me but I didn't get the hint.

Many, many times back when I was single. But that was after I was totally crapped on by my first wife and afraid of my own shadow with the ladies.

Also a lot of variation between "ask" and "guess" cultures.

Uh huh. The old "she says 'no' but in a coquettish way... does she really mean 'yes'?"

 

[Lifestyle66]

I've told my wife many times not to try to be subtle with me if she wants something. I'm probably not going to get her implied hints.

I've looked back on past interactions with women and realized years later that she was probably flirting with me but I didn't get the hint.

To be totally honest, I really don't like playing the clue games. If you want something, tell me. Me not getting a hint is not an indication that I'm not interested.

That's my main male character in most of my stories (me)!

He's complimented by the brazen MFC (my wife) who knows he's clueless, but takes care of him.

EDIT: My wife's idea of "subtle" is to expect me to do something without saying anything, then get mad and shout "I'll just do it myself!"
"Okay, that'll save me a lot of time, bitch."
When she realizes she wasn't clear about it, she'll reply "But I'm YOUR bitch!"

 

[lustychimera]

My crush: "Hey, you want to help me grab another case of beer from the basement?"

Me: "Nah, I'm good. But the fridge is right there by the stairs. Can't miss it. Grab whatever you want. We bought it for everybody."

"...um. It's really heavy. Can you help me carry it?"

Me: It is? *Googling the avg. weight of a case, then getting into a pedantic argument with my friends over whether "by weight" or "by volume" alcohol content affects the overall weight of a 30 pack.

(I'm so much denser than a Youtube comment section.)

 

[CyranoJ]

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Meh. I don't love it.

It's trivializing a real disconnect that's more often about gender-related conversations where the person you're talking to has been enduring weeks of online harassment that you simply have no idea has happened.

I've had one of those moments recently. It wasn't about saying something innocuous like "I'll see you there." It was me attempting to joke about the "bears vs. men" thing and rapidly discovering it was no laughing matter.

Yes. Cluelessness and male privilege are both things that often come together. But no, women are not ridiculously reacting to common, everyday phrases.

 

[CyranoJ]

I have, to be clear, genuinely encountered ludicrous overreactions on social media. I once had a film aficionado on Xitter -- who was at the time affecting to be an Iron-Hided Internet Warrior b/c she was pro-incest and her detractors were "snowflakes" -- say to me "Don't you know how vile you're being?" b/c I mildly disagreed with one of her Top Ten Movies picks [The Godfather II was IMO better than the original]. The person in question absolutely lost their shit, and I get that Family Guy is lampooning that sort of thing.

 

[Britva415]

It's like those Magic Eye optical puzzles where some people know how to see the hidden shape and some people can't figure it out

 

[TheLobster]

This should've gone to that other thread, which discusses whether Literotica is male-centric, since it's a really solid argument that it is.
Why? Because practically every woman in every story who communicates with men does so better than this chick, and that's clearly a male fantasy.

 

[AlinaX]

On Lit, who has time for subtlety and miscommunication...

The clip here works because of its fast delivery and lack of context and detail. His answer is a reasonable response to an apparently direct question, provided there's no opportunity for him to process her motivation for asking.

 

[pink_silk_glove]

Some people just get way too hung up on whether something should be offensive or not, rather than if it's funny or not.

I thought that it was funny, not uproariously funny, but it got a small laugh from me. it was good.

On the obvious level, it's making fun of clueless men, but on the deeper level it's making fun of irrational 'hysterical' women. Any women who get offended by it, I would have to say, "meh, lighten up," but any men offended by this is truly ironic as they would be truly clueless of the fact that this joke makes fun of men and women equally in their social disconnects.

Cue the next guy who gets pissed at me for saying so.

 

[nice90sguy]

Cue the next guy who gets pissed at me for saying so.

I'm totally pissed at you, but it's early here and I'm always in a really bad mood until I've taken my morning dump.

I fall into the "didn't get it" category and laughed at it. I don't think I should try writing any more female characters. Sheesh

On Lit, who has time for subtlety and miscommunication...

The clip here works because of its fast delivery and lack of context and detail. His answer is a reasonable response to an apparently direct question, provided there's no opportunity for him to process her motivation for asking.

Thanks for making me feel slightly less of a jerk for not getting it

 

[Handley_Page]

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I do not understand the "humour"
It's about as amusing as last nights soup.

Is there any coffee ?

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I have to admit that I had to watch it five times to figure out how he offended her.

The joke is spot-on.

 

[SimonDoom]

No, I didn't get it at first, and yes, I thought it was funny. Not laugh out loud funny, but amusing.

I think it works as an amusing stereotype about female/male communication, which has some basis in truth. I know personally that it has some basis in truth because I can recall encounters where I was that guy. The woman in the encounters I experienced did not respond in the same way as in the video, but the video exaggerates for the sake of humor.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I have, to be clear, genuinely encountered ludicrous overreactions on social media.

Parts of Literotica qualify as social media, so...yeah.

 

[lovecraft68]

It does take shots at both genders but only one is whining about it, and no surprise to which one it is.

 

[Britva415]

It does take shots at both genders but only one is whining about it, and no surprise to which one it is.

It's not clear to me who you're talking about.

 

[SimonDoom]

It does take shots at both genders but only one is whining about it, and no surprise to which one it is.

Nobody in this thread, yet, has whined about it. People have expressed differences of opinion about how funny they think it is, from a variety of different perspectives. That's it. I have no idea what you're talking about.

 

[Britva415]

I think portraying a teen girl as instantly suicidal over an imaginary rejection, and portraying her friend as a judgmental witch, are both taking more of a shot than portraying a guy as unable to mindread. If I say I don't see how it takes shots at both genders, does that make me a whiner? That's not a rhetorical question. I'm trying to think about what it could be that's being called whining.

 

[alohadave]

Uh huh. The old "she says 'no' but in a coquettish way... does she really mean 'yes'?"

There's the modern controversy with the song "Baby It's Cold Outside". Today it's a really cringey song. But from what people say about how courtship worked back then, it was more understood that the woman had to play the game and push back enough to not be seen as easy.

 

[SimonDoom]

I think portraying a teen girl as instantly suicidal over a perceived rejection, and portraying her friend as a judgmental witch, are both taking more of a shot than portraying a guy as unable to mindread. If I say I don't see how it takes shots at both genders, does that make me a whiner? That's not a rhetorical question. I'm trying to think about what it could be that's being called whining.

No, you are not whining. You have an opinion, which you are entitled to have.