Are the same few people ruining your Lit experience?

[THROBBS]

Who?

Feel the sting.

 

[Diosax]

jaFO is a mod? Saints preserve us......

What lit rock have you been living under?

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Not into skinny ties and scooters.

 

[BongoGal]

Not into skinny ties and scooters.

I'm a mocker.

 

[wallstreetguy]

It's my own fault for various things I post and various PMs I respond to (or ignore).

 

[Lord Pmann]

I do miss this thread.

 

[PlanetaryNebula]

I do miss this thread.

I miss you Martha

 

[Misshotndeep]

I do miss this thread.

Aim better.

 

[jaF0]

Did you miss me Al?

With every shot so far Peg.

 

[Crankbait88]

After reading through this, I have put EVERYONE who posted in this thread on ignore except for Lord Pmann.

 

[StillRain]

After reading through this, I have put EVERYONE who posted in this thread on ignore except for Lord Pmann.

My what a big…. list you have.

 

[Dribble]

Why isn’t there a blocking feature on Lit? Ignoring someone doesn’t stop them from looking at my content which is what would be most helpful.

You do realize you can access the site anonymously and not be logged in.

 

[AnnieLit]

Why isn’t there a blocking feature on Lit? Ignoring someone doesn’t stop them from looking at my content which is what would be most helpful.

Actually, there is a feature like that. You can't stop people from seeing your posts if they happen upon them in a thread, but you can easily prevent them from being able to go and look up all your recent posts. It is up to you who can see your profile and the recent activity pages - you can set it to everyone or to the "friends only" setting.

 

[gga]

Actually, there is a feature like that. You can't stop people from seeing your posts if they happen upon them in a thread, but you can easily prevent them from being able to go and look up all your recent posts. It is up to you who can see your profile and the recent activity pages - you can set it to everyone or to the "friends only" setting.

Thank you for the info!

Be aware though, that while this will prevent someone from seeing your posts via your profile page, it's not foolproof. The Search function (by member name) will still show all your posts. (It won't show your other activity, such as reactions.)

 

[gga]

Thank you for telling me this! Once again though, what is the reasoning behind offering these options but not a simple “Block” feature like most social media? It seems simpler, and the fact that this is a sexual social media site, more important as well.

Probably because it's simply a generic, though customizable, web site, as opposed to something like Facebook (of which I am not a user.)

Also, as mentioned up thread, the site can be browsed anonymously which would circumvent any blocks you may have put on someone.

 

[BongoGal]

Should you be thinking, “But, TPH, this forum is to discuss personals, not politics!” Shall I delete every thread and comment that is not discussing personals? That’s nearly the entire Playground…

Golly! It's almost as if The Playground should be its own thing and not connected to Literotica Personals!

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Muh fuckers ruining Lit thats why I am here to maximize that good shit!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Golly! It's almost as if The Playground should be its own thing and not connected to Literotica Personals!

Alas, they have been connected since they were created.

 

[BongoGal]

Alas, they have been connected since they were created.

And, alas, that means that changes cannot be made. The Forums are forever set in stone.
Except when changes are made, like suddenly creating a Politics Board, of course.
That's different...because reasons and stuff. Alas!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

And, alas, that means that changes cannot be made. The Forums are forever set in stone.
Except when changes are made, like suddenly creating a Politics Board, of course.
That's different...because reasons and stuff. Alas!

I mean, go for it. Never hurts to ask.

 

[BongoGal]

I mean, go for it. Never hurts to ask.

Ha ha! I know! Ha ha!

 

[Mo_Bandy]

What you call ruining I call living.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I had someone stalking me and harassing me on Literotica in the past. Even when I tried to block them, they somehow messaged me from a different account. This is why I'm kinda cautious when it comes to talking to people online now. But I have a few people on my ignored list.

So when you posted this

https://forum.literotica.com/posts/96735716/

And made everybody think you were new, you were lying?

It is people that do this sort of thing that ruin the Lit experience for many people.

I am sorry that you were stalked and harassed. If it effected you that badly that you had to delete your old account, why come back with a different name. A different username does not change who you are or who the other users are. That same person can stalk and harass you again. Do the logical thing and report their behaviour. Yes they can come back with a different name but at least you aren’t having to then pretend to be somebody else. Reporting their behaviour may mean that they don’t get to stalk and harass somebody else. The phrase “I’m alright, Jack” seems to fit here!

You have made me cross and if you are ever on the receiving end of harassment or stalking again, you won’t have my support. You acted selfishly in my opinion

 

[AmberLGreen]

Something got me a little fired up today and it has been a while since I got on my soap box so here goes…

Things that I think contribute to other people having their Lit experience ruined

The “New piece of ass welcome committee”
Guys, you know who you are. When a new person comes along, you don’t need to add them to your wank bank straight away. Let them settle in and find their way around. You lavish all this attention on them within the first month and then suddenly that attention stops and they wonder what they did wrong so they leave or they get bitter about the guys being disrespectful. They can’t e-fuck you all at the same time and I am sure you wouldn’t want that either. You don’t need to be the first. Spread the attention out a little. If they are up for having fun with multiple partners, then you will get your turn. If they aren’t here for that, then you have spared yourself some embarrassment.

The “I’m just here for fun” brigade
Ladies, be honest with yourselves. A lady comes along and is posting about just wanting to have fun, be slutty, enjoy as many men as they can and then three weeks later is posting about how they fell in love and have had their heartbroken. The guy is a total douchebag for dumping them. Well, surprise! He isn’t a douchebag. He is probably a nice guy who also just wanted fun. At the start of things, you tell him you just want fun and he lets you know he wants the same. Then you start to get feelings and he is putting on his running shoes and out the door before you can blink. He was honest with you but you weren’t honest with him. Now I understand that sometimes feelings come up when you really weren’t expecting them to but don’t blame him for that.

The “Dog in a manger” syndrome
You don’t want them (or they don’t want you) but you can’t let them move on. Relationships go bad sometimes but that doesn’t give anybody the right to stop another person moving on. You aren’t with them anymore for a reason. Whether you accept that reason or not, it is in the past. Let them get on with their lives and you get on with yours. Everybody has a past, present and future and the only part you should concern yourself with is the present. Also, those that keep several people hanging on in the hope that something may develop. Don’t keep them hanging on just because you want a back up for a day when you might not be getting all the attention you want/need. Let them know there is never going to be anything between you in a romantic/sexual way and then they can go and find their happiness.

The “I don’t know who I am” complex
This is the thing that has me fired up today. Coming back as a different user and pretending you are new. Why? What purpose does this serve? If your previous Lit experience was that bad that you feel you don’t want to be identified, why come back at all? Is it that attention you get as a new user that you crave and need to have constantly? Did you do something so bad you think people won’t forgive you? Do you think you are so special that people really give a fuck? Be whoever you want to be, do whatever you want to do but don’t try to deceive others. I automatically give respect to people but by doing this type of thing, that respect is totally gone. Deceitful liars do not deserve any respect. Sometimes I think people do it because they didn’t fit in or weren’t received how they wanted to be the first time around. A change of name won’t change that. Your personality is still the same!

The “I didn’t know it was a sex site” posse
This one always leaves me shocked. People complaining about what they receive messages about. Now sure, there are some which are absolutely shocking and should be reported but the majority of what I see people complaining about are just the norm. Getting a PM from a guy saying he would like to fuck your ass on a site like this is not something that should have you screaming “inappropriate” or “creepy” or “disrespectful”. If you want him to ask for your recipe for mac and cheese, join a fucking cooking forum.

I realise I have gone on a little bit, so if you did read all that, thank you and apologies. Obviously, each of those things can be reversed so it isn’t just men doing one thing and women doing another. We are all people and our behaviour is not defined by our genitalia.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I won’t quote the whole thing because I’m just too lazy
But I agree with 90% of what you posted @AmberLGreen!
The one thing we differ on is the last bit. Being on a sex based site is not a free-for-all pass to be as raunchy as you want with complete strangers. Respect and consent should still be common sense.
Now, one odd message here and there is one thing and you can easily just delete the message and move on but I do feel like it’s valid to get the creeps or find someone to be disrespectful if they have 0 respect in sending a message.
Gimme all the filthy pervy fun but I’m not an object, I’m a person and boundaries are valid , even on a sex site

I agree, being here does not mean people can say whatever they want to you. There are some things that are very disrespectful and persistently messaging somebody who clearly isn’t interested is not appropriate.

If you post a picture of your ass, and a guy messages you saying “you have a fuckable ass” is he being disrespectful or inappropriate? It is when people complain about those types of messages that make me roll my eyes. They make out like the guy is a creep for saying that to them. Things should be taken in context