What are some "selfish" kinks?

[Luv4hotwives]

I have an SPH kink, and this came up in another post, but it's a kink that stands out as very one sided. As in there are a decent number of men with this kink, with few if any women having the same kink. Many women are willing to humor the men they are with and do it for his benefit, but aside from maybe enjoying the sight of her partner experience pleasure I don't think most women would get anything from it. In some relationships I'm sure it might even do more harm than good.

Maybe my terminology isn't a perfect fit, I know the word selfish has a somewhat negative connotation,but I also think a selfish kink isn't necessarily a bad thing either. As long as both partners consent and it doesn't become an obsession that causes one partners needs or pleasure to be ignored. It just seems to stand out as a particularly one sided sort of thing.

Can you think of any other kinks that you might find somewhat selfish or one sided?

 

[LoneMilf]

Aren't most kinks/fetishes selfish?

If you like to be degraded, your partner only gets something out of it if they happen to like to degrade.

If you like to dress in women's underwear, they'd have to appreciate that particular look.

I guess the exception would be findom

 

[cdstefi]

My wife's libido is pretty low and she rarely initiates or wants penetrative sex, but she recognises my needs so tolerates me masturbating next to her in bed. Sometimes she's sleepy, sometimes awake, and I suppose I've been doing this long enough to find masturbating while she's awake and aware of my sounds and movements to be something of a fetish.

I usually start slowly, stroking my cock and rubbing it against her bottom, but before long the need for more urgent sensation kicks in and I'll put some coconut oil on my shaft and start wanking harder. If she's awake enough not to mind I might then straddle her and ejaculate on her panties, otherwise I'll keep going lying on my back with the slippery slapping noise of my self-pleasure mounting until I cum hard and shoot all over my own panties and belly, sometimes as far as my chest or even face. If I've cum on her ass I like to cuddle her afterwards with the warm wetness between us.

 

[Deadfreak]

Aren't most kinks/fetishes selfish?

If you like to be degraded, your partner only gets something out of it if they happen to like to degrade.

If you like to dress in women's underwear, they'd have to appreciate that particular look.

I guess the exception would be findom

I had to look up findom
Thank you for furthering my education

 

[Syzoth]

Selfish kink? Probably deriving a perverse pleasure from receiving cum tributes on my wife's pics.

 

[KinkyGreg]

My wife's libido is pretty low and she rarely initiates or wants penetrative sex, but she recognises my needs so tolerates me masturbating next to her in bed. Sometimes she's sleepy, sometimes awake, and I suppose I've been doing this long enough to find masturbating while she's awake and aware of my sounds and movements to be something of a fetish.

I usually start slowly, stroking my cock and rubbing it against her bottom, but before long the need for more urgent sensation kicks in and I'll put some coconut oil on my shaft and start wanking harder. If she's awake enough not to mind I might then straddle her and ejaculate on her panties, otherwise I'll keep going lying on my back with the slippery slapping noise of my self-pleasure mounting until I cum hard and shoot all over my own panties and belly, sometimes as far as my chest or even face. If I've cum on her ass I like to cuddle her afterwards with the warm wetness between us.

Oh nice! Would like to slip in behind you and reach around stroking you as I slip my cock out of my thong and up the back of your silky panties. As your excitement increases you push back onto me, rubbing your oily hand on my hot dick until I push into you. Your wife is turned on by your incredible arousal and grabs your balls whilst you cum hard, spanking all over her and your stomach and chest. I lick it off both of you, but only after I have shot my load in your sexy, silk clad bum.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Findom, gooning, maledom, femdom, postpigging, and even male subs or femsubs.

 

[drobert44]

Femdom, forced femme...........sissified.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

I have an SPH kink, and this came up in another post, but it's a kink that stands out as very one sided. As in there are a decent number of men with this kink, with few if any women having the same kink. Many women are willing to humor the men they are with and do it for his benefit, but aside from maybe enjoying the sight of her partner experience pleasure I don't think most women would get anything from it. In some relationships I'm sure it might even do more harm than good.

Maybe my terminology isn't a perfect fit, I know the word selfish has a somewhat negative connotation,but I also think a selfish kink isn't necessarily a bad thing either. As long as both partners consent and it doesn't become an obsession that causes one partners needs or pleasure to be ignored. It just seems to stand out as a particularly one sided sort of thing.

Can you think of any other kinks that you might find somewhat selfish or one sided?

It really depends on the relationship. My wife has a very specific kink about making me cum, because knowing she was responsible for my orgasm is a massive turn on and power move for her, so sometimes even on days when I'm not in the mindspace to orgasm, she will have her way (women, amirite). Interestingly, i am the dom or the driver in our relationship, except for this particular facet.

Another sub of mine liked being told in detail how much she had pleased me (and I mean in detail) after we were done fucking, and would usually get off one more time as I described what id felt and how good she was. Id just be talking or doing some light touching, while she rubbed herself.

So selfishness in this case can run a whole gamut of expectations. We are all different and I suppose the trick always is to find compatibility.

 

[Erosfan]

Aren't most kinks/fetishes selfish?

If you like to be degraded, your partner only gets something out of it if they happen to like to degrade.

If you like to dress in women's underwear, they'd have to appreciate that particular look.

I guess the exception would be findom

Yes, kinks are selfish. We derive certain pleasure from our kinks. I'm into CFNM and exhibitionism. When I have the good fortune to experience either or both of these, the thrill is unbelievable. Having a partner that indulges me takes things to a new level.

 

[SPARTAN047]

It really depends on the relationship. My wife has a very specific kink about making me cum, because knowing she was responsible for my orgasm is a massive turn on and power move for her, so sometimes even on days when I'm not in the mindspace to orgasm, she will have her way (women, amirite). Interestingly, i am the dom or the driver in our relationship, except for this particular facet.

Another sub of mine liked being told in detail how much she had pleased me (and I mean in detail) after we were done fucking, and would usually get off one more time as I described what id felt and how good she was. Id just be talking or doing some light touching, while she rubbed herself.

So selfishness in this case can run a whole gamut of expectations. We are all different and I suppose the trick always is to find compatibility.

Agreed. The breakdown is kind of selfish but it could come under aftercare.