Why are you always imagining ?

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

Why do people always imagine, but refuse to take a step by taking action? No matter how small, each step will make it a reality. My husband has guided me for many years, allowing me to understand and accompany me on my journey of sexual discovery. That having sex with another person is an experience, and no matter what, he will always love me

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

Everything is very simple, for example if you want to be touched by a stranger. wear a short skirt tonight, come and dance in the crowd, your butt will be touched, your underwear may be gone after you leave.

 

[PapaRomantic]

Everything is very simple, for example if you want to be touched by a stranger. wear a short skirt tonight, come and dance in the crowd, your butt will be touched, your underwear may be gone after you leave.

So how do you tell the difference between the women who wear short skirts and want to be touch from the women that don't want to be touched? In the real world, I ain't touching any woman sexually in a short skirt. It's not worth the criminal record.

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

If you want to seduce them, they will feel it

 

[Scotchlander]

So how do you tell the difference between the women who wear short skirts and want to be touch from the women that don't want to be touched? In the real world, I ain't touching any woman sexually in a short skirt. It's not worth the criminal record.

Totally agree. Us guys require a green light and then it’s match on.

A short skirt is not always enough for it to be a green light.

Luckily I have had a green light many times. Usually a touch of my knee or an accidental on purpose brush of hand on my cock. Or the most obvious … pushing her pussy onto my knee while I was sitting on a bar stool

 

[Cultivateddesires]

Why do people always imagine, but refuse to take a step by taking action? No matter how small, each step will make it a reality. My husband has guided me for many years, allowing me to understand and accompany me on my journey of sexual discovery. That having sex with another person is an experience, and no matter what, he will always love me

This requires a very unselfish relationship, which is not the norm imho (and this place is almost certainly laced with bias).

However the basic premise is a beautiful one.

If you want good sex (howsoever defined) what is the one small action you can take in that journey?

Asking myself as much as anybody else.

 

[Britva415]

A short skirt is not always enough for it to be a green light.

It’s never a green light for going too far.

And it’s not a green light for a lighter approach, either.

The skirt might make you want to approach, but you might want to approach someone who’s not in suggestive clothing, too, and, you should be free to make either approach and see what happens. It has nothing to do with the clothes.

The approach is when you find out whether you have green lights for more.

And “more” is a series of green lights.

I could be wrong about this but I don’t think that even OP really meant that she expected or wanted to just automatically get groped or disrobed just for wearing the skirt. The skirt is a signal that approaches might be welcome, not a signal that the approach should go directly to molestation.

Maybe she really did want it that way, but in normal circumstances, you don’t start getting handsy without approaching first and then reading her reactions, and escalating as her interest permits. And backing off and leaving her alone if the signals say Red instead of Green.

 

[Jw75766]

It’s never a green light for going too far.

And it’s not a green light for a lighter approach, either.

The skirt might make you want to approach, but you might want to approach someone who’s not in suggestive clothing, too, and, you should be free to make either approach and see what happens. It has nothing to do with the clothes.

The approach is when you find out whether you have green lights for more.

And “more” is a series of green lights.

I could be wrong about this but I don’t think that even OP really meant that she expected or wanted to just automatically get groped or disrobed just for wearing the skirt. The skirt is a signal that approaches might be welcome, not a signal that the approach should go directly to molestation.

Maybe she really did want it that way, but in normal circumstances, you don’t start getting handsy without approaching first and then reading her reactions, and escalating as her interest permits. And backing off and leaving her alone if the signals say Red instead of Green.

My experience with my guy friends is they always think that every woman wants to rip their clothes off and start humping them like a sex crazed maniac. Some of us, like myself, are much more reserved or perhaps even dense. Where when I was younger, I had women flirt with me and had no clue because I didn't want to assume there was an attraction like my guy friends would. It's a delicate road to travel on, especially now days. Always approch an interest will respect and concern for his/her comfort. Let things play out naturally and see where you both wind up.

 

[Britva415]

when I was younger, I had women flirt with me and had no clue because I didn't want to assume there was an attraction

How about now? Did you grow out of that?

Me personally, it took me a while but I finally learned that nothing ever happens if you assume that there isn't attraction. I learned not to to assume that attraction won't develop if I put myself on her radar.

What you refer to as "women flirting" with you was probably very subtle and not what we would recognize as forward at all. So when we walk around not looking for it, we don't see it.

That's the other thing I learned. When I look for it, I see it all the time. It isn't blatant, it isn't in your face, it isn't forward, it's subtle. When I don't care to look for it, I don't notice. So, mostly it's up to us (guys) to make something happen, because a woman mostly won't.

The art of shooting your shot is a subtle one. Not as subtle as a woman trying to flirt, cold, with someone who hasn't yet shown interest or attention, but still subtle. It doesn't mean spotting the shortest skirt and chasing that (because it's "easy looking"), and it doesn't mean groping with zero preamble, sparks, and invitation.

The preamble is the approach.

The sparks is what we create, what we elicit from her, if the approach is welcome, if we flirt confidently, and if she finds herself feeling attracted. Then we amplify that - we ride those sparks and make more.

When all that's going well, we shoot the shot - like make the actual move. Whether that's a kiss, asking for her number, or under the right circumstances (nothing but green lights, provocative signals, inviting energy) that escalation to hands.

None of that has anything to do with the skirt. It entirely has to do with the connection, with empathy, with paying attention.

 

[SusanHoward]

I imagine being with lots of you guys who know how to tribute me…

 

[Jw75766]

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I'm 45 and married now. I've had my wife's friends VERY openly flirt with me but could never act on it. I still don't assume women are flirting with me. I try to avoid the impression of chauvinistic behavior at all costs.

The flirting in one case was a friend who would always come to my work to see me and lean against me and lay her head on my shoulder. Yes, I was very dense.

I am at the point in my life where I can make crude sexual jokes with a couple female friends and have it reciprocated yet have the understanding that we're both just having fun turning each other on and nothing physical will come of it. It's a very strange place I never thought I'd find myself.

 

[Slowchicken]

I imagine being with lots of you guys who know how to tribute me…

Are you into picture or video tributes?

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

Sometimes women have double standards. If you look at them, they like it but think it's impolite. If you don't look at them, you're polite, but they don't like it.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

Why do people always imagine, but refuse to take a step by taking action? No matter how small, each step will make it a reality. My husband has guided me for many years, allowing me to understand and accompany me on my journey of sexual discovery. That having sex with another person is an experience, and no matter what, he will always love me

One thing I've learned is that Lit has a lot of users who live lives of quiet desperation. They DM me with their fantasies and when they say they're married I ask if they've told or attempted it with their spouses. Most have not.

 

[Stopokochac]

I DID, and it cost me my best friend.

 

[ilovetoeat42]

I took action and it was the best 3 years of my life...then covid happened ..I've tried since then but told me no

 

[ChampionSkills]

Everything is very simple, for example if you want to be touched by a stranger. wear a short skirt tonight, come and dance in the crowd, your butt will be touched, your underwear may be gone after you leave.

You are so much fun.

 

[Stopokochac]

Sometimes women have double standards. If you look at them, they like it but think it's impolite. If you don't look at them, you're polite, but they don't like it.

I know the kinds of women you're talking about. They complain about "creepy men", but at the same time they love the attention because it reinforces the high opinion they have of themselves.
And if you're polite, then they think, "How can he not find me attractive?"