🔴 Red Light 🟢 Green Light

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Red- asking for nudes then getting butt hurt when the answer is no
Green- asking for nudes and respecting my right to say no

People who ask for nudes.

People who freely share nudes without being asked.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Guys are awful! I laugh whenever I hear that women are "too emotional" because I've only ever seen grown ass men throw tantrums

We prefer the term "emotional outburst"

Sounds more civilized.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Oh I know you know me better than most. I’m not worried. But I do worry about the guys on that thread. Geez. Muddying the waters for the rest of us.

I have never seen it that way

If I am somewhere where all the other guys are acting like total tools, I get excited. In that situation all I have to do is act like a normal human being and suddenly I am the most attractive guy in the room.

(Yes. I have to ACT like a normal human being. I took a course at the local community college to help. Not being a douche 101.)

 

[base10]

They do if you use a ridding crop.

Fully endorse painful punishments for people getting out of line

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Fully endorse painful punishments for people getting out of line

I only give them to those who behave

 

[barefootgirl69]

I only give them to those who behave

I've been a good girl!

 

[LadyLascivious1]

People who ask for nudes.

People who freely share nudes without being asked.

I have mixed feelings on this one. I freely share when I’m interested in someone and comfortable. I want them to do them same. No pressure or expectations on either side.

But I also appreciate when someone I’ve shared with lets me know how much they appreciate them which can take the form of asking for something specific or just more of anything. Of course, I can always say no, but I also enjoy the encouragement.

There are also times when you’re not sure you’d be crossing the line by sharing, so a well timed or worded request (bonus if it’s funny) can give the consent green light.

 

[pandaburr]

I have mixed feelings on this one. I freely share when I’m interested in someone and comfortable. I want them to do them same. No pressure or expectations on either side.

But I also appreciate when someone I’ve shared with lets me know how much they appreciate them which can take the form of asking for something specific or just more of anything. Of course, I can always say no, but I also enjoy the encouragement.

There are also times when you’re not sure you’d be crossing the line by sharing, so a well timed or worded request (bonus if it’s funny) can give the consent green light.

I feel the same on the mixed feelings. I don’t actually share nudes much at all these days..maybe two people I can think off the top of my head in the past few months but when I do, it’s because i like them and feel comfortable. And because of that, I would have totally welcomed them asking to see me in certain moments. Maybe flattered by it even. I guess the same could be said for me asking to see them - I would only do ever be bold enough if it were someone I liked or talked to often.

 

[Xerxes82]

I have mixed feelings on this one. I freely share when I’m interested in someone and comfortable. I want them to do them same. No pressure or expectations on either side.

But I also appreciate when someone I’ve shared with lets me know how much they appreciate them which can take the form of asking for something specific or just more of anything. Of course, I can always say no, but I also enjoy the encouragement.

There are also times when you’re not sure you’d be crossing the line by sharing, so a well timed or worded request (bonus if it’s funny) can give the consent green light.

I feel the same on the mixed feelings. I don’t actually share nudes much at all these days..maybe two people I can think off the top of my head in the past few months but when I do, it’s because i like them and feel comfortable. And because of that, I would have totally welcomed them asking to see me in certain moments. Maybe flattered by it even. I guess the same could be said for me asking to see them - I would only do ever be bold enough if it were someone I liked or talked to often.

I have mad respect for both of these takes.

There are so many ladies here that are radiant each in their own way. I always enjoy when I see people posting in the face or chest threads. But even as a guy I feel really odd about nudes.

Like, on the one hand, of course I want to see them. Beauty is always worth the time, I'm super visual and of course I'm a total horndog.

But I'm terrified of somebody feeling pressured or like I'm conditioning friendship on nudity. I'd rather be friendzoned and nudeless but for people to know that my interest in them isn't (exclusively) in their bodies. So I'm always super hesitant around sharers, or even just women I'd like to see more of around here.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

emotional and physical self centeredness

empaths and pleasers

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Insecurity

Confidence

 

[seetheartinme]

someone who is absent. Mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Someone who is present. Will have good, intellectual conversations and will cuddle.

 

[Diosax]

We prefer the term "emotional outburst"

Sounds more civilized.

But I thought men aren't emotional.

I have never seen it that way

If I am somewhere where all the other guys are acting like total tools, I get excited. In that situation all I have to do is act like a normal human being and suddenly I am the most attractive guy in the room.

(Yes. I have to ACT like a normal human being. I took a course at the local community college to help. Not being a douche 101.)

You'd become even more attractive if you call our your bros in their shitty behavior

I have mad respect for both of these takes.

There are so many ladies here that are radiant each in their own way. I always enjoy when I see people posting in the face or chest threads. But even as a guy I feel really odd about nudes.

Like, on the one hand, of course I want to see them. Beauty is always worth the time, I'm super visual and of course I'm a total horndog.

But I'm terrified of somebody feeling pressured or like I'm conditioning friendship on nudity. I'd rather be friendzoned and nudeless but for people to know that my interest in them isn't (exclusively) in their bodies. So I'm always super hesitant around sharers, or even just women I'd like to see more of around here.

I appreciate your perspective

I think there's also a point where the other peraon feeling pressured is their issue. I know at points I have felt both pressured or wondered if that's the only thing they're interested in. The former gets better when you feel okay with saying no which is related to cofidence and not having codependency issue or beinf a people pleaser. At the end of the day all people should learn to be a better judgment of character. The latter, well at some point that might be the risk although usually this is easier to figure out imo.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

You'd become even more attractive if you call our your bros in their shitty behavior.

Good guys do that sometimes. If they are people we know we'll do it every time.

At a bar.... with drunk asshole strangers...if they are just talking like douchebags what is the point? What am I going to do... go tell them to shut up which I know will start a fight so everyone leaves the bar miserable and/or in handcuffs?

I'd rather just be the better option for the women there.

Now if a stranger at a bar was getting handsy with a woman who clearly wanted it to stop that is another scenario and who I may or may not impress suddenly becomes irrelevant.

I have felt the need to do that a couple times in my life. But you can't do that every time some jackass makes an off color remark. Sometimes the easiest thing to do is to take the woman out of that situation. I have taken a woman home who wasn't feeling safe more than once. It never resulted in anything. Not one time. I literally just dropped her off at home and left.

In college I lived next to a sorority and was often asked to go walk one of the sorority girls back to their house so they didn't expect anything. I just understood they didn't want to walk a ross campus alone in the dark. Was always happy to take 15 minutes out of my day for that.

There are good dudes out there. Men who care about women and who will protect women for no reason other than it's the right thing to do.

But we aren't out looking to pick fights with every douchebag at a bar.

 

[MedicalMuse]

sharing info about people you know from lit with other litsters without checking if they’re cool with that.

being a conscientious person

 

[Photog1rl]

red: people who quote people's posts including pictures or picture links

green: people who edit out pics and links before reposting because they understand it's a great way to keep each other safe around here

Wow! I just learned something new! Thank you for saying something! If think I’ve done this before, I’m sorry and I’ll pay attention moving forward!

 

[cascadiabound]

red: people (that you have some connection/relationship with) who won't tell you that you are doing or saying something that makes them uncomfortable

green: people who trust you enough to tell you how to make them feel less weirded out


(example: being called an endearment that you just can't stand but not telling that person to please stop it. On the other hand... telling them why a certain endearment feels weird and having a cross cultural conversation about context is super cool and interesting)

 

[LadyLascivious1]

red: people (that you have some connection/relationship with) who won't tell you that you are doing or saying something that makes them uncomfortable

green: people who trust you enough to tell you how to make them feel less weirded out


(example: being called an endearment that you just can't stand but not telling that person to please stop it. On the other hand... telling them why a certain endearment feels weird and having a cross cultural conversation about context is super cool and interesting)

I love this. Being honest when it matters, especially when it’s bit awkward, is an important way to show up for anyone you genuinely care about.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

assuming

asking

 

[Cindy027]

iPhones incompatibility with certain emojis.

see

 

[FranklyFrank]

egotistical people

confident people

 

[Photog1rl]

unsolicited dick pics

consensual sharing knowing I was the inspiration

 

[Pad_Foot]

pissing off a Lit lady

pleasing a Lit lady

 

[Mei5ter]

Pissing off anyone
Pissing on anyone.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

people who assume they know how you feel

people who believe you when you explain how you feel