A question for hotwife couples

[gtnlynn]

I assume you were both very flattered that men wanted to have sex with her - my wife loves it and is often tempted!

Yes, she liked to be desired, and I was proud to have someone who other men lusted for.

 

[luckyseven]

Yes, she liked to be desired, and I was proud to have someone who other men lusted for.

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

 

[gtnlynn]

I love seeing my wife sexually satisfied, and why should a sexual lady be limited to one man?

Lynn proved in college that she could have sex with other men without impacting our relationship. It was fun, and I enjoyed her stories.

 

[luckyseven]

It has never impacted in our marriage and for me it is arousing hearing her stories as well!

 

[cuckoldbill]

Thats a lovely sentiment fella... I can tell you are a pleasure giver, as am I

Add me to that list. I have done everything to put my wife’s pleasure and fun above all else.

 

[lc69hunter]

I hate the term Hotwife as it implies that a woman must be hyper sexual if she has occasional sex outside of her marriage. I think the opposite may be closer to the truth.

I believe that in many marriages the woman's libido declines more quickly than the mans, and perhaps disappears entirely with the arrival of menopause. I think some husbands encourage their wife to have occasional sex with other men as a catalyst to reinvigorate her overall interest in physical intimacy. It's like the sexual equivalent of jostling the logs of a fire that has nearly gone cold. And of course his expectation is that when her libido increases, her sexual interest in him will increase as well.

This would also explain why some husbands are fine giving their wife this latitude, even if she is unwilling to reciprocate. Put simply, she needs outside sex to restore her diminished libido whereas he may not.

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me. The next morning, over breakfast, she admitted what happened and why, and we determined that both of us should have a hall pass when out of town, away from friends, family and co-workers, as we decided that a random one-off 1000 miles from home, was no threat to a good marriage. She has actually helped me get laid, by talking with any woman I was with, over the phone, telling her what our dynamic was.

For any man in a long term marriage/relationship, sooner or later your wife will begin to feel less and less thrilled when you tell her she is "beautiful, adorable, kind, intelligent, and SEXY." The shine has worn off our compliments, and it isn't her fault. That is just the way it works. My wife felt the same way, that it was my 'job.' to encourage and compliment her. Then along comes a 'stranger,' who compliments her, flirts with her, and ends up fucking her. She feels re-energized, and as you said, her libido is increased, making it beneficial to not only her, but the husband, and any 'boy toy,' along the way. I say "Go for it." If your marriage is strong, it will survive.

 

[bjlatx]

My wife and I fantasized about it for years. I had fantasized about it since before we got married. I had been the side piece to her out of town boyfriend while we were in college. She wouldn’t break up with him though to date me. He was really hung! He and I were friends before he moved, so we would all hang out when he was in town. I’d have to watch her be his girlfriend in social situations and then know that she was about to go ride his huge dick all weekend. She ended up having yet another side piece and I ended it with her as I was insanely jealous about this new guy. I knew she loved me, but she really wanted to fuck this new guy. She eventually came back to me after a few months and we began dating and then got married. She was faithful to me for 25 years before she finally became a hotwife. I really really wish that we had just talked it out when we were you. I wish she had just said that she loves me and will always love me, but I need to fuck other men. I probably would have gone along with it as she has always been the love of my life. We both regret that we weren’t as mature back then. She could have really plowed through some dicks over the years. She’s very attractive and has no problem finding guys.

 

[Bayzapper10]

I agree with your basic premise about a wife at some point in her life feels she is no longer attractive and sexually desirable, even though her husband tells her so, because he is her husband and is supposed to say that. And then, quite often on the road, some guy will show her otherwise, and she will fuck him. She will bring that increased libido and sexual energy back to the marital bed and ride her hubby like a rented mule. It happened to me.

That was the exactly the preamble to our moving into the lifestyle. My wife “lost” feeling desirable during the “mom” years, no matter how many times I said it, or how many times men OPENLY were flirting with her, she maintained some cognitive dissonance that she was beautiful and sexy. When she was 47 we went to a party with a bunch of my friends, so she posted up in a quiet corner while I made the rounds. The 28 year old son of a friend of mine sat down and spent two hours trying to seduce her - and almost succeeded. It flipped some switch in her, broke through whatever barriers she had erected over the years telling herself that she wasn’t desirable. And her turbocharged libido that resulted from that two hour seduction hasn’t waned. I raise a silent toast to that guy all the time.

 

[readinggp]

In our situation its 100% about her, I have zero desire to be with another woman, its all about her having fun with other guys and I enjoy knowing she is getting fucked and I enjoy the stories, mess, and reclaiming her after. It’s incredibly hot for me.

 

[Justusnluv]

Like many other cuckold couples we shave many similarities. Me, myself seemed to be a natural born cuckold. Thinking back every girl I have ever been in a serious relationship either cheated in me or cuckold me. I never ended a relationship because she found herself in the arms of another man. My first wife cuckold me (although didn't even know the word existed back then) me after a party with my boss. As you can imagine he became a regular at my house. Every weekend he would spend the nights. After our relationship ended for other reasons. I met my current wife.
I quickly realized that this wonderful woman needed to experience pleasure. We both decided to be swingers. After a few not great encounters with other couples I suggested that we really don't need a couple. We need a man for her, as she was more than enough woman for me. Well, this arrangement worked so much better. My beautiful wife was truly being pleased and pleasured and I was able to reap the sexy rewards of her encounters. We as a couple have discovered a few important things about this lifestyle. communication is key. This is true for all relationships, but feel like it actually happens in cuckold relationships. Love. We quickly realized that love and sex are not inclusive. We do NOT confuse love with sex or sex with love. We have gone through many what I called Cuckold stages in pur relationship and are still in love.

 

[bjlatx]

In our situation its 100% about her, I have zero desire to be with another woman, its all about her having fun with other guys and I enjoy knowing she is getting fucked and I enjoy the stories, mess, and reclaiming her after. It’s incredibly hot for me.

This is exactly like us. I have no desire to be with another woman. It never really even comes up in my fantasies. I alway fantasize about her fucking other men.

 

[magicalmoments]

Not sure why I'm replying to his thread, I've never been in what I understand a hotwife relationship to be. However the question posed, about guys raising the issue with their wives a ameans to get them access to sex with other women rang true.

My wife and I were high school sweethearts, we lost our cherries to each other, married at age 20 and neither of us had had sex with any one else. about 5 years into the marriage I started wondering what I may he missed out on, sexually by only ever having the one sexual partner. I began to obsess over it. I didn't want to cheat and I developed the idea of convincing my wife to try partner swapping. My sole motivation was my desire to experience fucking other women. I never admitted that to her, I always took the line that it was to enhance our sexlives, provide extra stimulus for us. Long story short, after a couple of years discussing the idea we entered the lifestyle. I got my wish. We had the next 18 years living it. She discovered fairly quickly that couple swapping was not her thing, she preferred MFM 3'sums but she was happy for me to carry on seeing others so I could also have some fun. She preferred to have a permanent FWB on call as opposed to a string of different lovers, she only had 3 different guys over the 18 years, so not a true hotwife as such. But my point is, my motivation at the beginning was to use my wife as the means to fuck other women, it worked for me.