a suitable punishment

[LFO]

This is why I despise these threads. If they're legit, they strike me as pointless, and a bit weak, and if not legit, well, I have no interest in feeding HNG's.

I think, for me, it's not really about carrying around an arsenal of punishments but more about the curiosity of seeing what other people do.

 

[grayghst11]

Suitable punishment - my thoughts

Having read quite a few of the previous posts I must say I tend to use the writing and orgasm control/denial theme the most. Being made to look at what she has done and see her errors for herself prove salutary reminder to do better in the future. For harsher penalties, having to apply a lube that heightens her sensations and being made to mastubate with our 'cumming' is the thing she dislikes most.
Sometimes however if her crime is one of deliberate ommision or disobedience then I will terminate our online conversions leaving her isolated and pondering if she will be forgiven,

 

[Kathykitten]

ETA: I always kinda wonder why people [in general] are so keen to have some sort of "punishment arsenal" handy for when their submissives do something wrong...

I think an arsenal can be really nice and handy for new and inexperienced couples, or those just starting to get into things. Or even those where the sub is a frail sort who needs to be coached into things slowly without being scared off.

I started out my playing with an arsenal, and it really helped. I devised a list together with my first top which I couls asure was things I didn't want, but things I'd allow done to me. He knew I needed the safety of knowing what could happen, until I trusted him on a deeper level. And he knew he could trust me to be 100 % honest with the list that was spesific for me. It was a great tool for us, and ensured that no body got hurt in our inexperience.

I am not so deep into the bdsm genre yet as others here, just slowly moving my way in, and having safetylines and guidance in various ways is a nice way for me to help me feel secure and safe, until the trust grows. I am sure there are others here that aren't so deeply into bdsm yet that feel the same way?

 

[ataxia.girl]

Whenever i'm not being good Daddy just says "get the clothespins"... or once He made me wear a plug for 8 hours which hurt really bad because what i was being punished for was for trying to put my own fist in my ass for a man on cam so i was already sore.

i don't turn the cam on really anymore since that.

i don't think i have been punished once since we met in person.

 

[CutieMouse]

I think an arsenal can be really nice and handy for new and inexperienced couples, or those just starting to get into things. Or even those where the sub is a frail sort who needs to be coached into things slowly without being scared off.

I started out my playing with an arsenal, and it really helped. I devised a list together with my first top which I could assure was things I didn't want, but things I'd allow done to me. He knew I needed the safety of knowing what could happen, until I trusted him on a deeper level. And he knew he could trust me to be 100 % honest with the list that was spesific for me. It was a great tool for us, and ensured that no body got hurt in our inexperience.

I am not so deep into the bdsm genre yet as others here, just slowly moving my way in, and having safetylines and guidance in various ways is a nice way for me to help me feel secure and safe, until the trust grows. I am sure there are others here that aren't so deeply into bdsm yet that feel the same way?

What you're describing sounds more like a checklist than a library list of punishments. Maybe it's an issue of semantics, but I don't consider "XYZ makes me nervous, but I'd be willing to try it" to be on the same realm of punishment - unless your relationship is structured in such a way that you both want/need "misbehavior" in order to be "punished" - and I wasn't making my point from the perspective of play punishment.

 

[Kathykitten]

What you're describing sounds more like a checklist than a library list of punishments. Maybe it's an issue of semantics, but I don't consider "XYZ makes me nervous, but I'd be willing to try it" to be on the same realm of punishment - unless your relationship is structured in such a way that you both want/need "misbehavior" in order to be "punished" - and I wasn't making my point from the perspective of play punishment.

hehe it's not things I want to try, trust me... But it's things I've said "ok" to (some also suggested by him), but really want to avoid you know?

Not every sub wants wrenching pain and utter humiliation at the debts of their souls, I'm a soft type... And a lot of those things aren't soft or naughty on any level.

This way I feel safe, and secure, and know what could come my way still. Pluss the guy I was with at the time didn't have a lot of experience, and he wanted it to so that he knew it was areas that he could find information on, and use so that he didn't end up hurting me permanently, or messing me up emotionally / mentally.

If I had at that time had a top like I got now, i would trust him in a different way. My current top is highly experienced and knows how to go so very slow and gently with me. She knows how much I badly want to suceed and please, and that if I fail the worst thing on me is actually knowing that I fail. So I trust her completely.

I just highly recommend these safetynets for people knew to the whole thing, so that you don't get burned or bruises in ways that will take ages to get past.

 

[mrtbear1956]

Hi

get a fly swater or some thing like it and take her to a motal and spend the night and beat her bare ass with it ,
my ex loved it and tie her to the bed and use her like a whore slut , and tell her that what she is your slave to be used as you see fit . you both may enjoy it .

 

[MasterSeth]

When I have to punish my girl I look at it in a couple of ways:

1) Did she just do something to test me? As a dom I'm very paternal. If she's acting childish sometimes I just ignore her, it's a punishment in itself.

2) What are her limits? When my sub behaves in a way that requires my attention I tend to push something that I've already done. If I've choked her with my dick for 10 seconds before, I'll do it for 15. If she can take 10 good spanks without any trouble, I'll do twenty and make her count them out. I often chastise her about her behavior in the process.

3) What haven't I done yet? I save some things for particularly bad behavior. Pussy slapping, anal toys, face slapping and such. I don't do these as much as I do other things. I think it's important to have a kind of mental category so that she she knows when she's crossed a line with me and the punishment will be more severe.

Hope that helps.

 

[bytor2112]

brick to the head..that will teach the dumb bitch.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

why have a punishment?

because its turns her on. and me as well. and asking what would be a good one isnt part of the game so to say. asking if its ok if i do something takes away the fun. if your lover asked you if it was ok everytime they wanted to touch you it would get real annoying. same with this. you dont ask you just do

again wasn't gonna chime in..but punishment (in my experience anyway) is not meant to be a "turn on" when MP would punish me it was because i had done something that displeased Him, and the punishment that followed was everything but arousing to me. it made me hurt, it made me angry at myself and it made me sorry for whatever i had done to displease this man i promised all control of me to.

as far as the leaving me tied up to the bed, or withdrawing contact ...that would kill me emotionally. i have a HUGE fear of abandonment and honestly if he were to with hold his attention from me, it would make me lose trust in Him. but everyone has different limits. the punishments are up to you and how you want to handle them. i think everyone is different. and i'm with the why do you need a list band wagon as well. MP always just did what he felt was right at the time. whether it be a writing assignment or a few swats with the crop *ack* or a few times even just making me wait until he got home from work before he decided what he was going to do, only to find out when he got home he wasn't going to punish me at all because he felt i had punished myself enough wondering and worrying and feeling terrible for displeasing him.

 

[ataxia.girl]

i think is possible for a punishment to make u feel funny "down there" and still make u not want to be a bad girl again. Any punishment no matter how much it makes me wet between my legs still makes me behave after but i am difficult like that. i do not feel like i deserve to feel nice between my legs and will do everything in my power to prevent it even if it means not pleasing Him.

i don't understand it. i wish was not like that.

 

[KellysCrack]

I just went through an ordeal of orgasm denial...I have to be honest I would rather you pull my toenails out...

Once it got time for the fun I couldnt come to save my life...NOT FUN! I would write a bazillion lines.