A great big Q

[Random Variable]

When men are distant, it usually means they are mulling something over in their minds. He may not be ready to talk about it. By contrast, I think women find out what they think by talkikng about it, often in circles (and this drives men nuts--and not in a good way).--In other words, do the opposite of your instincts: instead of trying to draw him out, give him some space for a while.

One way to start this conversation can be >not< to ask "what's on your mind, honey?" But "what do you think are the best things about our marriage?" Establish positive common ground first and put the problems in perspective.

One way to get to the problems but avoid defensiveness is to ask, "in five years, what do you see this marriage looking like? What would be your ideal marriage?" Hey, I'm going to try that tomorrow!

I'll bet with the 10 month old, the old man is going thru, "Now I see that life will never be the same...obligations...trust...wife's time and attention split." This will take a few months to get over.

R.V.

 

[Spenser41]

I definitely agree with this Spencer. I plan on taking a few to talk with him about it. It's also finding time. We have a 10 month old son, so we have to plan a little. Things are improving though We did have great communication skills, and we are fairly open with each other. He's just been distant lately. It will all work out in time. We do love each other, and I believe that if 2 people truly do love each other, they can overcome anything.

Bel

Bel
You guys are going through a lot of changes. When you add a baby in the mix, it can have an effect on you. For one, SLEEP! I have 3 kids and boy do I remember when they were that age. Another thing that might be bugging him, is, are there money problems? Babies cost lots of money and if you are not working now and you were before, then it all rests on his shoulders. It sounds like there are a lot of things going on, but the best thing that you can do is love one another, make time for one another(get the grandparents to watch the little one), and talk to one another.
It it will all work out and I am pulling for ya,
Spenser

 

[huskie]

Belilica....thats what every woman wants!!

I wish.

 

[AKA T-REX]

Check out Laura Corns works at any good book store. 101 Nights of Great Sex and others. 50 sealed envlopes of suggestions for Her and 50 for Him. The book was a huge hit at a couple of bachelorette partys.

 

[Guest]

Belllllllllllllll

 

[Belilica]

Hey guys (and Emerald),

Just wanted to say thanx for all the input. It was just somethign with work, and everything's alright now. We talked last night for a bit, and I found out much about him I didn;t know. It was really nice! You guys are great!!!!! Take care, and see ya later!

Bel

 

[Spenser41]

So glad you guys talked about it. That is wonderful. Gotta have that communication! It works.
All the best,
Spenser

 

[curious74]

Did you tell him what you have written to us?!?

 

[Belilica]

Did you tell him what you have written to us?!?

I'm completely open with him. I tell him everything. He's glad that I've found a place where I can vent my sexual energy. My sex drive is higher than his, and it helps to talk about things with others in the same situation. Sometimes he even reads over my shoulder as I type.

Bel

 

[alphacat]

huskie

Why do you say "I wish"? (if I may pry...) Having some sexual frustrations of your own?

 

[Guest]

please explain...

welll im 19 and i just had sex a couple weeks ago for the first time and since the first time i think iv had sex about 10 or 11 times and to me it just doesnt feel good and every time he puts it in it hurts ..i dont understand why this is can some one please explain and tell me what i need to do ...

 

[Belilica]

wondering girl...

Here is the link to the thread I started for you

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=77121

I also put in a little advice. I hope it helps!

Bel