What would make it easier?

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I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.
 
As with everything, it depends, but probably if she liked the woman. There's an angle where it's hot to 'steal her man' but that's an unhealthy place to be. More likely, they're on good terms and she understands why the other wife is in an open marriage. Then there's no bitterness or bad feelings afterwards, which makes the sex better.
 
I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.
Alcohol? :)
 
I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.

One of my favorites... an "innocent" scenario or situation that allows for sexual tension to build?

Like... maybe taking a dance class together? Totally innocent, but, allowing for closeness and touching... slowly building sexual tension.

Or a game of twister or truth-or-dare where the wife of the guy admits she's turned on by the idea?

Or maybe just a girls night out where the ladies talk and the woman in the already-open-relationship tells the "rookie" about all the upsides/benefits and how much she likes that her husband is being considered by her?

Or maybe a scenario where they are mistaken for being a couple and get to / have to act like a couple for some reason?

Or is there a scenario where she'd be doing the other wife a favor? Maybe the other wife is in the military and about to deploy for a while. She doesn't want her husband to cheat while she's gone... so she wants to set him up with a pre-approved option or two to keep him entertained while she's gone.
 
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Thanks as I often wonder when we find a couple we click with will it be easier for my wife if she relates and likes the other woman or if she has "something to prove". I can see this especially if we are to swap partners, but what if only my wife and her husband are the ones "having fun"?

This situation is based on something that happened with us recently where we bumped into an old boyfriend of my wife's. Turns out she almost had sex with the old boyfriend, but didn't because his parents came home earlier than planned. After 20+ years I finally meet him.
 
Not to talk you out of what you have already decided upon, but could you back-track just a little?

What if you had the ideal man off-limits, at least in the wife's mind. Not just the guy that drops off the kids at the same time she does, but the husband of one of her kids teachers! Handsome and nice, but also married to her daughters teacher. She thinks of HIM whenever her husband talks about hotwifing, but damn, she can't, he is married to her daughter's teacher. "Damn it, married", she keeps saying.

Really backpack it.

List all the ways she is attracted to the man that is COMPLETELY off limits.

Then one day she meets his wife and teacher of her daughter, and she makes note that her husband and her drop off the kids at the same time... and boom... "you could do more than just drop off the kids together", is said, and suddenly the wife realizes the power of vows set aside for a few hours...
 
CuttingEdge, what is funny about your reply is that my wife is actually a school teacher. In your scenario, my wife respects the other man's wife. Given this, then would it be harder or easier to do?

I think if the other man's wife was giving her blessing, if you will, then liking each other would make it easier going forward, as I am totally OK with it happening.

If my wife was simply getting the other man at a weak / impromptu moment, then maybe not liking his wife would make it easier.

Is that what you are saying?
 
Or is there a scenario where she'd be doing the other wife a favor? Maybe the other wife is in the military and about to deploy for a while. She doesn't want her husband to cheat while she's gone... so she wants to set him up with a pre-approved option or two to keep him entertained while she's gone.
I think this is a particularly good suggestion. Especially if the ladies are friends and the other woman is very open about her husbands skills between the sheets. After hearing so many stories, the idea of being sandwiched between her own husband and her friends man, keep her up at night masterbating wildly.

But I think the question of his cheating isn't the way to go, because the idea that he might cheat, doesn't make for a good marriage to start with. But add a cuckquean kink to it instead. She wants video clips of her husband fucking her friend when she's gone.

I like this whole healthy ENM idea.
 
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I see that having the two women being on friendly terms is the scenario that gains the most support. The wife that is offering her husband has to be a very understanding and giving person.

Do many women like this really exists? I think the best scenario is one where the wife is wanting to be involved, as well. Perhaps, she has a slight bisexual side that she has kept hidden all these years that she decides to explore, as well.

So much to think about. So many variables, I guess my hopes of someday this really happening has gone out the window. Good thing I enjoy writing. ;-)
 
I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.

Perhaps a safe half-step first... the husband encourages her to fantasize about the other man while they have sex. She closes her eyes, calls out his name, etc. Maybe the husband tries to encourage the illusion by wearing clothes like the man, the cologne the man wears, shaves or grows stubble, etc.

Then, maybe it can "slip" in front of the other man or his wife about the fantasy. She'll blush of course, but... the cat will be well out of the bag... and gives the wife of the man the opening to say, "I bet the real thing is better than you imagine... you should try the real thing"

(I had an ex who was really into rape fantasies... and wanted the illusion as real as possible including being tied up enough that she could fight with all her might and still "lose"... and, the cologne, etc mentioned above. Interestingly, the thing she didn't expect had a big turn-on... I work with computers so don't have rough hands/skin. I used sandpaper to change that... and spent time running them over her tied up body to get things started...)
 
I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.

Perhaps one couple invites the other over for dinner after which they sit on the couch to watch a movie. The "open relationship" couple sits close, idling fondling each other during the movie in the dim light. Before long there's some kissing. The shy wife is sitting right beside the open husband, legs touching under a blanket. The shy husband fondles her a bit from the other side. She's embarrassed but turned on. His wife lays in his lap and disappears under the blanket. He turns to the shy wife while his own wife strokes and sucks him... as is obvious by his expression while he looks at the shy wife with obvious lust. He leans over and whispers in her ear, "do you mind if I fantasize it's you under the blanket?"
 
I am working on a story and looking for some insight from this Forum. In my story a wife has agreed to consider becoming a hot wife. We meet a couple that has an open marriage, as the husband finds a man in a relationship as less threatening. The wife finds the man attractive and admits that he hits a lot of buttons for her.

If she is on the fence, then what would make it easier to go forward with this new lover? If she did not like the woman he was with or if she really liked the woman?

I look forward to your insights.

A slight modification to the OP setup... to align with a real-life story(ish)...

A husband likes the idea of his hot wife becoming a hotwife. The wife seems less interested... or at least won't admit so.

They have a mutual friend that they got to know while traveling. He's young. He's attractive. He's nice. They even offered him a spare room for a stretch.

The young man has dabbled in flexible relationships, including being the "other man" in an open relationship.

The couple and this young man have been pretty open with their discussions. Both the husband and wife have spent time out chatting (and drinking) with him... separately and together.

BUT, much as the husband would love for the situation to be a "spark" for his wife... she denies reality and pretends there's no flirting going on or inappropriate thoughts.

BUT, they plan to meet up at the location they all first met, returning to the (tropical) place with lots of mutual friends for a get-together... and are going to share an airbnb while there.

There will be evenings when they head back to their place after a night out drinking with friends for one more drink and chatting late into the night.

Maybe the wife has more flexibility in her work schedule and can get there a few days early or stay a few days later, giving her and the young man some time alone?

Maybe the husband has already had the conversation with the young man, expressing that he wishes his wife's sexual desire would be rekindled like it used to be... and this hot young man would be the ideal person to make it happen.
 
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