An Open Letter To _____

[Luna_Wolf72]

I completely hear you.
I'm just sad that right now I can't do any of the advocacy work that I usually do. I just don't feel strong there or safe.

Hey look! Another thing that has been taken from me!
Rape. The gift that keeps giving.

I'll show myself out.

*wanders through to say*

I understand in ways I can't even explain.

 

[Faux_Pas]

Dear self:

you will never be "pretty".
It's another of the words that upset you and you couldn't figure out why.

The girls you used to know who were "pretty" were terrible people. Horrendous cunts and absolute bitches. They knew they could get away with what they did. "Pretty" to those who looked at their physical side, but didn't pay attention to the vileness inside.

"Pretty" equates ugly to you.
Horrible people who everyone forgives their horredousness because they're attractive.
"Pretty" face with an ugly soul.

"Ugly" people don't get that. You need to earn your attention from others. You need something more than "pretty". You analyze every fault you have when someone calls you pretty, to avoid being "pretty".

You will never, ever, be "pretty".

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

To women, minorities, citizens of virtually every other country in the world, children, the elderly, and much of nature:

I'm sorry.

Signed,
A white American male

 

[marauder13]

To women, minorities, citizens of virtually every other country in the world, children, the elderly, and much of nature:

I'm sorry.

Signed,
A white American male

Scuttle,

The word "American" was an unnecessary addition. Just "A white male" is enough, since that category exists outside the USA as well.

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

Scuttle,

The word "American" was an unnecessary addition. Just "A white male" is enough, since that category exists outside the USA as well.

While true enough, I was also including all the blindingly stupid shit we, as a mostly white Christian male-led country have done to fuck shit up in the rest of the world.

But yeah, I don't doubt that a bit.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

To women, minorities, citizens of virtually every other country in the world, children, the elderly, and much of nature:

I'm sorry.

Signed,
A white American male

Scuttle,

The word "American" was an unnecessary addition. Just "A white male" is enough, since that category exists outside the USA as well.

*cuddles two of my favorite guys*

You are the types that would NEVER have to apologize. Real men with Real hearts who do not go out of their way to make any one feel less than.

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

*cuddles two of my favorite guys*

You are the types that would NEVER have to apologize. Real men with Real hearts who do not go out of their way to make any one feel less than.

Actually, I would amend this, and I think I feel safe enough in saying that it would apply for M13 too, that we wouldn't go out of our way to make it necessary to apologize, but if it were to be necessary then we would. I know I'm not perfect, and I know it's stupidly easy to fall into a bullshit patriarchal way of thinking without even intending to, but I think if you're aware of that fact and try to be aware of what you're saying/doing/thinking, then you can catch things before they go too far or, hopefully, before they come spilling out of your mouth.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Actually, I would amend this, and I think I feel safe enough in saying that it would apply for M13 too, that we wouldn't go out of our way to make it necessary to apologize, but if it were to be necessary then we would. I know I'm not perfect, and I know it's stupidly easy to fall into a bullshit patriarchal way of thinking without even intending to, but I think if you're aware of that fact and try to be aware of what you're saying/doing/thinking, then you can catch things before they go too far or, hopefully, before they come spilling out of your mouth.

I will allow your amendment to stand.

 

[marauder13]

Actually, I would amend this, and I think I feel safe enough in saying that it would apply for M13 too, that we wouldn't go out of our way to make it necessary to apologize, but if it were to be necessary then we would. I know I'm not perfect, and I know it's stupidly easy to fall into a bullshit patriarchal way of thinking without even intending to, but I think if you're aware of that fact and try to be aware of what you're saying/doing/thinking, then you can catch things before they go too far or, hopefully, before they come spilling out of your mouth.

Yep, what he said.

 

[Light Ice]

To women, minorities, citizens of virtually every other country in the world, children, the elderly, and much of nature:

I'm sorry.

Signed,
A white American male

Predictably, I don't echo this sentiment.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Dear Universe~

STOP. I wanna get off.

Signed?

That bitch...the one sick of the fuckin' merry go round.

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

Thats exactly what it is. I still make mistakes myself. You don't just turn off a lifetime of cultural indoctrination. But you try, and you learn, and you become more aware. And you listen when you get called out about something.
I screwed up a couple weeks ago when I said "Where all my bitches be at", which while not intentionally racist, was, in fact, rather racist. Luna called me on it (kinda unintentionally) and I apologized and corrected, because she was right.

My biggest thing, at the moment, is getting rid of phrases like "you must be crazy". I know more than a few people with varying degrees of mental health issues (including yours truly) and, much like calling someone a 'retard', I've found it really isn't an appropriate phrase to use, and can be demeaning to some people.

We try and we learn.
Don't feel guilt.
Fix the behavior.

Yup, absolutely. Not a thing here I disagree with.

 

[Daddi_DJ]

To my Heart,
Shame on you! You need to stop talking and just listen. If you are going to continue to be a problem then we need to part ways! I have come to the conclusion that you are no longer needed or wanted. You are still here by default but you are pushing me to the point of your removal! From here on out I am not going to listen to you. Hell, I probably won't even acknowledge you. You do not have good judgement. You just leap into things and then I have to deal with your crying and whining when it turns out like my brain told you it would. Well, I am done with that. From here on out you go to your corner and be silent! I am going with my new best friend...my brain. She makes more sense than you. So, take it or leave it. Either way I will be just fine!

DJ

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

A letter to the Real World and the people therein

*snippage*

Fuck you VERY much....

Me.

Dear woman who taught me in an IM

You are fucking brilliant and smart and sweet and awesome. You make me think, made me try to find words I didn't have to explain concepts that are damned near impossible to explain.

You push and prod and seek and you are a glorious, glorious person and I thank you for it.

Thank You...

Dear Twin

You are all that is right when it comes to friendships and truthfulness. You are fierce and fearless and I would have you NO other way.

Thank You.

Dear woman~

I still don't want the damned book....and if you worry about the words...maybe yes, maybe no...but KNOW that they were/are mostly true. And though I don't care...if anyone can make me want to care...tis you.

Always you.

 

[marauder13]

To the people I work with and work for,
Thank you.
Thank you for being amazing, even after I fuck up.
For that matter, thank you for letting me fuck up, and understanding that, even when i do, its not because I don't take my job seriously.
Thank you for meetings where we spend most of our time laughing.
Thank you for being smart, and understanding when I don't get it.
Thank you for stopping me from quitting.
Thank you for...fuck...thank you for being one of the best parts of my life.

I'm not kidding.

Thank you.

-V

Who are these people?

And, are they hiring?

 

[Ahren]

My biggest thing, at the moment, is getting rid of phrases like "you must be crazy". I know more than a few people with varying degrees of mental health issues (including yours truly) and, much like calling someone a 'retard', I've found it really isn't an appropriate phrase to use, and can be demeaning to some people.

"Crazy" is so far removed from referencing actual mental health issues in language now that it really shouldn't be a problem. "Retarded" is still specific enough to be sensitive about. There are words we should definitely be mindful about, like not saying you're raping the competition if you're winning in a game or something trivial. Crazy probably isn't something you should be exerting effort to remove from your vocabulary.

I mean, if you really want to then fine, but that seems like stretching to unnecessary lengths to be politically correct.

 

[Miss_Vivi]

"Crazy" is so far removed from referencing actual mental health issues in language now that it really shouldn't be a problem. "Retarded" is still specific enough to be sensitive about. There are words we should definitely be mindful about, like not saying you're raping the competition if you're winning in a game or something trivial. Crazy probably isn't something you should be exerting effort to remove from your vocabulary.

I mean, if you really want to then fine, but that seems like stretching to unnecessary lengths to be politically correct.

It's a ghost!
An annnngggrrrryyyy adorable ghost!

 

[Miss_Vivi]

The Ghost Of Christmas Cranky?

Snicker

But Ahren is so lovable! Like razor blades.

 

[Miss_Vivi]

Nothing wrong with razor blades.Though I prefer shards of glass

giggleblush

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

baby sister~

Today you would have been turning 38. You would be a mom, more than likely, and a damned good one. You would probably still be smoking cigs and weed but I am sure you would no longer be a fan of alcohol.

If you grew up to be what you wanted to be, you would be teaching middle schoolers English or maybe Math and you would be just a bit taller and skinnier than your big sister. (Hell by the time you died at age 12, you were already 3 inches taller than I was at 14.)

I miss you. I really truly miss you but I know that you are around in spirit or in another part of the universe, the world. How can I believe in reincarnation and not think that? You had so much more to learn, to see, to do~ that the idea of you not being here, somewhere, is heart breaking.

But for the first time in an eternity...I know, I feel, you near...and i am blessed and not saddened because I know...that somewhere the essence of you continues. And it makes me hopeful...so very, very hopeful.

I love you. Monza. I miss you and I wish that you were still here in a form that I would know, would recognize. But, my heart is at peace...and so am I.

I will see you in another time, another place, another cycle...and we will be reunited.

Always, your big (little) Sister.

 

[fr33ks33k]

Dear Mz. Youdontevendeservemytimeorangerbutearnitsoeasily,

Yes, I messed up. I did you wrong. I'm over it. I had thought we could be friends, but that was foolish. Now all I want to do is strangle you. Every last word you say, every single time I see you, I am filled with unimaginable anger and the urge to just scream at you until my throat is raw. I clench my fists because I have never hit a woman, and few times have I ever been so tempted. You are a cunt. You are a waste of space. I used to love you, but now all I feel is cold. It's a shame that I'm just coming to this realization on Christmas, when I'm supposed to be merry and full of cheer. Well I've only got one wish: I hope you choke on every single breath you take. I hope you trip and fall flat on your face and break your nose and bleed all over your newest Christmas clothes. I feel vile and I hate it, but I think I hate you more.

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

Dear Jewish Santa
I'm really sorry...but I don't think I'm in the mood for chinese food this year.
Please do not forsake me

-V

Blasphemy!

 

[Annisthyrienne]

I know...
I feel...unclean

That's for after you have the Chinese food.

 

[Scuttle Buttin']

I know...
I feel...unclean

As you should!

 

[DarkWarrioress]

I know...
I feel...unclean

Well the Chinese food should clean you out after awhile. All that roughage.