A conversation about SPH?

[barefootgirl69]

But but but - that's what YOU want. Your definition of "making people feel good." Right??

For sure, if it wasn't for you, then it's not for you. So you were right to stop and not do something you didn't enjoy.

But some folks, me included, get off on humiliation. And feeling "bad" makes me feel good.

Just a different perspective about what making people "feel good" means.

I agree, Cookie. Just because we don't enjoy it doesn't mean it's wrong. Albeit, some things ARE wrong, but we aren't allowedto talk about them here, anyway.

To the OP... don't feel like you're strange or weird. You aren't alone in this. You're on Lit, and this is probably going to be something you see a lot of... on the Fetish thread as was previously mentioned.
If it's something you enjoy, I hope you simply find the right person for you to enjoy your kink with.

 

[whenagain]

Thanks to Cookie and BFG for the kind words.

 

[cookiecat]

I'm too lazy to wander in to the sex/fetish forum. Did you get any input there??

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Thanks to Cookie and BFG for the kind words.

You're not weird, you're not unusual. It's very common.

In fact, this would fit neatly under the 'worthless worm' archetype that we've talked about before.

 

[whenagain]

I'm too lazy to wander in to the sex/fetish forum. Did you get any input there??

I did. Not much— and some of it was people saying “I could NEVER do that”— but some.
I think one thing I’m realizing in these discussions is that in this, like most kinks, there is a sliding scale of intensity, and the porn version is almost always the darkest, most intense manifestation.

 

[cookiecat]

I did. Not much— and some of it was people saying “I could NEVER do that”— but some.
I think one thing I’m realizing in these discussions is that in this, like most kinks, there is a sliding scale of intensity, and the porn version is almost always the darkest, most intense manifestation.

Porn version of anything is dark and eerie. I hate the dank, dark dungeons, the insane gymnastic positions some people are put in, cliche clothing. And yet... I can't look away!!

I do think porn is a good jumping point for discussion, if your partner is in to looking at it with you.

I will say if you find the right partner, and you want dark and intense, it can happen. Finding that person, though, is the hard part.

 

[whenagain]

Porn version of anything is dark and eerie. I hate the dank, dark dungeons, the insane gymnastic positions some people are put in, cliche clothing. And yet... I can't look away!!

I do think porn is a good jumping point for discussion, if your partner is in to looking at it with you.

I will say if you find the right partner, and you want dark and intense, it can happen. Finding that person, though, is the hard part.

It is. Also, knowing yourself enough to be an effective communicator.