A Question of love

[His_pita]

My Dom and I fell in love on the internet and it has just gotten deeper and stronger now that we live together.

 

[chun_gong]

Shouldn't a Dom/me be concerned with the physical well-being of their sub? I mean, physically, love shouldn't change the "play" in terms of making it weaker. (for lack of a better word) I wonder if romantic love could actually further open a trusting, in-synch level of exploration and play...I can certainly see how it could easier for a sub to top when romantic love is involved. (To me, that is defeatist...)

You're absolutley right there and I respect your comments. I meant only in those situations where the sub is begging for "more" and her Dom just can't give it for some vague emotional reason. I'm sure it happens sometime, somewhere, just as I'm sure it isn't the norm. I'm just throwing out some food for thought here. I believe in the circumstances that I mentioned earlier that the sub knew how the Dom felt about her and began manipulating him.
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Thank you. I just kind of "blurted out" a question... I don't have years of experience, as do many here. So, often, I jabber in a manner to gather information from more experienced participants. Sorry if my question came across as a challenge, I too was thinking about food for thought - just in the form of a question. lol

RS, by all means, keep sharing. It's how I gain a broader perspective on life in general & I love it. You have brought up a great topic here and made me think quite a bit. Others have chipped in and helped me think more.

"I know what love is.. I just don't think I will ever have it for myself. I should just accept that."

OUCH! Please, don't tell yourself that and CERTAINLY don't believe it. Other than a million pleas of 'if you want it get it' and 'you deserve it', etc.... just please don't sell yourself short. Maybe you're just like me and it takes a billion shots to really find love? You know what they say, 'it always happens when you least expect it'. Whether it's your Master or someone down the road, you just never know.

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[Bandit58]

My Dom and I fell in love on the internet and it has just gotten deeper and stronger now that we live together.

*smiles* Yep, know that feeling well!

Even after nearly 2 1/2 years together, it just keeps getting better

 

[shy slave]

My Dom and I fell in love on the internet and it has just gotten deeper and stronger now that we live together.

We are not living together, but that is the long term plan.

We met on the 'net, but I think I fell in love with his voice on the 'phone before we met in real life.

When I saw how gorgeous he was I fell in love a little more,

We had only known each other on the net when my youngest son had a life crisis yet Andantes' voice calmed me and supported me. I thought that was the worst moment I would ever face and it was amazing to think a man I had never met was helping me see a difficult situation objectively, yet with sense and care, not condemnation.
I naively thought that was the worst point a parent could have, but in the September I really experienced a different level of hell.

His obvious and immediate support for me and my youngest son made my family fall in love with him. They have been very clear, if he and I split up it will be all my fault, not his.

Each time we speak or meet it makes my heart surge.

I only have to hear his voice say particular phrases and I just melt.

In a weird way I am ok about this being a long distance relationship with regular visits to each other (for now).
It does mean the pace is slow, but it also means we have had time to figure out if it was an initial surge of 'lust at first sight' or something more than than carnal attraction.

I never want to stop falling in love with him, I love how my heart squeezes in my chest when I hear his voice, see him of just before I touch him. It feels like no matter what I did or said it would not convey that constriction of emotion.

To me, he is a gorgeous, sexy man with a real soft spot for kittens

 

[LunarKitten]

I am not an inexperienced sub, but recently I have discovered that not only am I turned on and enjoy the ministrations of my Master, but I am completely in love with Master... *closes eyes, and hopes for the best of this thread, as I know the word or any variation of love. luvvve or whatever is usually not taken seriously... * But really, has anyone else experienced this?


Something that happened today has opened up a whole new level to our relationship, as after our session, he held me close and told me he loves me too... is this unusual, or is this a normal thing between Doms/subs? I know the trust level is and should be very high, so that both parties know exactly where they stand and so forth, but falling in love... hmm yeah, I think its happening for me... anyone else?

RS

I think this is wonderful. Congratulations for you both!

Not everyone is looking for love in their relationships, but I don't personally think that is reason to disregard those of us who do. I've had some wonderful "play only" relationships, but the dynamic of the play between CP and I is thousands of times better than any other I have ever played with before. Even though I had total trust in these other men, otherwise I would have never played with them, I actually go deeper in my subspace with CP - though this does vary between public and private play. Public play I can generally sit for a few minutes, cuddle and rehydrate, clean up the area and equipment, then I'm ready to mingle again...when we play at home, though, I'm doing good to be able to even move for a half hour, all I want to do is snuggle up to him and continue to float in his arms as long as he'll let me

 

[LunarKitten]

Although new here I am not new to the scene.
In the past I met a woman CEO whose company was good size.
She needed to "give the reins" to me as a submissive and by doing so she was fulfilled in her particular kink. The closest she came to emotion was when she would cry in gratitude. I don't think she was capable of saying "I love you" to me.
The second woman, in her fulfillment by me, told me "I love you" and more. At one point she considered leaving her family but that soon passed. Personally, I think it was lust than love.
The ONLY thing I know about love is that it lasts in endurance, intensity and duration.
I sometimes think that when women are fulfilled through their kink that the "I love you" is actually "thank you, thank you, thank you and thank you."
For me it is rare to find that one woman who wants fulfillment but not at the price of her career, family and marriage who also possesses intelligence and sensuality.
(If you are one? Contact me, please.)

Hmmm...not to cause problems and a sound nasty, but love doesn't mean giving up anything, imho. CP and I love each other very much, we both work, we're married to each other and have a family...plus, have a damn good relationship in and out of the rope bonds that literally tie.

 

[LunarKitten]

A mutual friend of ours has suggested that he believes this is all about him not being able to deal with "love" as if defining it has caused terrible consequences in his head... I don't know, at this point, my mind isn't comprehending much.

Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry *huggles*

To look on the bright side, at least he realizes what his "problem" is. CP had similar concerns about our play style and hurting someone he loves in the beginning, but was able to realise it for what it was and work through it - well, at least until we got pregnant, but that's a whole other set of issues, and it hasn't totally brought a halt to our play time.

Hopefully, he will be able to work through his issues with his feelings and yours and come back around.

But remember, there is a whole board here for you to sound off to when the feeling bubble up and try to burst out of you about this.