A girl lost in Illinois...

[Soulfiregirl]

Nevermind, I'm and IDIOT. I need to READ all of my threads BEFORE I reply. I got this thread confused with my personal ad in the BDSM personals section because the titles are very similar. I'm not missing any posts. Am I a moron or what? LOL.


This thread is old anyway. Just ignore my stupidity. Sorry guys.

 

[Singularity]

Sift Carefully

The online sites like alt.com and bondage.com are as full of wannabes and strange souls as anyplace else, and perhaps more so. The anonymity they provide can fuel the deviance quotieint (and not in a good way).

You have to keep the bozo-filter set on high no matter where you go. But usually, you can tell within a few sentences of someone's reply whether they are someone you might actually want to converse with. Literacy is an amazingly good filter.


Sin.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

The online sites like alt.com and bondage.com are as full of wannabes and strange souls as anyplace else, and perhaps more so. The anonymity they provide can fuel the deviance quotieint (and not in a good way).

You have to keep the bozo-filter set on high no matter where you go. But usually, you can tell within a few sentences of someone's reply whether they are someone you might actually want to converse with. Literacy is an amazingly good filter.


Sin.

That is very true. I had an ad on alt, bondage and even adultfriendfinder.com for a bit but I deleted all of them because I don't think I was ready yet. I think I might try them again but "word" my ads differently this time. So far, no luck with my ad on Chicago Reader. Getting replies but everyone lives too far away. Ah well.

 

[lindiana]

here you go

That is very true. I had an ad on alt, bondage and even adultfriendfinder.com for a bit but I deleted all of them because I don't think I was ready yet. I think I might try them again but "word" my ads differently this time. So far, no luck with my ad on Chicago Reader. Getting replies but everyone lives too far away. Ah well.

I forgot about this page. This is good. It has meetings and groups broken down by State. Try it.

http://www.drkdesyre.com

 

[Singularity]

Finding Someone

I used to have a page on Alt, but it never really delivered anything substantial.

I did get to know a lovely woman from Germany there, who was the inspriation for the story "Revealing Secrets". Her self-description and her depiction of her fantasy became the story. We corresponded for a while and then she disappeared.

That's also where I discovered the woman who was behind Sherry in "Private Dancer" and "Painfil Lessons". That never progressed very far, either, beyond some initial shadow-dancing.

I think lightning can strike anyplace, but the odds of finding the right person is daunting, no matter where you look. So cast your net wide, but keep the bozo-filter set on "High".

The ratio of men to women, and of predators to sane people is not well balanced, overall. But that is true no matter where you go.


Sin.

 

[John Doe]

Well, I'm not quite sure where to start. This is my very first post on this board so bare with me since I'm a newbie here. I broke up with my exboyfriend several months ago. We broke up over various issues but one of the things I started to have a problem with was his sex drive didn't match mine. And I also realized that I wanted more in a sexual relationship than just "traditional" sex.

I've always been interested in the world of bondage but I have no idea how to really enter it. I posted a few ads on other alternative lifestyle websites but the only repsonses I got were from people who were into it heavy duty and very intense. I'm going to be very new to it so I ended up deleting the ads because I felt a bit overwhelemed. Like what am I getting myself into? I really don't know what to expect. (oh, and I'm also bi but I'll save that for another post in the future)

I'm not sure if I put this in the right forum but where does someone look for someone else who might want to explore this type of sexuality with them if you're a beginner? I'm feeling kind of depressed about it actually because I don't think I'll ever be happy dating a "normal" guy or gal. I need someone who's a bit "out there" like me but I'm not sure where to start. Anyway, sorry for the whine. I'm just kind of venting a bit. I have some bondage stories that I'm working on that I plan on submitting soon.

Maybe I'll post an ad for myself in the personals section on this board but I'm not sure what to put. Guess I'm looking for a little advice out there.

Thankyou in advance for any feedback. This is a very interesting message board and I think I'll stay.

You broke up with your ex-boyfriend? that's odd. What happened to make him your ex before you broke up with him?

 

[Soulfiregirl]

You broke up with your ex-boyfriend? that's odd. What happened to make him your ex before you broke up with him?

Ha, ha very funny. Mister smartypants. LOL. I meant, I broke up with my boyfriend at the time ya goober.