Audible Arousal

[talldad1]

Well, then, maybe it makes me awkward at it.

It's all about the relationship you have with the person, it's really hard to be good at it when you don't know the person.

 

[shanier]

It doesn't seem to matter whether I know the person well or not. I just can't put together words in that state.

But I do love when my lover's breathing changes...I also love all the other audible cues.

 

[VanessaVixen]

Well, then, maybe it makes me awkward at it.

It doesn't have to be awkward, though, I guess is what we're saying to you. Many people get nonverbal when very aroused. If you're with a partner who knows that's your way, it can definitely be accomodated as part of the play. Especially if you're capable of giving yes or no answers to questions or following instructions, but even without that, some partners will be happy just to hear you cum when you reach that point.

 

[talldad1]

It doesn't seem to matter whether I know the person well or not. I just can't put together words in that state.

But I do love when my lover's breathing changes...I also love all the other audible cues.

Yes, I mean having the satisfying phone sex does not depend on the words, the breathign and other small sounds will do, but really only if you know and trust your partner. But then it can be very intense.

 

[shanier]

It doesn't have to be awkward, though, I guess is what we're saying to you. Many people get nonverbal when very aroused. If you're with a partner who knows that's your way, it can definitely be accomodated as part of the play. Especially if you're capable of giving yes or no answers to questions or following instructions, but even without that, some partners will be happy just to hear you cum when you reach that point.

It is awkward for me, though, because I *want* to be able to talk (only sometimes) and can't. It takes me out of the moment.

I appreciate the other sounds and even love them; I just feel like something is missing. I guess.

 

[talldad1]

It doesn't have to be awkward, though, I guess is what we're saying to you. Many people get nonverbal when very aroused. If you're with a partner who knows that's your way, it can definitely be accomodated as part of the play. Especially if you're capable of giving yes or no answers to questions or following instructions, but even without that, some partners will be happy just to hear you cum when you reach that point.

Yes, very much so.

 

[gabriel16]

sounds

Silent lovemaking is so so uninteresting.

 

[ManInIronMask]

Silent lovemaking is so so uninteresting.

Amen. Love making has to cater to all senses - touch, taste, smell, sight and sound and lastly, imagination. And if it is long distance like on lit, only the last two really work wonders!

 

[GBPFan1975]

Hearing a woman moan in pleasure during sex and/or masturbating is a huge turn-on for this guy. I love hearing it. When a woman moans during sex and starts breathing harder for an oncoming orgasm, it is about enough to set me off.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I will say it. I want a woman to make some noise. I love dirty talk, but most women in my experience are not into that. But silence is a turn-off.

This is true for me in real life and in porn. The phrase "just lay there" is the worst review I can imagine for a lover.

I remember in college hearing about a girl in our dorm who was a "screamer". I could never get that out of my mind.

And I also remember staying in a motel next door to a couple and hearing them fucking for what seemed like hours. The sound that woman was making got me so turned on.

I understand about controlling yourself if you have to be discrete, but if there are no kids nearby and you have privacy, I want a partner who lets me know she is alive!

 

[prettiprinces76]

I will say it. I want a woman to make some noise. I love dirty talk, but most women in my experience are not into that.

I like dirty talk. It can't be the contrived, run-of-the-mill dirty talk. I want the dirty tak to be in the moment and meaningful. I would tell my soon-to-be ex, during sex, that the feeling of how his balls hit my clit or my ass as we were making love was awesome and that he should fuck me harder. Or I would whisper a play by play into his ear as I was riding him, telling him exactly what I was going to do to him and how it felt to me. Or the best, when we were engaging in anal and I would tell him how naughty it felt and how I felt like his dirty little girl that needed a big dick in her ass to keep her happy..... (getting turned by thinking of this *le sigh* )

The point I am trying to make is that in the moment, dirty talk has its place as long as it not demeaning or humilitating (even then, if that's your thing, go for it!) I find all sounds of arousal, verbal and non-verbal, incredibly arousing.

 

[sirlixalot3369]

Personally, with me... I am totally aroused by the sounds a woman makes when she is being pleasured.... It is just as important as the facial feedback.... call me crazy... but I love it

 

[ManInIronMask]

I couldn't resist using soundcloud and uploading a sample - http://soundcloud.com/maninironmask/arne-intro

 

[MagicFlute]

Generally i am fairly quiet during the act. This is due to two reasons. I've always found the excessive grunts, moans, screams in 80's porn movies to be a huge turn off. When the noise is genuine (and you can usually tell if it is) that is a huge turn on But i think some people believe they have to make noise so they do even if they aren't feeling it. I hate fake. But also I don't make a lot of noise myself because I'm Putting all my energy and focus on pleasuring my partner. If I can get them to moan and shudder and whimper with pleasure then I'm fully satisfied. Mind you there have been times when someone has caught me off guard and I've exclaimed Lovely with surprised delight. But that's another story. And i know she enjoys it when i do.