Aftercare

[satindesire]

The amount of intensity in the pain area directly affects the amount of aftercare I need.

My equation is:

fucked up> = aftercare>

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i've debated on chiming in here, but after much thought, i'm going to.

when MP and i were done with a scene and i was really really deep in subspace (which i normally always was) what i needed was Him beside me, running His fingers through my hair, whispering in my ear how proud of me He was, and to "come back to Him" this was the only thing that would bring me out of subspace "safely". there were a few times that even with Him doing that, that i came out wrong and it was something we had to deal with. if He had left me alone right after a scene it's really hard telling how that would have made me feel.

usually when He had worked me over hard with the flogger or whatever, He'd immediately lay down beside me and i'd just curl up close to Him. in those moments, i could not seem to get close enough. *sighs*......

i definantly don't think that makes Him a "softy" to me, it meant he knew me well enough and cared about me enough to make sure i was alright. i know this "method" is not right for everyone, but it's what worked for us.....there is no right or wrong way, and this is an interesting topic.....

 

[Puman]

Also just stumbled onto this thread...

Psychological and power plays very rarely happen with my s.o. and I, so aftercare pertains mainly to first aid, and bit circulatory massage and/or a shower. What we do find though, is that after we've played or even just after sex, we generally have our best conversations.

 

[ataxia.girl]

If my babypussy is very swollen and sore so its hurts to stand up after then Daddy lets me sit in the tub for a little bit. When i come back He puts my collar back on and loops my leash around His arm and we go to sleep or He tells me to suck on His thing for awhile and then we go to sleep.

 

[HarlotMinx]

Like Homburg said, 24/7 M/s puts a slightly different perspective on things. If we have a whole day or evening together and a scene has been long and drawn out, I might appreciate some cuddling and a wind down but whether I get it or not depends largely on Master's mood. He's not inconsiderate but he doesn't coddle me either.

Agreed. In most cases I'm resistant to aftercare, all that petting and cuddling takes away from the pain I could be feeling at that moment! How dare they! And something to make the bruises go away?!

Eh, in all seriousness though, it really does throw me out of the mindset I like to be by the end of the scene. I do enjoy a bit of pre care though, some pre play petting and playing but that has to do more with me being a whore for her attention than anything else. That's not to say she doesn't do aftercare, she does it whenever she damn well pleases and often does after a really intense scene but more for her then me.

What I often need after a scene is a hand to help me to my feet and maybe someone to hobble against.

- poppet

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

If something has been particularly intense, and I'm buzzing pretty highly, afterwards I don't want to be left alone.

I don't really want cuddles or anything else, just to be wrapped up cos I get cold, and to feel his presence somewhere close.

When I have the energy to get up again, I make us food. Usually pasta or something similiar. I tend to crave the moreish carbs at that stage.

And then I'll cuddle up on the couch, wrapped in my blankie, cuddling my teddy and zoning in and out as my brain floats around while I try and pay attention to what's going on around me.

Once I'm fairly coherent, wew'll talk about what happened. I'll say thank you, I'll ask if he's happy, then the day will continue.