Am I Taboo?

[Stella_Omega]

Thank you Stella, I will

You will share? I'm gonna hold you to that!

 

[goodsonformom]

I feel I need to weigh in.........


We have chatted and PM'd over this from day one... you and I.......I have always felt your pain..........yet incapable of comprehending what must go through your mind........I understood the real meaning of "bound"......and yet I know you to be an incredibly passionate......and intelligent woman.......who truly appears to have no bounds.......

Yes, I assume it is frustrating to search out your situation as you defined your search, .....and recognize that it is only characterized as taboo in relation to sex......

You know my feelings about this and you in particular. You know I care about you.... your condition means nothing in "our" relationship......I don't know why many look at disabilities with such fear and lack of comfort....and not see we are all sexual creatures.......we all need intimacy........that sex resonates in the mind......your words have always raised the level of lustful and passionate conversation.....you know if I lived near you I would be a companion who would hunger to share intimacy..........*hugs*

 

[hentaifan]

idk

If im the only guy posting but I for one don't think you or any other person with a disability are taboo. I apologize in advanced for any typos or errors as I am using my phone. What is taboo is how people see everything in the world now. No offense to anyone on here but skinny women arent the hottest in the world anymore. Its true that beauty is know the eye of the beholder, at least in my brown eyes. Whats taboo is how people see others with disabilities. Like they judge by how a person looks, what he or she can't Do. But do they honestly know that? Just by sight? They have mouths but they don't speak. They assume. That makes them assholes. This post has honestly touched my heart. I hope I was as sincere as possible with my opinion. I may not be the smartess guy in the world but I know everyone has a chance. Again, if I offended im sorry.
*beauty is in the eye of the beholder. *

 

[infinity706]

I wish I knew the answer to that one. Like the BBW posts. Here on LitE you can get a ton of men who say that they LOVE big women - where DO they all hide in real life? I wish that we, who know you and love you lived close enough to be able to make that difference in your life. I remember once being treated to a Christmas present of a professional spa massage and I remember how wonderful it felt - talking to the masseuse about how, as adults, outside of sexual relationships, NONE of us ever has enough loving, nurturing touch in our lives... And unfortunately, that is not an answer and does not help YOU and your personal situation. I have no answers - all I can say is that I love you..........

There are plenty of guys that love big women. If you could hear a lot of the guy conversations, you'd know that. There's even been multiple instances of the phrase "big women" used in a very lustful context. It's more admiring guys being scared to make it well known. A big part of the problem seems to be the ultra psycho fringe of the big women category on top of the whole media depiction thing. There's a small percentage out there that are really hateful and vintictive and like to belittle admirers. Of course, there's haters in every group of society, but when you're talking small, minority groups, each member gets more weight.

That doesn't mean you can't get just as much attention as any other woman. Afterall, the vast majority of men (and women that like women) either don't really care what size someone is or even likes big women in particular. You just might have to be a little more aggressive with the flirting and wear something a little provocative. Regardless of orientation, sex, or anything else, though, being confident and flirty is a recipe for raising your sex appeal.

Now, as for the disability thing, that's a huge spectrum. I'm not surprised there's not a lot of broken bone fetish stuff, though. People don't tend to actively go out and break anything and the condition only lasts a month and a half or so. There, also, isn't much of a connection between sex and broken bones.

As for disabilities in general, though, some things like wheelchairs and amputees do get some fetish time. A lot of other disabilities are pretty invisible and difficult to depict, though. A lot of mental disabilities, also, either tend to make someone actively uninterested in sex or legally incapable of consent.

 

[infinity706]

This post makes me want to cry..
One of the very first, and really only female on all of lit to embrace me and make me feel at home. You truly are one of the kindest people I have met.

Like Peaches, I come with no answers...

The world is fucked up and sometimes things get all bent out of shape, topsy turvy, upside down. There is no way to explain it, no way to comfort you on something we don't understand either.

All I can tell you, all that I know for sure.. Is that if I was there with you now.. I'd snuggle up right next to you... holding you close, (u'd prolly even have to fight off a few of my advances, and let me know as gentle as possible you don't swing that way ) wanting more then anything to show you just how truly beautiful you are.

Another thing I can tell you, for what it's worth being a female prospective , albeit a bi females perspective... For me.. it's usually alot less to do with looks, and much more to do with personality/ attitude. I am attracted to so many different types; big, small, male, female, white, black, yellow, able bodied or not, blondes, reds, brunettes... lol I'm an equal opportunity lover. just is truly about the personality.

Even with personalities, there is such a wide range... that will draw me in...

I wish i had answers but I don't
I will also share some experiences of mine... there have been times in the past when I've been talking with a person in a wheelchair.. in fact this one guy in particular that I thought was soooo freakin hot... he was the funniest man I had met in a long time.

So while I thought about him in ways he'd never find out.. I never did let on. I was intimidated ya know. I know it's a chicken shit excuse, but when you have never been in a wheelchair , when you have never been paralyzed, you don't understand it. You have so many questions about things sexual, yet i found myself way to shy and intimated to ask. I read the other thread about being disabled, and a guy there said that the foremost question asked is
'you can still have sex right'

Well there is a reason this is the foremost asked question.. if ya have never been there, you really just don't know. And i for one, don't want to offend the person, or look stupid myself. I believe if there are barriers it probably all starts with this.

I found myself hoping that the man in the other thread would share the answer to that question in more detail. So maybe I'd finally have those answers. What things are possible and what are not... I 'm guessing it might be different for different people and what disability they have.

Maybe we should all be braver, more confident in asking such questions??? however I wouldn't go up to an able bodied person and start spouting of sexy questions the first (second, third, fourth) time I met 'em...

I probably haven't helped at all, in fact I ended up rambling. I just don't want to see you in anyway sad Bound, you are a wonderful lady.

Having sex with someone in a wheelchair is actually a really hard question to answer since there's so many variables. Even if you narrow it down to being paralyzed, you still have to consider exactly how paralyzed. That could range from a specific body part, being unable to walk, or even ranging all the way up to being unable to move anything below your chin.

It also varies, based on your definition of "sex." Even if you're talking penis in vagina, you could do that. They have injectable drugs, implants, and vaccuum pumps or in the case of a woman, a vagina still does its thing regardless. There are also "hot spots" of feeling in paralyzed areas. You'd just have to go about exploring the person's body to find them, though. There's also the bonus that when you lose some type of functioning, the brain overcompensates in other areas. Not only can a paralyzed person use whatever parts aren't paralyzed for sex, but since the body has less feeling to process, the person might be more sensitive in the areas they can feel. Who knows, they might even be able to orgasm from nipple stimuation or something. Just like anyone else, there's really no generalized answer and that's not even accounting for the intimacy and closeness aspects. What I can say, though, is if you like someone, go for it. Even if someone has a disability, having sex with them will probably be less complicated than a lot of other major relationship issues.

 

[Boundlife]

I don't know why many look at disabilities with such fear and lack of comfort....and not see we are all sexual creatures.......we all need intimacy........that sex resonates in the mind

Yes, I AM a sexual creature, not Still a sexual creature...

 

[goodsonformom]

Yes, I AM a sexual creature, not Still a sexual creature...

 

[Boundlife]

Whats taboo is how people see others with disabilities. Like they judge by how a person looks, what he or she can't Do. But do they honestly know that? Just by sight? They have mouths but they don't speak. They assume. That makes them assholes.

Thankyou
There have been times I have talked to people and they can't let go of their assumptions, as if they know they can't believe me because I could be mentally unstable

 

[Prince Albert]

Thankyou
There have been times I have talked to people and they can't let go of their assumptions, as if they know they can't believe me because I could be mentally unstable

No thank you Bound, for having the courage to speak up.

 

[Boundlife]

It also varies, based on your definition of "sex." Even if you're talking penis in vagina, you could do that. They have injectable drugs, implants, and vaccuum pumps or in the case of a woman, a vagina still does its thing regardless. Just like anyone else, there's really no generalized answer and that's not even accounting for the intimacy and closeness aspects. What I can say, though, is if you like someone, go for it. Even if someone has a disability, having sex with them will probably be less complicated than a lot of other major relationship issues.

Being a woman it isn't much of a concern...I have feeling, in some areas diminished or moved...I'm More flexable than average...I just need to be moved....any partner would need to "do all the work", but I would be very encouraging....

 

[Stella_Omega]

Being a woman it isn't much of a concern...I have feeling, in some areas diminished or moved...I'm More flexable than average...I just need to be moved....any partner would need to "do all the work", but I would be very encouraging....

For the right person that could be soooo insanely kinky and hot! It's like your body has provided its own bondage system.

OMG I could write the fuck out of that. And the idea of say, fisting a woman who could not move away.... Not that she would want to, because I don't do it for pain... although spanking a paralysed partner, as well, if she could feel it...

*fans self*

 

[goodsonformom]

Being a woman it isn't much of a concern...I have feeling, in some areas diminished or moved...I'm More flexable than average...I just need to be moved....any partner would need to "do all the work", but I would be very encouraging....

As a guy who likes to be in control of things........you being "flexible" and "very encouraging".......and me doing all of the work.........well..........very HOT!

 

[Stella_Omega]

As a guy who likes to be in control of things........you being "flexible" and "very encouraging".......and me doing all of the work.........well..........very HOT!

Jinx!

Boundlife, have you looked at fetlife.com? it's like a facebook for pervs. You can find groups to talk to, and just maybe men in your area who can handle all of the woman you are.

 

[goodsonformom]

Jinx!

Boundlife, have you looked at fetlife.com? it's like a facebook for pervs. You can find groups to talk to, and just maybe men in your area who can handle all of the woman you are.

lol..............

 

[Boundlife]

For the right person that could be soooo insanely kinky and hot! It's like your body has provided its own bondage system.
*fans self*

As a guy who likes to be in control of things........you being "flexible" and "very encouraging".......and me doing all of the work.........well..........very HOT!

LMAO (while feeling rather warm myself)

This is the sort of reaction I think my condition should get

 

[goodsonformom]

LMAO (while feeling rather warm myself)

This is the sort of reaction I think my condition should get

This is the sort of reaction you deserve........

 

[Stella_Omega]

This is the sort of reaction you deserve........

How far away from canada are you?

 

[photobuff56]

hi

Maybe its just me and my kinky ways but have found my self looking at handicapped people differently. Not in a bad way but sexual. My mom used to be im a care facility and when visited her I used to see some women im wheel chairs and wonder if they ever wanted to be stimulated sexual and thought oh crap I can see the headlines in the newspaper MAN FONDLES HANDICAPPED WOMEN, and off to jail. So yes its kind of taboo but shouldn't be if someones willing ( Key Word).

 

[goodsonformom]

How far away from canada are you?

It's our nearest neighbor last time I checked.........

 

[infinity706]

Being a woman it isn't much of a concern...I have feeling, in some areas diminished or moved...I'm More flexable than average...I just need to be moved....any partner would need to "do all the work", but I would be very encouraging....

Yeah, I know it's not so much of a concern for you personally, but I try and be inclusive of all genders and orientations since probably 99% of the readers are too shy to post their own questions or anything else for that matter. A ton of people will probably read this thread, especially since we have very little in the way of threads on sex with disabilities. Hopefully, there will even be a significant number that will reconsider that man or woman they relegated to the platonic friend zone.

 

[TexasWife25]

And of course, wherever bound posts ultimately ends up with the lit men discussing how they can get into her pants

 

[Boundlife]

Yeah, I know it's not so much of a concern for you personally, but I try and be inclusive of all genders and orientations since probably 99% of the readers are too shy to post their own questions or anything else for that matter. A ton of people will probably read this thread, especially since we have very little in the way of threads on sex with disabilities. Hopefully, there will even be a significant number that will reconsider that man or woman they relegated to the platonic friend zone.

Or seeing them like a mannequin...sexually inacurate
(your post gave me a reason to give an example of how being disabled might make you an interesting partner)

 

[Boundlife]

And of course, wherever bound posts ultimately ends up with the lit men discussing how they can get into her pants

LOL...and I usually don't wear any

 

[hentaifan]

your

Thankyou
There have been times I have talked to people and they can't let go of their assumptions, as if they know they can't believe me because I could be mentally unstable

Quite welcome. I tried to tell it like it is you know. People who assume and assume wrong are complete idiots. Hoe does that saying go? Don't judge a book by its cover. That's exactly right. People honestly should speak with their minds nit with their eyes. I appreciate you replying back.

 

[goodsonformom]

LOL...and I usually don't wear any

Perfect...........