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[Oldjohnupthehill]

At least you know that those people who send you those photos are picks!

PRICKS! (Predictive text!)

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

In Literotica Chat rooms -- I rarely try to interact in Literotica Lobby -- for me it is just a landing area. I have better luck clicking on the X and finding a room to join that seems more connected to my interests. In those rooms, I will click on a room member's profile to see what they say their interests are; this can be a good segue into a Private chat with that person. Yes, sometimes it is an unsolicited foray to that person, but what the heck, what is the chat for if not to try to make contact? You need to think through what it is you expect from a chat before you initiate contact.

If you are really an 'oldjohn', try the 60+ room. There are usually folks there who want to have conversations.

I have tried some of the rooms, but they seem to be full of males. My "interests" are many and varied, so I have tried quite a few. As for what I expect from the chat, well it would be whatever the woman is comfortable with. No more, no less. Yes, I really am an old John, but not in my mind. Age doesn't matter with written words / chatting. I am not looking for a date or expecting a younger woman to "fancy" me. And I do not want to be categorised as somebody who should only frequent the "Pensioners' Club". If I were looking for companionship, then perhaps, but I'm not. I would chat with any women from young to my own age. I don't need to "perform like a young stud" to chat to a younger woman. It is all make believe anyway.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

I know it might sound 'old-fashioned chat etiquette', but if you see someone in a room that you might like to chat with, whether they are actively chatting in that room or not, how about saying in the room 'Hello (insert nic here)' followed by 'Can I PM you please?' If they reply 'no' or they don't respond, you know not to waste your time, and move on. A bit of 'po-Lit-ness' never hurts anyone, whereas chocolates are always welcome.

There is nobody more polite than me. And I will indeed give that a try. Now then, what kind of chocolates do you like.

 

[ChatBotAlpha]

I will make polite small talk if necessary to anyone on a one to one basis. I do not feel comfortable trying to join in other people's random conversations. That is not why I joined the chat room, which I am now even more convinced than ever by the comments on this thread is a total waste of my time. As previously stated, I shall just concentrate on my stories.

Well, my comment would be if you're not looking for live chat with multiple people your best bet is the forums. You can view the profiles, read people's posts to get a feel for their views, and then message them as you see fit and if it goes well, you can always move to the live chat system of your choice off Literotica.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

I really DO need to explore what forums there are, Chat. I am currently dabbling in the playground

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

I really DO need to explore what forums there are, Chat. I am currently dabbling in the playground

Perhaps you could recommend which forum might be best worth trying, Chat, as the 3 threads I posted on the Playground went down like lead balloons. Or is it just another case of newbies get ignored - just join in with other people's threads and remain invisible? NOBODY will reply to me on threads that have had thousands of answers! Deja vu, here!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I am the moderator in the Playground. I just went looking for your threads and was going to interact and see if we could bump them up.

I don’t think one will get much activity based on the content. Asking for people to talk about any sexual behavior while “young” will get ignored. I think it’s necessary to edit that post to maybe “young adult.” Or, if you truly mean while a child, then the thread isn’t compliant with the rules of Lit. The second thread mentions multiple topics that are also forbidden at Lit. You do mention them as unwelcome in the thread, but I would recommend not mentioning them at all.

There are a lot of fun threads in the Playground. Like everywhere else, it can feel hard to “break in” when you’re new, but it’s a place with a lot of folks and lots of activity.

 

[Quip]

We are absolutely happy to do what we can to help chatters feel welcome and acclimate to chat but that does not mean we can help anyone facilitate the circumvention of Literotica's TOU and site rules, those are specifically why we are asked to moderate these spaces, as equitably as possible. As is often the case, ToPleaseHim's response was succinct and polite, I strongly urge you to consider what she said. I have no desire to shame you, but it does seem that on some level you are aware that your posts potentially violate Lit's TOU as you posted " What very naughty (sex related) thing did you do when you were young? If you 'fess up, perhaps the mods will give you absolution?"
Literotica provides a good deal of leeway to our users in terms of things considered fantasy and the like, but I strongly urge you to consider ToPleaseHim's advice as posting something like that in Literotica Chat would almost certainly result in a ban.

 

[Thesunmaid]

Trust me John I know what you mean...and I rarely mean to say duck.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

We are absolutely happy to do what we can to help chatters feel welcome and acclimate to chat but that does not mean we can help anyone facilitate the circumvention of Literotica's TOU and site rules, those are specifically why we are asked to moderate these spaces, as equitably as possible. As is often the case, ToPleaseHim's response was succinct and polite, I strongly urge you to consider what she said. I have no desire to shame you, but it does seem that on some level you are aware that your posts potentially violate Lit's TOU as you posted " What very naughty (sex related) thing did you do when you were young? If you 'fess up, perhaps the mods will give you absolution?"
Literotica provides a good deal of leeway to our users in terms of things considered fantasy and the like, but I strongly urge you to consider ToPleaseHim's advice as posting something like that in Literotica Chat would almost certainly result in a ban.

You have completely taken my words out of context. Young does not mean underage. I was over 18 when I did that. Which is VERY young, compared to my present age. I was not aware that I was supposed to mention how old I was in every post I make. And as for shaming me, why did you feel that you need to say that? I am quite able to talk to TPH without your joining in. What I posted was meant to be light hearted and a bit of a laugh. But you took it the wrong way. I certainly WAS NOT trying to violate Lit's rules. So I do not need a lecture from you, whoever you may be?

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

I am the moderator in the Playground. I just went looking for your threads and was going to interact and see if we could bump them up.

I don’t think one will get much activity based on the content. Asking for people to talk about any sexual behavior while “young” will get ignored. I think it’s necessary to edit that post to maybe “young adult.” Or, if you truly mean while a child, then the thread isn’t compliant with the rules of Lit. The second thread mentions multiple topics that are also forbidden at Lit. You do mention them as unwelcome in the thread, but I would recommend not mentioning them at all.

There are a lot of fun threads in the Playground. Like everywhere else, it can feel hard to “break in” when you’re new, but it’s a place with a lot of folks and lots of activity.

Thank you, TPH and I certainly did NOT mean as a child. I was an older teenager at the time which IS young to me, as is twenties, thirties, etc.
As regards the other post, I deliberately mentioned those banned topics, plus more, so that they WOULDN'T get mentioned and I got the blame for soliciting potentially banned answers.
Whilst your comment to me is polite and friendly and I heed what you say, rather than my editing the 2 posts, both of which were meant as light hearted bits of fun, I would now rather that you just delete them. In fact, please delete all 3 now. The Playground is not the right place for me. Please read the post that came after yours by Quip and my reply to it and you will perhaps understand why I am fed up of it all?

 

[Amaya_]

What support are you looking for, specifically? Perspectives have been offered as well as tips and tricks that have worked for users that have been considerate enough to respond. I don't believe it is within anyone's power to make people talk to one another in the chat or forum areas, or to remove "feel free to pm" from their profiles. So to clarify...are you seeking specific assistance or to blow off steam?

 

[Quip]

Oldjohnupthehill - I think you misconstrued what I said somewhat, I apologize if I was somehow unclear. People can easily become confused by what is written here and I wanted to make sure it was clear that were that your intention, that would be an issue. I was not accusing you of said issue. It's why I cited what you said in order to provide context. That's all. I'm one of the three admins for Literotica Chat currently, I'm often active in the lobby and happy to help.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

Oldjohnupthehill - I think you misconstrued what I said somewhat, I apologize if I was somehow unclear. People can easily become confused by what is written here and I wanted to make sure it was clear that were that your intention, that would be an issue. I was not accusing you of said issue. It's why I cited what you said in order to provide context. That's all. I'm one of the three admins for Literotica Chat currently, I'm often active in the lobby and happy to help.

Okay Quip, I accept your apology and thank you for it. But I did feel as if I was being vilified for saying "when you were young" and then not adding in brackets (BUT OVER 18!) I wasn't aware that this was necessary every time the word "young" is written anywhere? I thought that people would have enough common sense? Instead I felt like you were looking for faults and your tone came across to me as condescending (whether this was intentional or not) and I am old enough and intelligent enough not to need talking down to. TPH managed this. You didn't. And when you unnecessarily brought "shame" into the equation, I thought, "This is ridiculous - I mentioned the word 'young' and you try and make me feel like Gary Fucking Glitter!" THIS is why I was so pissed off!
Hope you understand if you look at it from my end?

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

What support are you looking for, specifically? Perspectives have been offered as well as tips and tricks that have worked for users that have been considerate enough to respond. I don't believe it is within anyone's power to make people talk to one another in the chat or forum areas, or to remove "feel free to pm" from their profiles. So to clarify...are you seeking specific assistance or to blow off steam?

I am not looking for any support and I have replied to everyone who was good enough to comment and been thankful for any useful advice. I don't expect anything from anybody, except good manners, - if they don't want to chat, just tell me, instead of ignoring me. I expect the same from others as I would give to them. But obviously my expectations have been far too high. In the "chat" (? - that's a joke!) site and the Playground I am the invisible man and on the latter, I do not call adding yes or no to a list of thousands of replies and getting ignored "stimulating conversation"!
In fact, the only kind of conversation I have had is on THIS forum and it is not the kind of conversation that I joined the chat site for. I have wasted enough of my time chasing the unattainable. I now wish to move on.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

Where has Villain's comment gone?
Was he telling me to fuck off?

 

[_Villain_]

Where has Villain's comment gone?
Was he telling me to fuck off?

No. I changed my mind about what I was going to say.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

No. I changed my mind about what I was going to say.

In that case I can't reply to it. I will reply to every comment out of courtesy. THIS is the very courtesy that I expected from others but did not get.

 

[Thesunmaid]

And if Villain is willing to not pick a fight perhaps it would be a good idea to follow that. So, sorry that you have not found what you are looking for in chat John I hope you do find it perhaps on the forum. Good luck.

 

[Oldjohnupthehill]

And if Villain is willing to not pick a fight perhaps it would be a good idea to follow that. So, sorry that you have not found what you are looking for in chat John I hope you do find it perhaps on the forum. Good luck.

Neither am I. It may not have been a fight he was saying. Just replying to every comment out of courtesy, as I doing with you. I am not interested in fighting with anybody, but I reserve the right to exercise my free speech should I disagree with anybody or feel uncomfortable with anything that has been said to me. That is not picking a fight. Perhaps it would be best if you closed comments on this thread? Then I will not have to answer at all?

 

[Quip]

Done.