Age Differences

[snowy ciara]

*sobs* Unfortunately they want 70 dollars to turn on my phone (first months, and an activation fee). I'm at the libarary right now, not sure when I'll get a chance to come here again. Hopefully I'll come up with the money by the end of the week.

I understand how that goes. I don't have to pay for mine, thank goodness for the generosity of friends! But we do miss you when you're gone.

 

[graceanne]

I understand how that goes. I don't have to pay for mine, thank goodness for the generosity of friends! But we do miss you when you're gone.

I miss me when I'm gone.

But I miss you all, too. *sigh*

But I gotta go, now. I can only use the computer for an hour at a time, and I've got three minutes left. *sob*

*hugs and cookies for everyone*

 

[serijules]

Speaking as someone who was in that situation, I can say that it really depends a LOT on the older person. I was - ahem, young - when my wife and I started our relationship, and I was 19 when my Daddy and I got together. If the older person is sufficiently mature and is willing to be responsible with regard to the younger person's welfare, then I think it can work out. I'm living proof of that, I guess. However, it is also very easy for an older partner to inappropriately take advantage of a younger one, and it is incumbent on the younger partner to be careful whom they get close to. I have a few more thoughts, but my TV show is on, so those will have to wait...

I think there are always exceptions, but in general I'm not comfortable with "teenagers" and to me, anyone under 20 is still a teenager, heh. I've always been a bit biased about that, even when I WAS one. There are a few exceptions to that too....just an "in general" bias I have :/

 

[snowy ciara]

In theory, I have no problems dating close to my age, older or younger. However, I'm 21. Most of the guys between legality and 21 are still at that silly, adoloescent horndog phase that's not very attractive to me. The ladies my age seem to be a little more down to earth, but still, there's a lot of that plasticky "mean girls" crapola going on. I've just had better luck, better times with peeps who are somewhat older than me.

 

[Dread_Pirate_Roberts]

My SO and I are 13 years apart. Doesn't seem to matter. The older you are, the less of a gap there seems to be. I guess it will be apparent once one of us hits 65, and retires while the other can still be working for another 13 years but hopefully by then, we can both stop working and travel etc. As for maturity, we are both silly and goofy; however, I think a person can be that at any age.
Dread

 

[snowy ciara]

Silly and goofy I can handle; I'm like that way a lot. It's the whole cock-driven madness of their existence (we're talking about the guys here) that gets to me.

 

[Kailey_86]

My SO and I are 13 years apart. Doesn't seem to matter. The older you are, the less of a gap there seems to be. I guess it will be apparent once one of us hits 65, and retires while the other can still be working for another 13 years but hopefully by then, we can both stop working and travel etc. As for maturity, we are both silly and goofy; however, I think a person can be that at any age.
Dread

Sir and i are 13 years apart too. This thread makes me feel a little better about this. i thought it was a big no no to be with someone that much older but apparently not. i agree that it definately depends on the person though. Him and i are doing well so far though. Thumbs up. Thanks for all of your comments. Keep them coming.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Silly and goofy I can handle; I'm like that way a lot. It's the whole cock-driven madness of their existence (we're talking about the guys here) that gets to me.

Well dollface, there are lots of 40+ men like that, too. And by the same token, there are lots of women who do the "I'm a 38DD with long blonde hair, not that that should matter..." thing.

Bottom line... there are lots of insecure people in the world, no matter what the age.

 

[Aeroil]

I don't feel age matters in general, but I do think it depends on the people.

A friend of mine right now is 24ish and her slave/boyfriend is at least 55 I think, or even a bit older, I can't recall. They fit together fabulously.

I don't think I would as easily be attracted to someone that was younger than myself, but I wouldn't rule it out by any means. Just from past experience, I'm usually friends with or involved with people much older than I am, and I am secure with that.

I DO have issues when the younger person is under 21 though. I don't really feel that a true understanding and experience of what it is to be an adult comes until you are at least into your 20's. (I don't have any interest in arguing this point, I'm just sharing my opinion as it relates to this post). So 17-19ish year olds being with people 2-3 times their age really isn't something I am comfortable with.

My Domme is...hmmm...7 or 8 years older than me? Not sure, I always forget her age, heh.

*frowns*

*Pokes seri in the stomach*

 

[SpectreT]

Unattached, but here's my philosophy, as far as this goes for me personally.

I'm a 36 year old boy. That's a decent age to be. I'm a bit more settled and "together" than I was ten years ago, which means I'm just an immature mess instead of a complete train wreck.

I've discovered that I relate well to those older than me in many regards, but am still "relevant" and "cool" (well, to the "geek chic" crowd, anyway.. ) to twentyish peoples.

Thirties are a good age to be; it lets you relate to a wider range of experiences without being either jaded or too wide-eyed and full of wonder. (not making statements about any individual people; these are broad generalities.)

The downside is, being a thirtysomething single white male in the modern age of internet dating and such, makes it hard to not get auto-profiled as a serial killer or some other dangerous/emotionally poisonous not quite human critter. Which just proves there's nothing like face-to-face interaction. Ten thousand words on a screen can't equal ten minutes of "face time", in terms of reading people. (Then again "face time" hasn't helped me much, either. Maybe I'm just screwed. I mean, not screwed, er, that is... ah, hell, you get the idea... )

In a nutshell, it boils down to compatibility, whether that's complementary or commonality of experience and attitude, and such doesn't recognize age, though experience can play a factor. Peronally, the twenty-somethings to the fifty-somethings are where I tend to find my best, most comfortable personal interactions, so I believe that's where my relationship range falls.

(and to those who I'm sure are going to give me grief for it, the self-deprecating and/or whining and bitching portions of this post were intended as pure comedy.)

 

[Etoile]

Oh, an amusing tidbit. When Daddy and I first started seeing each other, my wife and I were temporarily separated. Daddy wouldn't consider me moving in with em, because e was sure the relationship wouldn't last - because of the age difference! Well, we're still together six and a half years later...so much for eir theory.

 

[serijules]

*frowns*

*Pokes seri in the stomach*

*pats aeroil on the head* You know I love ya, I just wouldn't want to watch anyone do kinky things to you, especially with that cute mug of yours.

 

[Aeroil]

*pats aeroil on the head* You know I love ya, I just wouldn't want to watch anyone do kinky things to you, especially with that cute mug of yours.

That's what blindfolds are for ^_^

More seriously, I am not opposed to my first relationship being not-kinky, or even my first few.
Just to get scope on why non-kinky people are 'teh suck' - as we say in the computer field.

 

[Aeroil]

I've discovered that I relate well to those older than me in many regards, but am still "relevant" and "cool" (well, to the "geek chic" crowd, anyway.. ) to twentyish peoples.

SpectreT is the coolest.

 

[SweetCherry]

SpectreT is the coolest.

*nods* I second that.