Are there ANY personals ads on this board?

[Georgia Girl]

I have stated what I believe the personals board to be made up of. That is my opinion of them.

I have no desire to destroy a good place for good people to associate. I also am not concerned regarding the perception of those who don't know me.

Have a nice day.

Dawn

 

[LipstickKitten]

Re: Re: I give up

Like I am getting anywhere?

Thank you for trying to help. I think that you have a few good points, but one thing that everyone isn't realizing is that this board is outlined clearly in the link I posted above..... on the welcome thread.

But honestly.... Laurel probably could give a rats ass. I only care about those who are being left out, because they wouldn't know to come here.

It isn't worth starting WWIII over.

No one is being repressed, and no one will be forced to stop having fun.

Relax.

Deep breaths...



Thanks again for trying to help. I am really falling out of having any interest in more involvment, because I think that there will be those who feel persecuted, no matter how just, and fair and honest the matter at hand is presented, and I am tired of people being irrational. It gets old.

Thanks. Took my deep breaths. They help, though with throat muscles recently operated on, they couldn't be as deep as I'd like.

Anyway, I just wish the people in GB who are so exorcised over being misled about the goings on in here would realize that it was unintentional. I can't think that anyone intentionally began posting GB-like threads with the idea that it would be hidden from anyone. It never crossed my mind in the least when I began posting in the threads that existed when I started here.

I simply saw it as another board to post in. I visited all of the boards (and still do from time to time) to see what's new and unjustly assumed everyone else did the same.

With a few exceptions, people here do not think of the GB posters as monsters as has been said repeatedly on the General Board. I have quite a few friends from the RPs who post almost exclusively on the GB. How could they be friends if I think they're monsters?

Alas, you and I are battling the same battle but from different perspectives. I personally don't have a problem with a new board being started up and have said so in a PM to Laurel and an email to the webmaster, neither of whom have responded to me.

I know there are those that post here in the Personals that don't want it changed. So I guess we're at a standstill until the owners of the site decide what they want to do.

Friends? <extending hand>

 

[espressolover]

I'm a peacekeeper too.
I'm with ya.

 

[freescorfr]

Good common sense rules again. This is a self-organising system.

So for a short time I've updated my footer. You girls always ask for too much!! So I'm being less demanding.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Pardon me.....

if I seemed to have my ducks all sorts of wadded up but to me the whole battle is equivalent to destroying something beautiful because you don't understand it or it doesn't fit with what you believe it should be.

Each of us faces battles and struggles in RL daily, for many Lit is a haven, I know it is for me. This within itself seems reason enough to try and keep the battles over small issues to a minimum. As the saying goes "Don't sweat the small stuff, its all small stuff"

Dawn

PS: I shall attend to reordering my ducks.

 

[on_the_verge]

Re: Pardon me.....

As the saying goes "Don't sweat the small stuff, its all small stuff"

Dawn

PS: I shall attend to reordering my ducks.

Actually, I would say," Don't sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things."

Life is a wonderful thing, where we don't have to be chained to particular causes or dictatorships. You just take a feather from the peaceful duck in the pond and feather the rawness of the nature that surrounds it.

Moral ethics and codes can be the very poison as the cleansing might disinfect, but it also ruins the very *dirt* we adore. Nothing is all that it is supposed to be and you adapt, gather and cultivate your own set of rules from experience and to hopefully respect it all…to a degree.

You don't need an ad to get *personal* just smile and open your eyes (silently express I am approachable) if you want another to follow within your dreams or vices…

Now, save the cheap shots for the "duck gallery" at the circus.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: There is no sign.....

banning anyone from posting what they wish to post on this board. Many of us do in fact post to other boards also. This is not an exclusive community and we are not to fault for others not coming over and taking the time to read the threads that are here. We have our own form of personals here, if you read the information written by someone you get a very good idea of that person, more than you would get from a few lines of condensed type forming a personal ad, but hey, we can be accomadating as well, so just to make you happy look at the sig line and there is your personal ad.


Happy now?

Dawn

Dawn, I couldnt have said it better myself!!!

I mean come on people, we are all adults and it is almost amusing that people are not liking the fact that there is socializing going on here and a "hidden community". Let's be realistic! There is nothing hidden here, its right there for all to click on and read and post. There is no secret password to be allowed to post here. Nope, no secrets. No one is going to hold anyone's hand and lead them to places they are and are not "ALLOWED" to post. This forum is all about free speech, utilize that verbage and post what you want, where you want it! If anyone is feeling "left out" of a "community" they have no one to blame but themselves for not being more social. Sure, this is a personal ad board, but come on people!!! Like it is really hurting someone THAT badly because friendships are formed, love is being found, lust is being satisfied and laughter is being had. By all means, speak your opinions but why try to start conflict where there is no NEED for it? I read different boards on this forum and post to what *I* want to reply to etc... If using the personal ad board has feathers in a ruffle, then don't you think that the owners or the mods would have done something about it BY NOW??? I am sure they are as amused at the junior high banter going on. Real life is stressful enough, there is enough hate and anger to go around. Why can't people just go about their business and make friends from any board, regardless of its title?? I think you can get to know someone in some of these threads that are casual conversation. If someone is PMing people about how upset they are that this board is being used as a social society, then have the balls to post your own thread stating your anguish! Or better yet, keep bumping your thread so it stays on top!

Gawd, I need to shut up now....but just be happy people...***** IS TOO SHORT to worry and be upset about trivial issues especially on the internet!! Smile, be happy, be safe!!!

Lixx and love to all!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Pardon me.....

You don't need an ad to get *personal* just smile and open your eyes (silently express I am approachable) if you want another to follow within your dreams or vices…

Now that is an excellent (and extremely true) statement!!

 

[geri]

Re: Re: There is no sign.....

I think some of you need to realize that this is all just people voicing how they feel. If you don't like it, fine, but don't be ridiculous about what is being said to you.

Some very good advice that you, yourself, might wish to take. We, too are only expressing out feelings and opinions but, because they differ from those of you who have been here for a long time and have some kind of persecution complex thinking that we are trying to hide than we are wrong.

I write in the Carolina thread. I have met good friends there. I am still meeting good friends there. Two more have just joined the thread. If I had stopped posting after finding just one or two friends and moved that friendship over to another board I would have missed those that followed. I am still seeking friends here and, in writing in this thread, I am doing just that.

I also plan on continuing to do just that and to keep on posting here because I can never have too many friends.

Now think about this. Your posts and those of Cheyenne on the GB and here have now drawn attention to the kinds of threads that are in the personals. Yay...right? Not so...the kind of attention they have drawn, while alerting others to a new 'community' as you decribe us to be, have given a negative flavor to us and our posting and driven a division even further between the GB and personals forums. So, instead of waving to the others on the GB and saying...'Hey, guess what...there are some really neat threads over on the personals, you might want to check out what you are missing' you have instead said,'those damn people in the personals forum are hiding out not wanting to talk to us old timers. What have they got to hide?'

If stated right everyone would now know to come over and explore...what I assumed was the purpose of this thread in the first place. Now we will be more divided than ever.

 

[on_the_verge]

I use to post in the GB, but I started in the personals. I have returned to the personals, because it's just more fucking personal to *me* Some things and people work for others and vice versa. Lit is not the defacto, but part of the online eco-system. I hate it when people feel like they have to rain on the parade, but such is life. If we really wanted to bridge the divide, we *should* recognize we desire the "same" basic things, no? Be a true friend and you might have a confident for life. It's the real deal so to speak—at least for me.

Geri, *YOU ROCK*

I am here to meet friends and maybe gather some R/L ones, but that is work in itself. If I wanted politics I would go to CNN. I can't add more to what Geri and the others wrote at the moment. Think positive, be positive and share positive. Allow that warmth and embrace to grow into a comfortinf jadedness and mystery the night has to offer…

 

[Renegade]

I'm surprised but I'm getting PMs from people over here thanking me for starting this thread. There are frustrated people who WANT to use the personals board for personals.

Wish they would have told me or Mackdaddy sooner about any complaints they have on how the board is run. We've been very lenient in the past about what kind of threads can and can't be posted because there were no complaints. Now that it seems to no longer be the case, it seems we'll have to be more strict on what can be allowed on the Personals.

Having threads like the ones in question can help people, who don't visit the Gen board, meet others by talking/flirting with them on the Personals board. When I used to RP a lot, there where several threads with no RPing in them which where posted to the SRP forum (still are, last time I checked). So I can tell you from expierence that these threads can help people meet others that they normally wouldn't if the threads weren't there. People are meeting others due to these threads, and that's the purpose of the Personals in the first place.

But, it's obviously gotten to the point where those who just wish to start the traditional Personal ADs feel there are too many threads of this nature on the board. And back when things where stricter, there where many complaints about the fun being taken out of the board due to threads being closed or moved often. Kinda shows that you can't please everybody.

So I'm going to move a couple of threads which can easily fit into another board, but I'll leave things pretty much the same for now. And I'm going to ask those who start threads of this nature to please keep the conversations to a few threads and not start as many in the future. As many at Lit have liked to say in the past: Everything in moderation.

 

[Starfish]

Uh. I have not given my opinon in this matter. I have given the opinions of others that are upset and are insulted by the ongoings in a different thread. Don't be confused by that and don't tie in this issue to my name, as if I am the one who is upset or is making these complaints. I am mediating. I am stating it as it is, and if you don't like it, than you have issues with what the rest of the world calls the truth. If you don't get the point about this board being 'hidden' than you are plain blind. People come to the lit board and look a the headers. They don't click on the one that says BSDM talk if they aren't into that. Wouldn't it be a sad thing if behind that title, there was a group of people there who chatted and posted only about Cooking and Recipies? Sad for those who wouldn't know to look at a BSDM section for it.


Those of you who will not look at the complaint made, and see the reason for it, aren't going to see the problem, or care about it enough to think about it.

Instead you are going to jump in and shout out that you are disgusted that anyone would have a problem with people posting to this board in a manner that this board was not intended for.

Your choice.

I am not foolish enough to think that any of you would care, because if you had, you would have read the welcome thread, and saw for yourself what this board was intended for.


So, since you don't know, I don't give a flying rats ass what happens on this board, so therefore it is ineffectual to tell me that I should heed advice that I gave, when I have not once downed a person here for stating anything. I have simply corrected errors. Big difference. I've been told to 'grow up' and the like. That is what I call really plausable.

Not one of you have seen the point that has been made for what it is.

That is your problem, not mine.

Later.

 

[Starfish]

Even though the answer is probably no, if you really want my opinion, I think this board should be left in tact and shouldn't be changed, but for one thing...

In the discription of the board it should somehow indicate that this is a community so that outsiders and new people know that this isn't just an ad section and that they can find general topics here too.

That is all I think needs to be done, but what do I matter?

In all of this, from the beginning, I've tried to mediate and help those over here see the other side of the coin, and those on the GB to see where you guys are coming from, and I've been spoken to like I am an instigator, a flamer and what is worse, a child. That is really the kind of thing that makes a person feel really welcome.

 

[StormySkies]

I jioned Literotica in October of 2001. The main reason I jioned is I read a few of the different areas in the personals board and liked what I read. The people seem friendly and happy most of the time. There isnt alot of fights. And it seems like a great place to meet new people.

Granted I havnt realy posted much. Actually just started and have yet to meet too many people. But I am sure that will change.

I placed a personal on here in the personal board. Granted I havnt bumped it up yet. To be honest with you I never thought of doing that. LOL.. But now I will. And it never bothered me in the least that it got buried.

I am hoping that this board doesnt change I like the different posting and being able to read them and respond if I choose too.

I am all for keeping this board the way it is. And the people that are here seem great!!!!!!

Anyways just my two cents worth.

Hugs all,
Amy

 

[floridaguy64]

Re: There is no sign.....

banning anyone from posting what they wish to post on this board. Many of us do in fact post to other boards also. This is not an exclusive community and we are not to fault for others not coming over and taking the time to read the threads that are here. We have our own form of personals here, if you read the information written by someone you get a very good idea of that person, more than you would get from a few lines of condensed type forming a personal ad, but hey, we can be accomadating as well, so just to make you happy look at the sig line and there is your personal ad.


Happy now?

Dawn

~my new personal ad~

Passive aggressive switch seeks kinky fun with anal retentive male. Stamina required to satisfy this bodacious kitten! Inquire within.


Well Hell, Lil' Lady................ I'll be the first to say, Hell Yeah!......... I'm happy now........... just so's as long as you bring that purty lil ole butt of yurs up here to Atlanta now and again!


WANTED:

Woman that looks fantastic in "DO ME" pumps.......... is not affraid to engage in forms of non-painfull, very open and usually considered non-traditional sexual activities............. Knows how to cook (must I ALWAYS be the one in the kitchen?) .......... Is extremely loyal............ Is never to tired to snuggle the day or night away............ owns boat and motor................................

Please send photo of yourself, scantilly clad wearing the do-me pumps, inside boat!

There!................ my first personal ad............. hehehe!

 

[Renegade]

That is really the kind of thing that makes a person feel really welcome.

Want me to start a Personals thread for you?

Heck, I was surprised to see that this was such a big deal to some members myself and was with you in that some need to see both side of the coin. Aside from there being too many threads that don't really belong here as of late, I never really saw what the problem was for the most part. But, like I said, there have been too many of these threads as of late so ya gotta moderate. So things'll be the same in some ways, but slightly different in others. Hopefully, it'll be for the better.

This is what I get for taking time off. Damn real life. *smirks*

 

[lovetoread]

Let me see if I got this straight.

Those with posts totals way above most of the others get to tell you what to do?

You had no problems with the threads.

We had no problems with the threads.

But because the long standing members of the GB tell you this isnt right we have to be moved?

Good gawd.

 

[Starfish]

Cute Ren. Rembember our Ads of yore. LOL.

Actually, it is funny, but I honestly think this place is great, and wouldn't want a thing to change. It is nice to see a place where people can have fun and not worry about politics, world hunger, and the War in Afganistan.

What about this?

Under the header out on the door... say....

A place to meet other literoticans for friendship or more in a community setting.


????

Or

A community to meet other literoticans for friendship or more.

??

Something to that effect.
Then no one can complain about what is posted over here.

Just a thought.

How have you been Ren??? Long time no posting..

Did you get a job? LOL.

 

[Renegade]

But because the long standing members of the GB tell you this isnt right we have to be moved?

Nope. It's because there are those who post to the Personals forum that do have a problem with the threads. Most of the threads are staying, but threads about ones favorite position and other subject matter that don't have anything to do with the Personals are being moved to the General Board.

 

[on_the_verge]

I am not sure, but there are ways to be so kind and to believe someone actually has good intentions. Other times, I have been in places, like the office, where people pretend to be a friend, then they snuff you in the end. I think the balance of the personals will begin to be tainted because people decided how it should be governed to their own ideals.

I hope the personals grow. After all things change and one must adapt to survive. But, I strongly believe in the personals as they are and I am sorry it was spoiled a bit by undue causes. Perhaps moderation is good, but not dictatorship or the feeling that we have to adhere to a set standard, when there really are none, but set forth as of late.

We should name the thread," Get what you want and if not, come in here."

 

[Renegade]

Cute Ren. Rembember our Ads of yore. LOL.

Ah, yes. Those were the days. LOL

Actually, it is funny, but I honestly think this place is great, and wouldn't want a thing to change. It is nice to see a place where people can have fun and not worry about politics, world hunger, and the War in Afganistan.

What about this?

Under the header out on the door... say....

A place to meet other literoticans for friendship or more in a community setting.


????

Or

A community to meet other literoticans for friendship or more.

??

Something to that effect.
Then no one can complain about what is posted over here.

Just a thought.

I like the way the place is myself. But I do think some threads should be moved, and that'll be handled on a case by case basis. A disclaimer such as that would definatly save me a lot of time it would seem. Should probably put one up when I have the chance. We'll see.

How have you been Ren??? Long time no posting..

Did you get a job? LOL.

A job? I wish. LOL

And I'm doing okay, just been busy. Actually need to get offline in a minute but want to try and resolve things here a little before going.

 

[Renegade]

Perhaps moderation is good, but not dictatorship or the feeling that we have to adhere to a set standard, when there really are none, but set forth as of late.

Moderation is definatly what I'm going for with this. Believe me, I was going to leave things be till I found out that some who actually use the Personals forum also had a problem with the number of conversation threads as of late. So I'm hoping that we'll be able to cut the number of such threads down a little. Not going to be able to please everybody, of course, but we'll see what happens.

 

[Guest]

Does anybody know some similar sites I could go to and meet people? Looks like the cops are coming to raid this joint and the partys over.

What a pisser.

 

[on_the_verge]

Moderation is definatly what I'm going for with this. Believe me, I was going to leave things be till I found out that some who actually use the Personals forum also had a problem with the number of conversation threads as of late. So I'm hoping that we'll be able to cut the number of such threads down a little. Not going to be able to please everybody, of course, but we'll see what happens.

Well, at least you can cut down on server space too. Besides, you know best with your space and bandwidth quotas. Actually, the GB needs paring down as I can see there are a few how to's and amateur feedback threads that need to be regulated. You have to be fair to all, then start making the hard choices on what is best. I think it would be nice to see a slimmer and more robust lit, but only if it for the whole and not one person's ideals.

You wonder when a person comes in and posts a thread like this and does not even contribute to the "personals forum," but to this one, hmmm? Debauchery! It's the BOston Tea Party!

 

[TigerClaw]

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